I would think that looking like a model would make guys scared and afraid they have no chance with you and that you are too good for them. I'm pretty good looking, sort of not tall and sort of look like a model. And i've had one "boyfriend" that lasted like 4 months in my 19 years of life. It was long distance. And I also long for a relationship. I don't know what my problem is. I don't like any of the guys really that like me. And the ones that do like me that I like which have always been younger than me. They don't like me for very long and say "i don't want to ruin our friendship" "i don't want to hurt you" and just runaway. I was afraid I was always gonna be alone, but now I just don't care anymore if I have a boyfriend or not. I don't know if you attempted any long term relationships or not. Maybe there is some key ingredient you are missing or you just are doing something wrong or the guys you go for are wrong. But i'm not experienced in this at all lol.......I'm tryin to figure out what's wrong with me.

Look if you read the book I suggested "why men marry health forum" you gals will understand why the guy runs away. The way to get a man be with you is not letting him figure out your plan. He can't feel he don't have to break a sweat to be with you. The books says men are very wary that woman want to get married and if you mention the word commitment or marriage he thinks that's what you want is get married and not really in love with him. You do not say to a guy things like "where is this going?" "i don't want to waste my time in dead end relationship" this totally turn guys into the other direction because that is the messages he gets, that you really don't love them and just want to be married. That books is worth every penny I tell you.

this doesn't apply to me, since i'm just tryin to go out with a guy in the first place, tryin to get into a relationship. And marriage wasn't even an issue at the time or even is now. Maybe I was too strong on them, like I liked them too much or I dont' know.......Seemed obsessed with them? I don't know....... But my stepdad is married to my mom who is one of those b words to him lol

That's very interesting thing you brought up. You are right! That's one reason why some relationships end and I actually picked up that book at barns and nobles once and skimmed through it...Still, if you feel pressure by the society to get married, how do you not exude it? Easier said than done. Some would say, "get involved in a hobby, hang out with friends, get busy". That's true - only if you're single you are still reminded everywhere that you are alone while others have someone. This all gets problematic because do you want to have "someone" or the "one". And personally, I believe in the "one", but having said that a lot of times, especially during family get togethers, holidays, when you're alone it stings...
Looking back at all my relationships, I can tell exacly why every one did not work out. It's like going into the relationship, I had my doubts, yet I went along anyways...My very recent relationship, I could feel the guy fell for me instantenously. He wasn't my type looks wise, but I liked some of his character traits and he was a musician. I became infatuated with him probably because I could tell he was infatuated with me. Things were moving very fast emotionally between us, "i love you" from him came after 3 dates. While hesitant at first, I finally let him in to my life and I actually did fall for him. And as soon as I did that, his love for me went downhill. So, what's the moral of this, women should always play hard to get and never let them feel that you really like them.

this is intereting conversation. Let me tell you this. Back in college I fell in love with a guy once and yeah once he saw I fell for him turned his back away. At the end of my senior year I really craved to be with someone. I looked at this guy that took class with me I really didn't thought he was adonis but I did flirted with him and he falled for me. I wanted to be with "someone" since the "ones" always ran away from me. I spent a year and half with this "someone" that treated me like a princess and did everything for me. As we finished college and came back each to live at our home towns I decided that I really didn't loved that guy, that he was not the one that I was just settling since I never felt those sparks butterflies people talk about when they are in love. Years began to drop down and I entered other relationships. I dated guys more handsomes to find out his personalaties weren't as great as his. Breakups came. More breakups. A decade of breakups. Lot of tears, lot of lonelyness. Now about 10 years later I realize what I lost. That guy who I thought was "someone" is the kind of man I would marry now. I am relationship now with a good man but you know it took me many years of pain and breakups to learn the qualities that distinguish "the one". The "one" is not necessary a blue prince like in the fairy tales. The "one" has imperfections.. But will love you and respect like you deserve.