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Q: Feeling Like My Body's Its Own Birthcontrol Pill

asked by: christina85 on August 9th, 2006

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Me and boyfriend have been trying to concieve for almost 2 years and its becoming very frustrating and I think I cant concieve now because im so stressed out from not concieving. The only thing thats different about my situation is that my boyfriend already has 2 kids from a previous relationship. And whats funny about the situation is that his kids are only like 10 1/2 months apart. So im like whats wrong with me and I get so hard on myself because of it. We try around every every ovulation period and it just seems to never work. Now hes thinking that we weren't meant to be together or something like that. I need some kind of advice because our relationship is falling apart and I dont even feel like a woman. Somebody please out there I need some inpiration or advice or something please!

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Eyes Wide Shut

replied on August 9th, 2006

Especially eHealthy

Oh man honey!! Calm down. If your man is thinking like that, he's an! Have you talked to your gyno about the situation? It could be that there is an underlying problem that's preventing you from conceiving.

I wouldn't stress about it. Pregnancy always seems to come when you just relax and throw out your ovulation "schedule". Ya know?

Don't put yourself down because he has 2 other kids "so it can't be him". And if he's telling you that, than he's even more of an .

Just make an appt. With your doctor and discuss what's been going on and how you can't seem to get pregnant. It's not an uncommon thing for women to be incapable of conceiving. You may just need a little fetrility treatment.

Sarah

Mabel

replied on August 9th, 2006

Moderator

Since you have been trying for 2 years, you should go see your doctor and see what their medical opinion is. This is only a forum where we can give you ideas, but after 2 years, you have probably heard of and tried everything you can.

A doctor can give you definitive answers. You didn't mention how old you are. You didn't say that you live together. You didn't say if you were ever on birth control. Or if you've ever had anything medically wrong.

Have you charted? Have you done the ovulation kits or are you just guessing when the usual ovulation is? Are you periods regular or are they irregular? Lots of factors go into making a baby.

Just because your boyfriend has 2 children already doesn't mean anything is 'wrong' with you. Go see your doctor.

Good luck!

pixie2007

replied on August 14th, 2006

New User

You've been trying for 2 years? I don't want to be too personal, but have you ever had an abortion? It can internally scar some women and make it impossible for future pregnancies, or you could just be barren. Hopefully this is not the case, but my oldest sister has had a hard time watching all of her younger sisters become pregnant while she can't. She had an abortion when she was young, and I think that is the culprit.

If your man has no problem saying such insenstitive things, than you should have no problem .Try not to stress out so much, and reconsider your relationship with this man....Do you really want to have kids with someone that doesn't think you were meant for eachother?

Emma2

replied on August 14th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

Re: Feeling Like My Body's Its Own Birthcontrol Pill

christina85 wrote:

me and boyfriend have been trying to concieve for almost 2 years and its becoming very frustrating and I think I cant concieve now because im so stressed out from not concieving. The only thing thats different about my situation is that my boyfriend already has 2 kids from a previous relationship. And whats funny about the situation is that his kids are only like 10 1/2 months apart. So im like whats wrong with me and I get so hard on myself because of it. We try around every every ovulation period and it just seems to never work. Now hes thinking that we weren't meant to be together or something like that. I need some kind of advice because our relationship is falling apart and I dont even feel like a woman. Somebody please out there I need some inpiration or advice or something please!

sorry for what you are going through. You should understand that a man who has kids already doesnt mean he can later on. Sperm changes and bodies change, so, its best to both go see a fertility Dr. And both get tested. In regards to abortion causing infertilty that is only when someone has had a complicated procedure and its rare but I think she would have mentioned it. It is not something that goes unnoticed!

pixie2007

replied on August 15th, 2006

New User

Tell that to my sister that has internal scarring now....It doesn't cause infertility in everyone, but it does in some people dr ingi

megums1211

replied on August 15th, 2006

Active User, very eHealthy

babymajic0506 wrote:

i wouldn't stress about it. Pregnancy always seems to come when you just relax and throw out your ovulation "schedule". Ya know?

Sarah

you know.... That's so true! My hubby and I were trying for a few months, and we got preggy on a 5 minute quickie! Lol we were on our way out the door to visit his mother and he was really "in the mood" so we had one of those midde of the afternoon pick-me-ups (not even thinking about getting preggy) and it happened! Who'd of thought? Calm down sweetie :) your baby making efforts will soon pay off :)

Melissa_20

replied on August 15th, 2006

Especially eHealthy

pixie2007 wrote:

tell that to my sister that has internal scarring now....It doesn't cause infertility in everyone, but it does in some people dr ingi

like she said,most of the time it is due to complications missy.And you don't knwo for sure that the fact that she can't get pregnant is due to an abortion she had

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