Okay, first thing...Good on you for
knowing that this isn't the right time for
you to have a baby! It's completely
natural for you to be craving pregnancy
and motherhood at your age...Hormones are
still going haywire, and your body is
probably trying to remind you to get on
with it before your clock runs out.
However, since you're nineteen, your clock
is still ticking! Don't worry! You just
need to come to terms with wanting a baby,
and have a long talk with your boyfriend
about all the things you're thinking
about. I know you said you didn't want to
bother him, but it's important that your
relationship is completely open. Do you
feel like this is a relationship you can
eventually bring a baby into? If so, make
sure you're both being honest with each
other, and the things you want from the
relationship are out on the table so that
you both can identify when you'll be rady
to make these big changes in your life.
You need to have a discussion about all
the reasons you aren't ready for a baby,
and decide when you .W.I.L.L be ready.
I'm so glad that you were responsible
enough to know that you aren't ready for
motherhood, and you will be happy that you
waited until you're ready.
I don't think there's anyway to dissapate
the longing for a baby, but you could
always try volunteering at daycare centres
or babysitting, or even getting a puppy!
It's good to start small, and that way
you're getting used to caring for someone
who depends on you every day.
That feeling you get every month is the
effect of the hormones you get with your
period. It's completely normal! But,
until you're ready to be a mom, and you
make sure that your boyfriend is ready to
be a father, and support you through
pregnancy and help you raise your baby,
continue to keep things in perspective,
and continue being responsible.
I'm not your age (i'm fifteen in
december), but I hope i've been of some
help.
- mattea
