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Q: Freaking Out.
asked by: Caitlyn89 on August 9th, 2006
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So for the past 3 days or so I have been in non-stop panic. I am a 17yr old female who is a virgin. I recently (about 2months) ago met a boy. We started dating. Now ... I have never given/received oral sex nor have I had intercourse. Seriously im very knowledable with diseases and stuff like that but im so at a loss right now.

So back to why im ready to have a heart-attack. I let this boy....Give me oral sex for the first time, whereas he told me I was his first as well. I trust him and believe him but you know there isnt any gurrantees. I started to uh...Do it back but we were interrupted so it was in my mouth no longer then 5-10 seconds...Literally no lie. So this was about a week ago. On monday night I experienced some itching down there and I didnt think much of it until it continued into the following day. So yesterday I looked and there seems to be this .. Pimple like bump. Its not big nor is it painful or sore. Its just this red bump with a whitehead. Now the bump is not hard it is not painful. But its on what I think is my clitoris (yes im so naive I dont even know if its my clit.....But im 90% sure it is). There is no discharge with strange ordors or colors. Basically its this pimple-like bump and the itchyness.

So today is now wednesday and its still there. The symptoms have not worsened but its the same. Sooo....I have no gyn. I talked to my mom about it and after the part where she ya know went into tears and made me feel completely and totally ashamed of myself she contacted a gyn but the appt isnt until the 17th. I cannot handle being in a constant state of panic and stress and racing thoughts that I have a god damn std until the 17th.

Im ashamed, terrified, and have been crying this entire day. Someone help me. Please.
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brookster29 replied on August 9th, 2006
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Although there is no guarentee it isn't some sort of std, which we all know can be passed though any time of sexual contact...Not just intercourse, it could be something else. Maybe an ingrown hair or something like that...Many women get those after shaving down there. Telling your mom and making an appt. With a gyno was a good decision. But hopefully, it will go away before you appt...But of course you should still go and get tested. Goodluck and try not to stress yourself out, as hard as it seems. :)
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singledad replied on August 20th, 2006
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Sounds like herpes, which you probobly know by now - it can be transmitted orally. The good news is, it isn't life threatening or anything, your current symptoms are pretty much the whole thing.

The bad news is, you can't get rid of it, and it's highly contagious - also very common, as you might also now guess. There are now some medications that can reduce outbreaks and communicability.

Relaxing is also a good suggestion, stress can make the symptoms worse, or cause outbreaks - good time to check out yoga and/or meditation.

On the subject, any tips on safe cunninglingus? Saran wrap maybe?
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kissofangel20 replied on August 20th, 2006
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There are the dental dams made for oral sex.
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singledad replied on August 22nd, 2006
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Sure, but do you ever see them? I don't believe i've ever actually seen one on a shelf, and have no idea what they even look like - granted I might not have been looking very hard, my ex wasn't into it, go figure. I was thinking something quick, handy and inexpensive.

Otherwise, it's probobly advisable to carry one or two in your purse in case you get lucky - I doubt if they'll be finding their way into mens wallets anytime soon.

I'm also curious about the female condom, i've seen them around once or twice but they're also not exactly ubiquitous - i've heard they work pretty well, and could possibly do double duty, I dunno.
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singledad replied on August 26th, 2006
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I went looking for dental dams the other day: two wal marts, three grocery stores, couple of pharmacies, and two adult video/toy stores - nobody I asked had even heard of them - got a few blushes and a couple of videos, but no dental dam.
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Spanky2005 replied on August 26th, 2006
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Ebay has them. Ebay has everything!

One of the few things I did not buy on ebay was a dental dam! But its there along with cars, electronics and real estate all of which I have bought!

Good luck
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singledad replied on September 3rd, 2006
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spanky2005 wrote:
ebay has them. Ebay has everything!


One of the few things I did not buy on ebay was a dental dam! But its there along with cars, electronics and real estate all of which I have bought!

Good luck


yes, I did find tham online, but i'm not sure that qualifies as convenient. I did, however, run across plans for making an impromptu dental dam - you snip the tip off of a condom, then cut it lengthwise and spread it out - two snips on a rolled up condom, so ladies, you know what to do now in a pinch.

Most county health offices distribute condoms if you ask, so there's no reason not to have a supply of those on hand.

I did find the female condom at the adult book/video/toy store, but at around $10 for three of them, they aren't cheap. I bought some, but have yet to test them for utility in the cunninglingus dept.
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shortygirl24 replied on September 4th, 2006
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This may be a silly question but what are dental dams? :oops: could you tell me more about what they are used for in oral sex? Thanx alot
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singledad replied on September 4th, 2006
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It's essentially just a sheet of latex that is placed over the external vagina to provide a barrier and prevent fluid exchange during cuninglingus.
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shortygirl24 replied on September 4th, 2006
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singledad wrote:
it's essentially just a sheet of latex that is placed over the external vagina to provide a barrier and prevent fluid exchange during cuninglingus.




ok I see...Would I still be able to feel it happening with the latex over my vagina, just as much as I would with out? Thanx:)
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singledad replied on September 4th, 2006
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I dunno, never tried it - volunteers?
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shortygirl24 replied on September 4th, 2006
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singledad wrote:
i dunno, never tried it - volunteers?




ohhh ok, yeah I never heard of them either till recently, I guess I learn something new every day right? :d
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deebaby621 replied on September 11th, 2006
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You must be one of those people that always thinks somethings wrong with them. Because I highly doubt you've got an std. It was your first time .. I mean yeah sure it's possible. But um, I think you're paranoid.
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