Why dont you have a glass of wine and build trust only thing I can really say, what you may have to do is see a councillor about the rape because keeping those fears/memories inside can really dampen any sitiuation.


I could not orgasm due to a the similar sitiuation but I turned into an alcholic met a guy and he helped me build trust in people its kinda of a two way street he needs to undertsand, maybe not pressure you but you need to find what makes you tick...


If you have to, buy toys or have him touch you till something feels good, you may not feel comfortable but sex is meant to be enjoyed, another option is to wear a headband over your eyes and just think positive...


I know it sounds weird telling your man where to touch you but how do you build communciation between you and your partner if you cant tell him something that simple(yeah mayeb not so simple)

best of luck feel free to send me a pm

Im a guy I wud suggest that if this guy loved you hed wait until your ready to talk,build confidence and then maybe if your ready have sex.
I avent had sex for 14 months with my partner after she had our son.
2 be honest im botherd but not to the point were im bugged becasue I love her and thats all that matters

A relationship is 50/50 and consistes of friendship and sex at one point someone has to give, im not disagreeing I think what you are doing is amazing but what if she wanted sex she would get mad and more than likely assume that you are cheating...

Sex is a natural thing and thought someone made an unplesant expierence out of it everyone should be able to enjoy it, I had two kids and im still ok with it