I am currently in a relationship with a recovering alcoholic. We started dating a year ago, and after about 6 months I felt pretty certain that he had alcohol abuse issues. I dealt with it for another 4 months, and then I couldn't take it any more. I went to al-anon, and coordinated an intervention. It actually worked. He has been working on his sobriety for about 2 months now.
At first I was ecstatic that he was actually attending aa. But, I have realized I have some major trust issues from when he wasn't sober. I was hurt, and never really had the chance to work on that. In addition, he has fallen off the wagon twice. It has made the trust non-existant.
I am worn out completely. I feel like I don't have the strength to be supportive of his sobriety anymore. For the first time in my life I feel completely justified in being selfish.
I am hoping that someone can offer some advice or a book that would help me work through my trust issues, and the past pain I never took the time to deal with.