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Q: Need Advice

asked by: jow123456 on July 26th, 2006

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I am 22 years old and i'm getting ready to graduate from college in december. My entire life I have done everything on my own, i've worked since I was a freshman in high school and everything I have, which isn't much, i've gotten on my own. I was really looking forward to graduating and starting a new chapter in my life and then 2 weeks ago I found out I was pregnant. I have been seeing my current boyfriend for 10 months. We do not have a great relationship and I was planning on ending it before I found out I was pregnant. I know I don't have to stay with him but i'm just really confused now. I have an appointment to have a medical abortion friday morning, I have been completely devestated and depressed ever since I found out I was pregnant. I love kids and I do want them some day but I just wasn't ready. My boyfriend already has a 3 year old daughter with another woman, and I see how his relationship with her (his ex) and his daughter and i'm scared that he'll be the same with "us". I really don't know what to do, I have no one to talk to so I came here, i'm scared about the procedure and about the consequences...Any advice anyone could give me i'd appreciate. I'm sorry this is so long winded.

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Tylanas

replied on July 27th, 2006

Especially eHealthy

*hug* it's okay, we're here for you!!

The medical abortion is very safe. There are normally 2 pills (believe) that you will end up taking: one at the clinic and one later on. The time it takes for your body to start basically miscarrying will depend on your body type, and this specific pregnancy. There can be moderate to severe period-like cramping, but it won't last the whole time. Basic pain killers can deal with it, like pamprin or motrin or your regular period-pain medication, if you have one.

The consequence is that... You won't be pregnant anymore :) I know it is a very tough desicion though!! It is very scary, but you can always come to us for advice and support! You'll be okay!

We are here to support your desicion, and i'm glad that you are still keeping control of your life and making this desicion for yourself and your future. You can tell your boyfriend if you wish too, but seeing as you're breaking up with him anyway - and he sounds like a sleaze ;) - it's up to you.

Carifairy

replied on July 27th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

Both medical and surgical abortion are extremely safe! You ahould be able to have babies later on =)

medical abortion is an induced miscarriage, so you will miscarry, and the process of contractions and heavy bleeding can take up to 8 hours..But most women miscarry within 4 hours.

I personally prefer surgical, but medical abortion is certainly a wonderful option. I just prefer being put to sleep for any procedure that is painful, and with surgical abortion they can knock you out.

krissyb

replied on July 28th, 2006

New User

This might help: http://cfcare.Org/

Carifairy

replied on July 28th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

That is an adoption site

she doesn't want adoption..She wants an abortion. Not every woman wants to mess up her body to give birth and hand it over to someone else.

You will be just fine!! Your medical abortion should go very smoothly, and you can get back to your life.

toja

replied on July 29th, 2006

New User

Hi jow. I was just like you. When I found out that I am pregnant I didn't want the baby because I was about to break up with him and didn't want to be an alone mother (for baby's sake). I always wanted my child to be raised and loved by both parents although I understand that in real life it isn't always so perfect.
Paradoxically, after the abortion my relationship with my boyfriend became much stronger and sometimes I feel that I did abortion for nothing. I don't regret, though. I suffered more before I made decision towards it and was expecting to suffer even more after, but it hasn't happened, and I feel pretty happy now because I wasn't ready, it shouldn't have happen and it wasn't meant to be.
We will have children in the future, when the right time comes and we want to.

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