19 Year Old Boy Need Advices. Help Me. Posted: 07-23-06 09:43am
:( im 19 this year and my gf 18. We do
have sex but we planned to stop having sex
because the risk of pregnancy. But since
past 10 days, her usual period still didnt
come. So she went to a checkup and she's
pregnant for 1 month. But last month her
period do game. Just the latest period,
late 10 days and she's pregnant. I really
dont know well about pregnancy. I step up
to take my responbility no matter what is
going on, but my gf decided not to keep
this baby. What should I do? Please give
me a piece of advice. I made the biggest
mistake of my life.
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natzcee
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Posted: 07-23-06 09:48am
1st of all I think you and your gf should
have a talk, maybe you and her should go
see the doctor and seek advice,
ask her if she wants the baby or not,
having a baby at 18 will b realy hard, im
in the same possition all tho ive decided
I want to keep this baby, I know it will b
realy hard but at the end of the day if
your big enough to have unprotected sex
then you big enough to face up to things,
i hope everything goes well 4 u n ur gf
xxx
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tsmeng
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Joined: 23 Jul 2006 Posts: 7
Posted: 07-23-06 09:56am
Yes we did a discussion. I decided to
keep, she decided to abort it. Im in a
real dilemma. Im not sure what should I
do.
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natzcee
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Posted: 07-23-06 10:05am
Just stand by her, give her all the
support she needs! Abortin a baby can b
difficult all I can say is b there 4 her
thats all she'll need xx
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tsmeng
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Posted: 07-23-06 10:11am
Abortion will haunt the rest of my life.
I've killed my own child. I will feel
guilty till the day I die.
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arcadia
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Posted: 07-23-06 10:11am
If she really &truly does not want
this baby, then perhaps you should try to
persuade her to take another route other
than abortion. Abortion is extremely
painful. Physically &emotionally.
There's a good chance she'll regret it,
also. Talk to her about adoption. There
are soo many families out there who are
unable to have children who would rather
die than never have kids. Or even put up
a good debate about you two raising your
child together, like you want to do.
You're the father, you have a say in this,
too.
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natzcee
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Posted: 07-23-06 10:20am
Well explain that too her, sorry I didnt
know u felt that way, just sit have a
realy good talk to her explain what u feel
and fink of other things like adoption or
rasin the baby with her make sure she nos
all the risks of abortion like not being
able to have children and things like that
xxx
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tsmeng
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Joined: 23 Jul 2006 Posts: 7
Posted: 07-23-06 10:26am
Just a question, if she still decide go
for abortion, what can I do? I really
cant force her because she's the one who
carrying the baby.
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natzcee
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Joined: 11 May 2006 Posts: 288 Location: glasgow
Posted: 07-23-06 10:43am
If u explain and she sill goes ahead with
it then thats upto her its her body u cnt
force her to keep it, all u can do is
stick by her x
Tell her that if she was mature enough to
have intercourse with you and open her
legs then she needs to be mature enough to
deal with the consequences and results of
those actions. It takes two to tango,
and abortion is the easy way out. There
is no reason a person cannot go full term
and then plan adoption. If she was
mature enough to have sex then she's d@mn
well mature enough to carry the baby both
you .A.N.D. Her have created.
Although it's her body, it's both your
child. Stand up for yourself. Go to
her parents, go to family planning
together. Do something.
If it bothers you that badly maybe she can
have the baby and you can hold custody of
it?
Last edited by averiex on 07-23-06 10:49am; edited 1 time in total
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tsmeng
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Posted: 07-23-06 10:47am
The very first word and very end word =
abort! Im really dissapointed. Not yet
discuss she already said want to eat pils.
I really dont understand why she cant
even try to discuss before making any
decision. But I stopped her from taking
the pils yet. Why couldnt she be more
wise. She said it's the fate. Come on,
she's not been wise enough. Im crying
alone now.
the very first word and very
end word = abort! Im really
dissapointed. Not yet discuss she
already said want to eat pils. I really
dont understand why she cant even try to
discuss before making any decision. But
I stopped her from taking the pils yet.
Why couldnt she be more wise. She said
it's the fate. Come on, she's not been
wise enough. Im crying alone
now.
is she scared to tell her parents?
Afraid of what people will say about
her?
In my opinion, a parent would be more
pissed off if their child aborted. In
my opinion, a person that is irresponsible
to have unprotected sex, get pregnant, and
then throw away those responsibilities is
more shameful than having this child and
giving it away for adoption. If your
girlfriend doesn't talk about this with
you then frankly I don't think she loves
you or respects your feelings. If she
did she would atleast wise the world up
and realize it's hurting you. She's
stupid for wanting to kill the life that
both of you created. The baby didn't
jump on itself and create itself. You
both did. Tell her to quit acting like
an fool and take responsibility to these
actions!
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tsmeng
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Joined: 23 Jul 2006 Posts: 7
Posted: 07-23-06 11:01am
Her parents very unmatured as well to
accept new things. Like old thinking, all
I can said. Im not sure what should I do.
Even she pissed my feelings and I
realizedthat she not the one for me ( last
time I used to think that but now very
clear ), I dont mind if I raise the child
alone. I really dont mind at all to
become a single father. Eventhough, the
child will without a mom, I really sorry
for that. I really cant to anything and I
dont even know how to punish myself. She
even told me a very rude thing in this
situation. She said now she only think
about her future.
her parents very unmatured
as well to accept new things. Like old
thinking, all I can said. Im not sure
what should I do. Even she pissed my
feelings and I realizedthat she not the
one for me ( last time I used to think
that but now very clear ), I dont mind if
I raise the child alone. I really dont
mind at all to become a single father.
Eventhough, the child will without a mom,
I really sorry for that. I really cant
to anything and I dont even know how to
punish myself. She even told me a very
rude thing in this situation. She said
now she only think about her
future.
then unfortunately she's going to live a
very cold, lonely, unfulfilling, and
stupid life.
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tsmeng
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Joined: 23 Jul 2006 Posts: 7
Posted: 07-23-06 11:26am
sandralynn
wrote:
then maybe she shouldnt have
been having sex.
I hate selfish people.
Unfortunately, sweetie, this country is
blind when it comes to rights. When it
concerns an abortion I think it should
require both the parents signatures and if
the father refuses to sign then no
abortion can be done. All you liberal
feminists can argue all u want about how
*shes the one that has to carry the child
it should be her choice* but then you
turn around and demand that the women that
.D.O keep their child should fight for
child support since *its half the fathers
responsibility*.
Make up your mind, hypocrites.
That baby is half his.. He should have
say so when it concerns its welfare.
But this country caters to the immature
and stupid, which is why these selfish
women can do what they do. The only
thing you can do is tell her how you feel,
tell her you will raise the baby on your
own and not expect anything from her, and
if she stil aborts, leave her and find
somebody that actually gives a damn about
life.
Good luck,
sweetie.
yes, I know. If she still stick to
abortion, I will leave her for good. But
the pain, my 1st own created child, the
sins, will torture me day by day. Thanks
for ur reply.
