Can you relate? I mean I have been married to my husband for almost 7 years and I am sooo inlove with him... I miss him like crazy, but I am allso missing companionship in our relationship.. Sometimes I find myself wondering about other men.. I know it would kill my husband if I had ever had an affair.. But the more he's gone the better men are looking..It's getting harder and harder for me to stay focused.. He works off shore and I can go weeks without hearing anything from him.. And I begin to wonder what it is what I want..I try to never go out to put myself in an awkard position.. But I did go to dinner with a girlfriend and found myself talking to a handsome man.. And becoming very aroused by him.. If it weren't for my girlfriend I would have cheated... Is this normal.. How can one person stay so faithful in a marriage when the other partner is ever there.. I want to be a faithful wife..I hate cheaters but now I think I am beginning to understand that side of the fence and it scares me..I love myhusband soooo much but I am so lonely for attention... Any advice? Oh you can only use a vibrater so many times till you actually need the real thing. :twisted:
I've been married for only a month but I can defenetly tell you about lonlyness there's a whole lot of that for soon sinse my husband is working for the goverment. Anyways,during our three year relationship my husband made trips with hus dad to japan or mexico and forgain places for a month. I missed him sick! What I tried to to was go out with my friends "girl-friends" and just have some innocent fun and keep myself ocupied doing something I liked,painting,drawing or making a little something for when he comes back. It's about looking the possitive side of it, some people are together all the time and they really just get sick of each other. It's healthy to miss and have some time appart from each other. Try to do things you couldn't do with him because he didn't like or something like that. Spend time preparing something for when he comes back. It's a great feeling to see your husband after a while,it's like a dog waiting for his master the whole day and when they see you they literaly pee themselves of emotion. I think that keeps a marriage strong. If you ever thing about cheating think how bad things will turn if he finds out,because eventually will and all the things you build together will come down and you'll loose the man of your life. Think of guilt.
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Thanks for your reply.. I do keep myself busy..I am a full time student ..Fulltime mother to 3 kids..And work after school at my youngest son's daycare.. I have plenty to do to keep myself busy.. My husband and I made promises we wouldn't go out without each other.. But it's ok to go to dinner with friends on occassion.. I do not go out clubbing, dancing, anyplaces he doesn't want me to go...I respect his wishes on that.. We went to a nice resturant my friend and I and I had a glass of wine some one sent over a shot ( place was like a ruby tuesday's or an apple bee's resturant that sells full bar..I am not to big of a drinker but after my second glass of wine and that shot I found myself being very flirtatious..I called it starved for attention.. It was innocent..But I flirted big time.. By the end of our dinner I had his number and was really thinking about calling...I opted not too especially when my friend took the number and ripped it up..Lol
my husband is gone 28 days and home 12 .. Sometimes I get to talk to him and some times I go weeks without knowing anything.. It's really lonely.... I mean this has been going on 8 months now and I miss him...
True our sex life has more passion, and the lust for one another is extreme... But maybe I just need to clear my mind of unpure thoughts... And just breathe...He'll be home wednesday..... Breathe :p
It almost sounds like you have the 7 year itch (ha! Ha!) I know that a relationship like that can be difficult as my ex was gone 7 months out of each year and I could not be with him, but he started cheating, I hope like heck it does not start happening to you or visa versa, I realise that it is difficult being without the man you love but just keep telling yourself that how much fun it will be catching up. I now have a man that does not cheat and treats me great. I am glad that you did not make the mistake that you would have probably would have regretted, I know that their was a time or two that I was tempted too, we are only human!
All the best to you and yours!
There it goes the positive side! The passion that you guys have when you get back together. So many other couples wish to have that spice in their relationship. Stay away from the drinks. That's the easiest way to make mistakes. Beleive me. Really,really don't ever do that again. Thank god you had someone there to prevent anything.