Sex And My New Hip...

I was just told last week that I do need my left hip replaced and it will be done on august 29, 2006. I have been in so much pain since last september that I was so pleased to hear that I will be once again free of pain and hopefully I can have my life back again. I'm very afraid of the surgery but I do know that the outcome is worth any anxiety that I have.

Never thought about the sex aspect although I should of because I can't spread my hips the way I use to. It finally hit me over the weekend, "what about ever having sex again"? Well of course I went to google to see what I could find and here you were ready to answer my question, "can I have sex after a hip replacement"? From reading all of your answers I guess I can but it might be a little tricky.

I have learned as my husband and I have gotten older that sex has become tricky so i'm assuming that it won't be much different after the surgery.

Any advice or any web sites that you can send me to to learn more about what to expect after my surgery would be greatly appreciated. I noticed that there are alot of younger people that have had their hips replaced so me at age 58 almost 59 doesn't seem so young anymore.

Does anyone know why this happened to us at this age. I just went on vacation with my aunt and she is 79 and she could get around much better than I could. Is it in our genes, my mother had a hip replaced and two knees? The doctor said that blood needs to flow to the cartilage between our joints and if it doesn't the cartilage wears away or dies. What would make the blood not get to my cartilage? I also feel that my body started going down hill towards my needing my hip replaced years ago. I started falling over for no reason, I couldn't ride a two wheeler bike anymore because of leg weakness and had to get a three wheeler, and many of my joints hurt and my left leg lost strength in it that I had to pick it up to get into my van (this happened for several months while I was still in my late 40's). Most all of these systems came and went until last september, they all came back and never went away. The doctors took lots of x-rays but as of january, 2006 they didn't feel that I was ready for surgery until last weeks x-rays showed that what little cartilage I had is now completely gone.

If someone where to ask my opinion I would say that I should have had a bone density test years ago when I asked for one and the doctors said that I didn't need one. I would have then been put on medicine to help prevent me losing from calcium or whatever it is that I lost in order to get to where I am. I went through menopause without any problems and then this happened.

If any of you out there can give me your opinion I would like to hear it. Does my story remind any of you of your story. Also let me know about sex, I know it may be different but just knowing that it will be ok for me would be an added bonus. Also how many of you lost weight before the surgery, I have been trying to retain my weight without gaining but I do feel that if I could lose weight it would help me, what do any of you think about that? Thanks, kw