Well mink1987...firstly your bf should not just expect a blow job off you and then when you tell him you are not satisfied he just laughs it off....Tell him it is serious and get him to use a vibrator on you whilst either playing with your clitoris or licking it trust me it works great.... Jenny

I cant orgasm unless I do it myself too. Once in a while when my hubby and I are having sex I will but it takes me forever to cum and its frustrating!!!!

I am quite the opposite really....I come really quickly Can't help it Lol

your so lucky!!!! I wish I did!

Im the complete opposite. i can orgasm all day long during regular penetration but something about oral sex won't allow me to release like normal penetration. i don't understand. its completely pleasurable and even if he varies it up and does different tricks *i give him 9.5 out of 10 cuz there is always room for improvement* i still can't seem to climax like i do with his penis inside of me. why is that? its more of a baby orgasm than an actual one. if he uses his fingers and his tongue its fine.. works great but not just oral. do i NEED penetration??

Well to everyone who is able to orgasm easily i envy u.
Any techiniques that i could use on me, as ive never orgasmed. I am unable to do it myself as well. Is there something wrong with me.
Im 21 and since reading all the posts on here, i feel like im just starting out.

hi mnx1987 have you tried in the shower with the shower head on the one stream thats really hard? if not try it if you play a while with it you should hit ur spot on ur clit that makes you jump when you do play and play until you reach an orgasm. it's add. to me i normally use that when i feel horny or stressed it helps alittle but of coarse i'd rather have the real deal! A MAN! i'm a single mother of 2kids 5&3yrs old so i hardly do anything without them so men are last on my mind! for now! but just try it n play with cold & hot/warm water while doing it it should help ur sex life do it be for you and ur husband start so u will be turned on alittle already and your clit will be alittle sensitive aswell so it might help when he starts his thing. hope it works!!!

we have sex all the time, actually more then needed. like this morning we stop did it in the car, i turn him on all the time and i dont know if its me or him that isnt meeting expectaions because i can not have an orgasim. i do think about having an orgasim when having sex but i dont know why i suddenly stop coming.? why?? cuz it really bothers us and he somtime just has intercose untill he can come but he says hes not satified. could we be having too much sex? to the point we can't be pleased anymore??

it looks like a lot more of us have this problem then i though i have to fake it to and think god my bf dose not the diff i love him and god know he try and can go for ever i have been having sex for years and have only cam 3 times with a man. i can do it my self with my v-ball i love it and wish my bf could do the same when we have sex. i dont have any way to help us but i can say GOOD LUCK TO US ALL and who knows one day we to can cum all the time like some... luck you

If your BF laughs when you tell him you're not satisfied, I would walk away from that relationship. Or try really hard to get him to try and please you. I had a similar problem with my boyfriend only wanting to receive and not give, I stopped doing it. I also started leaving him UN-finished in bed. I would get up and just leave right before he climaxed to show him how it felt to be left unsatisfied. That's when things started to change.

I just wanted to add my input, I have only once in my life been able to reach an orgasim with a man who I realllllllyyy liked. For me it is pretty hit or miss, I can have them in my sleep now but that is pretty much it. I love my boyfriend butI guess I do not trust him as much as I wantto becuase for me it is all in the mind and I have to be 0 in love.

i cant orgasm. no matter what i do. it is extremly frustrating because i will even reach a certain point where it feels wicked good and then it just disappears as fast as it came. i have had some bad sexual expierences and wonder if this can prevent me from orgasming. is there something wrong with me?

I'm 34 years old have had many partners i'm currently with the best partner yet and I get really excited and wet but I just have never had an orgasim, we have tried lots of different positions I feel like i get close since at times I feel like I have to pee and I make him stop because I can't take it feel like I want to cry. I love sex I went maybe 7 years where I didn't want to have sex and could live with out it I was molested for 7 years is that why I can't seem to climax?

An orgasm is a private thing...It is not two people, it is only you....He with his love making, allows you as a woman to release that special part of yourself...It must be the unguarded woman...The woman who can be wild as the wind....One who loves and trusts this man with her soul...Knows no shame...Feels that she is the ultimate perfection in a woman.....Only when you can do this can you truly achieve a hot sexual orgasm....

Caroline

Everyone has some really good points on here.
I agree with them all.
The ones who can do it lucky u.
Frustrated im with u i get to a stage where i feel like i want to pee and im so worries that thats what it is and thats what will happen that i make him stop.
I just cant take the pleasure anymore, i have never been able to do it masturbating or with a vibrator.
I guess its all in my head.
For those of us who cannot orgasm a sex professional would prob be helpful. If anyone knows of any decent places to go to, or doctors to call let me know.

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HELP!
Im 21, and ive had 4 differnt sex partners.
None have ever made me orgasm.
i am unable to achive this threw masturbation either.
My current bf is un-experienced in the foreplay area and ive tried to guide him but i dont think he enjoys it as much.
He seems to prefer it and be happy with my giving him a bj, and he's satisfied.
I have mentioned to him that im not satisfied, which he laughs off.
What can i do? Its putting me off having sex, with him.

well what i suggest u do is move on ... he just wants a bj tell him to eat u out first dats what i say haha and or have a 69.... for me it works b.c i love oral i dont know if ive ever had an actual orgasim but when my boyfriend goes down on me or plays wit my clitoris my legs shake and my toes curl but.... nothing else happens just me being tired .... i dont like the feeling of intercourse i dont know why tho.....i mean i know when u have sex with someone bigger than the last u will strech but i went back to the smaller guy and well i dont feel anything and when i do i dont enjoy it. i dont know.... what to do any answers
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I'm 18 and I've only had one partner who is currently my boyfriend. I understand that sometimes it just takes a lot of practice (which is frustrating but i understand), however everytime i get close my clitoris starts to hurt and i have to make my boyfriend stop. It's almost to the point where i don't even want to try anymore because after it starts to hurt the mood is totally dead and i can't enjoy sex at all. My mom and i aren't close enough to talk about this and my gynos a guy so it's awkward. Any advice is seriously appreciated!!!!

I think having a kind , giving and unselfish partner is a must for any sexual relationship. I was with a man for 20 years who didnt really care if i came or not. Dont make the same mistake. Sex with anyone is about discovering what pleasures you both not just him. You never know with the right person guiding you you could achieve wonders.

my name is Bethany. I'm 18 and I've had 4 sex partners and I have never been able to have an orgasim from penatration.Its really wierd,I asked my boyfriend if I'm "loose"but he tells me that I am not at all...when we first start intercourse I can feel him a little bit
but then when he puts a condom on I can't really feel him that much...Is somethin wrong?We try all different positions...
I guess I'm just not as sensitive down there
Can I help this in any way
I can't get my self off by penatration either
plz plz
I know you guys have heard it all b4 but I really need to talk to someone cuz I fear it will b like this my whole life

Hi everyone my name is Sarah. I am a virgin but very experimental. i have had two "partners" with my first it was hard but he was ale to get me off. Unfortunatly when we split he completly destroyed me. He used me and then threw me away, mostly because i wouldnt have sex with him i think.Anyway now i am in a new relationship, e have been together almost 9 months and he is fantastic...but since my ex i havent been able to really get off. I feel broken, my boyfriend is extreamly suportive and patient but he is more focused on me not being upset ablout it then figuring out whats wrong. he does everything the way my ex did but its just not working. I feel so broken, I feel like my ex broke me. I s there anyway to make it so I can come with my nw guy that i dont know about? Please help!!!!!!!!!!