Yes, recently I went to see a doctor for the same reason. She put me on some hormone creams and a patch. Worked great

well, you shouldn't be experiencing painful sex just because you entered (peri)menopause. You should see a gyn because you could have developed ovarian cysts or uterine fibroids that often cause pain during sex. You didn't say how old you were and if your amenorrhea (absence of period) was related to your age or if it occurred just suddenly. You should give us more info or simply see a doc!

You are the only other person i've heard describe it that way. When I became menopausal, I expected some dryness and thought it would perhaps hurt at the opening of or on the sides of my vagina. But no, it felt like we were creating a new hole in my cervix....Very painful. I've started the patch but don't yet know if it is helping. I have no remedy but wanted you to know that you're not alone. Good luck finding something that works!

I have experienced the SAME thing. My husband is quite large anyway so certain positions have always been painful--but now EVERY position is painful. I'm sorry that you have this as well but glad to know that I'm not the only one. I don't want to be on hormones but I can't take the pain of this anymore!! I am only 41 too...ugh.

Do you use a lot of lube?...This is so important when you are dry...Have you tried sex at the foot of the bed?...In this position you put your legs over his shoulders?....This way the penetration can be controlled by you...It really is a wonderful and erotic sexual mating...Hope this helps..

Caroline

I have.. It's more his size. I don't have a problem with dryness(yet..lol) and hopefully I wont. I asked him to consider penis reduction surgery and he looked at me like I had just killed his Mom...LOL

I am still laughing about what you said... ....Have you ever checked with the doctor about using dilators?...From what I understand they can slowly make a woman open wider...I wish I could help you more on this, but this is the best that I can do...Possibly doggy sex would again make you open farther?...I am trying... but running out of ideas....Good luck....

Caroline

Hi there,
why don't try bioidentical hormone therapy, IT worked for me.
Just hang in there
Rgds