How to Have a Long Term Relationship

I would think that looking like a model would make guys scared and afraid they have no chance with you and that you are too good for them. I'm pretty good looking, sort of not tall and sort of look like a model. And i've had one "boyfriend" that lasted like 4 months in my 19 years of life. It was long distance. And I also long for a relationship. I don't know what my problem is. I don't like any of the guys really that like me. And the ones that do like me that I like which have always been younger than me. They don't like me for very long and say "i don't want to ruin our friendship" "i don't want to hurt you" and just runaway. I was afraid I was always gonna be alone, but now I just don't care anymore if I have a boyfriend or not. I don't know if you attempted any long term relationships or not. Maybe there is some key ingredient you are missing or you just are doing something wrong or the guys you go for are wrong. But i'm not experienced in this at all lol.......I'm tryin to figure out what's wrong with me.

Look if you read the book I suggested "why men marry !**@!" you gals will understand why the guy runs away. The way to get a man be with you is not letting him figure out your plan. He can't feel he don't have to break a sweat to be with you. The books says men are very wary that woman want to get married and if you mention the word commitment or marriage he thinks that's what you want is get married and not really in love with him. You do not say to a guy things like "where is this going?" "i don't want to waste my time in dead end relationship" this totally turn guys into the other direction because that is the messages he gets, that you really don't love them and just want to be married. That books is worth every penny I tell you.

That's very interesting thing you brought up. You are right! That's one reason why some relationships end and I actually picked up that book at barns and nobles once and skimmed through it...Still, if you feel pressure by the society to get married, how do you not exude it? Easier said than done. Some would say, "get involved in a hobby, hang out with friends, get busy". That's true - only if you're single you are still reminded everywhere that you are alone while others have someone. This all gets problematic because do you want to have "someone" or the "one". And personally, I believe in the "one", but having said that a lot of times, especially during family get togethers, holidays, when you're alone it stings...
Looking back at all my relationships, I can tell exacly why every one did not work out. It's like going into the relationship, I had my doubts, yet I went along anyways...My very recent relationship, I could feel the guy fell for me instantenously. He wasn't my type looks wise, but I liked some of his character traits and he was a musician. I became infatuated with him probably because I could tell he was infatuated with me. Things were moving very fast emotionally between us, "i love you" from him came after 3 dates. While hesitant at first, I finally let him in to my life and I actually did fall for him. And as soon as I did that, his love for me went downhill. So, what's the moral of this, women should always play hard to get and never let them feel that you really like them.