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Q: a Little Scared

asked by: Helpingfriend on January 17th, 2004

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I am 17 and have always been regular for the most part, I started my period when I was 11 almost 12. My cycle has changed a little like when I first started I got it every 6 weeks, then I went to every 30 days, then back to every 6 weeks. I had sex for the first time in june, and have been active like once to twice a month untill the end of november. I have always had really bad cramps to the point that I couldn't move or function at all. My doctor put me on a few different pills, at different times, to try to help with the pain but none helped. She said I should try birthcontrol (she doesn't know I have had sex), my parent (also doesn't know I have had sex) doesn't want me on birth control because it can cause problem with getting pregant later in life. I want children and I also will adopt. So I don't care if I can't have any children of my own. My parent (not related to me) also had bad cramps and knows what I am going through. She says I need to get use to the pain, but I can't. Do any of you know how to help with the pain?? Another question I have is I haven't had sex since mid november and got my period about a week later in december, it was like normal heavy bleeding and bad cramps. I am about 1 week late to when I had it in december. I don't want to over react because sometimes that can also delay your period. I am kinda scard though. Should I be woried?? I don't want to ask my parent to take me for a test because I don't her to know I have had sex I know she would be very mad and not trust me again. Is there anyway I can tell my self. I haven't had any signs like the ones you learn about in healt or like the ones I learned about in a parenthood class I took last year. Any idea's???

Thanks

Replies(10)

sparklypixie12

replied on January 21st, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Hi there.
First thing,u need 2 give the bc pills some time to get in2 ur system because they take a while 2 kick in-im on the progesteron only pill & dont have periods.Being on the pill does not affect ur chances of every having a child so dont b under the illusion that it does.
Secondly,so ur late on ur period? U may need 2 take a test because other then the usual symptoms-sore breasts,morning sickness etc. There's no other way of knowing.But,if u have an irregular cycle anyway,it cud b down 2 this.R their any clinics near u which do free pregnany tests?
I think ur doctor isnt very good if u need 2 come here 2 ask about how to deal with the pain-shouldnt she/he b getting to the bottom of the problem.U shud try femminax cos theyre really effective (dunno if they sell them in the usa) if not,try ibuprofen or paracetamol.A nice hot bath helps to reduce those horrible cramps as does a heated pad or hot water bottle which u can put on ur tummy.
Best wishes & feel better soon
liz

Helpingfriend

replied on January 22nd, 2004

New User

My parent doesn't want me on bc, I want on it. My doctor has tried me on at least 10 different levels of pain killers, I even got knocked out once by the er people. I have had test done and everything came back normal (for the pain).
With my late period problem, I don't thing I am pregant because I had my regular heavy pain full period after the last time I had sex even thought it was a week late. This month I whould have gotten it on the 6th or 7th from when I had my late one in december. I haven't had sex since the middle of november. I'm not gaing any weight, I feel fine, i'm just late.
Are then any kinds of over the counter bc pills or something like them I can get so my parent doesn't have to know and I can maybe get rid of the pain, my doctor has said bc might help with the pain. I have a friend that got bad cramps and she got bc and it helped..

lestg77

replied on January 23rd, 2004

New User

I too have had extremely painful periods since the age of 12. I dealt with them until 17 when I got on bc pills- it was the only thing that helped. When I got off of bc pills at age 20 my pain came back worse than ever. They finally did surgery to see if I had endometriosis, and I did. Once they removed it I was so much better and didn't need bc pills anymore. I know how frustrating the pain is. Another thing that would sort of help me during the painful times was a hot bath. I could never find the right pain killers to help, and all I would do is end up taking too many of them which of course isn't good. As far as your parents saying you can't have kids later in life from bc pills- I have never heard of that. I was on them for 6 years and got pregnant within 2 months after discontinuing. You may want to look into that more.

lestg77

replied on January 23rd, 2004

New User

Also, I became sexually active at 17 and it was hard for me to tell my mom that I wanted to be on bc pills- but she knew my situation and how bad my pain was, so my sexual experinces wern't even a question in the matter. I really only wanted them for the pain of my periods. Just make sure you use condoms if you arn't on the pill. Anyway, look into some endometriosis websites. Maybe you can see if your symptoms are similar to those with endo, I had to self diagnose myself first then tell the doctor what test I wanted- pretty sad huh!!

christyb

replied on January 28th, 2004

New User

Just when you go to the doctor talk to your doc alone you have the right the doc can tell your parent that the pc pill will help your cramps and they do they helped me some and my sister in law who is 16 and her doc said that that was the only thing to help the pain and it worked !!!!! But your parent will hopefully listen to the doc and think of you! Laughing

Magical_Moonlight_Fairy

replied on January 30th, 2004

New User

I am 17 myself.. I go through very heavy painful periods... Ones where I cant walk or breathe at times... I am not saying what age I became sexual active at but you should try the bc... Bc pills cannot make you not have kids... I know people who have been in it for like 20 years and had a kid... Depo now is a different story... You have to wait like ever before you get pregnet but eh whatever..... Let me tell you another thing... You can be a virgin and still be on bc... Bc helps out with cramps and stuff... So tell your parents that... If they dont like it... You can get them yourself...

fitandwell

replied on February 2nd, 2004

Experienced User

Hi first of all let me say being on the pill does not affect your chances of getting pregnant when u r older, secondly you could try taking evening primrose oil capsule(one a day) for your cramps it is brilliant, I used to have really bad period pains and this helped me also exercise can prevent you from having bad periods, it helps to release endorphins which are the bodies natural painkillers.As for the irregularity of your periods you should see your doctor and let him or her know that you are sexually active they can't help you if they don't have all the facts, don't be embarrassed your'e not going to tell them something they haven't heard before and will no doubt hear again.Hope everything works out.

Sparkles412

replied on February 7th, 2004

Experienced User

Some Advice

If there is a local planned parenthood near you, go there!!!! You do not need parental concent to be put on birth control. Everything that happens there, is completely confidential. You just have to go for a check-up and the doctor there will put you on the pill. My best friend has been going there for 4 years now, and her visits are free, but she only pays $10 for pills, that not bad!!!

Helpingfriend

replied on February 7th, 2004

New User

My doctor wants me to go on the pill b/c she said it will help with the pain and might even help me gain a few pounds (i eat like a pig but only am 103-105lbs). It's my parent who doesn't want me on the pill. One of my best friends just got ont he patch and so I reopened the topic of bc pills and I didn't get anywhere. My one best friends mom even offered to get them and give them to me b/c she has seen me in pain, but if my parent found them I would get in so much trouble. I just want to get rid of the pain. She says to get use to it, but I think if there is a way out of it the I should be loud to make my on choice. I just don't know how to tell her that. I hate getting told no or fighting with adults.... Any idea's???

2ferano

replied on February 16th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Well, maybe you should have your doctor talk to your parent about the pill alone. Because you will not be on the pill for sexual reasons, only for pain. I think if your doctor explained it to your parent carefully, they will understand that you need it. If it is endometriosis it can be very very painful. But before deciding if you want it cut out know this: you can only get it cut out a couple of times before doctors will start pushing for a full hysterectomy. But if the pain is unbearable, then you may want to get it cut out. The right bc pill can help greatly. If you cannot convince your parent, then have your doctor do it. I hope it works out for you!

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