Okay here's some advice from someone who's
just very recently been there. I had felt
the desire meeting a man at a friend's
birthday party who paid me a lot of
attention and made me feel extremely
desirable. I didn't go through with an
affair, but it concerned me that I felt
that way. I am not saying this has
happened with your wife at all, but I will
soon get to my point and this was part of
it. Your wife is telling the truth, but
please try not to take it too personally
or let it hurt you. If she didn't love
you, she would've moved on and not talked
about it with you. After this happened to
me, I realized and told my husband that I
still looked at him and knew that he was a
very attractive man, my friends told me
so, etc. But that I didn't feel the
physical attraction anymore. It made it
easier for me because my husband was also
feeling this way. But we love each other
and would do anything to save it.
Whatever you do, do not consider swinging.
This is the sad choice we made, and I got
pregnant to another man and recently had
an abortion. For a while before this
happened, it did bring the fire back into
our sex lives. Mostly because we saw each
other as more sexual again. Sometimes,
that is all it takes to get a woman revved
up. Not the swinging part, but something
that can make her feel sexy. For me at
least it was this way. It is hard to feel
sexy when you have kids and job or the
house to care for and just all the demands
of daily life. Maybe it isn't so much
that she sees you as just the father
figure but that she sees herself as just
the mother figure and it translates into a
lack of sexual desire for you.My advice to
you would be if you could afford it, to
treat her to a day at a spa, relaxing
massage, nails done, pedicure, haircut and
color. Let her get a little makeover.
Then take her to a store, let her pick out
a sexy outfit, and take her out to a
romantic dinner. Be sure to tell her that
it is because you realize she hasn't had a
break lately, and been pampered. In no
way let her think to herself that it is
because you don't find her attractive, or
it would backfire. I hope this makes her
feel sexy and you have an amazing time!
