Hello everyone.
I'm in a relationship, and while it's not
really "troubled" or abusive at all,
there's one issue that we cannot agree on
- her ex.
Firstly, let me state this: she and I are
very much in love, and I trust her. I
plan on spending my life with her, even
though our relationship is only several
months old, and she has expressed her
desire to do the same with me.
However, recently she's began to chat
again with her ex boyfriend. She and he
met online five years ago and had an
internet relationship. Their
relationship progressed and eventually
spread physically and sexually (she lost
her virginity to him).
So, recently I found out (through her)
that she has started role playing with him
- on almost a daily basis. She and he
both are storywrights and she assures to
me that the stories she creates with his
characters (they don't actually role play
themselves, but characters in a
fantasy-based world that she created with
him) are non-sexual and are for the sole
purpose of story making. She even said
she plans on publishing them some day.
Despite this, I have expressed discomfort
to her about doing this. I get jealous
when I know they are role playing. I
asked her to stop finally and she refused.
She on numerous occasions has told me
that she and he would never work together
again, that she loves me, and she only
role plays as a creative outlet.
Furthermore, because she doesn't see it as
a threat to our relationship, she said she
won't stop it, and that this is something
she will not "budge" on. Still,
numerous times i've asked her to stop,
until she eventually got angry with me and
asked me to drop it.
All of the other aspects of our
relationship are normal. We're usually
very agreeable and this honestly is the
only problem. I haven't spoken about it
recently, however when I know she's role
playing with him I get angry and jealous.
I'm naturally insecure and jealous, and
I really don't know what to do.
I don't want to risk getting her angrier
at me by bringing this up. I'd just
like her to stop. Am I right for being
so jealous? Should I confront her about
it again? Should I just try and forget
about it? I really don't know. Any
suggestions would be welcomed.
Thank you for reading. :)
