You have what is called a "high orgasmic threshold" and this can occur naturally in some men or can be caused by nerve damage due to disease or other causes.




The usual effects of this high orgasmic threshold are inhibited ejaculation/orgasm and sometimes erectile difficulty plus you will have a need for intense visual and physical stimulation to get yourself to the point where you can have an orgasm. The prostate gland in where all the circuitry from the penis to the brain passes and massaging it enhances sexual pleasure and sensitivity. As long as you are using a proper sex toy like a vib or a butt plug, or even the new aneros prostate massager, you should have no ill effects on your health.

There are no drugs that will increase male sexual desire (despite what the snakeoil salesmen will tell you) except perhaps alcohol but it can also cause sexual dysfunction. As for hynosis, you could try it but your problem is physical, no psychological so it's doubtful hypnosis will help.