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Q: Need Advice On This..........
asked by: sherry24 on July 21st, 2006
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Ok guys, I need some advice on dating. I've been with my boyfriend for about three years. We have two boys together. I love him, but i'm not in love with him anymore. And I have that. When we first met, I was so in love with him, at least I thought I was. But now things have changed. For one, we really don't talk that much anymore, sex, it's pretty much been thrown out the window. I fight with him all the time. I think its stress that puts me in bad moods. All together I have three kids, and i'm at homw with them all day long, and it jsut really stresses me out right now, because I son't get any alone time just for myself. And I take it out on him, which he doesn't really deserve. I seems like we just don't connect anymore. I've actually thought about cheating on him, but then the thought goes away, because i'm not that kind of person, and I care about him to much. Then there's the sex thing, i've tried to talk to him about it, and alls he says is that he'll do better by us having it more. Which that doesn't happen either. I just don't know what to do anymore. I just could use someone elses advice, if you guys have any suggestions, please let me know, and sorry this is along post, I have more to say, but thats pretty much the important stuff

thanks :(
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Spirit
replied on July 23rd, 2006
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Yea, this is the real world.........Relationships start off strong....Lust...Passion...Euphoria....... ...............................Than come the kids.....................Responsiblities and stress equals overworked tired parents.................

.............Ya gotta get out there, get a family member or babysitter and then get a bit of a life for yourself. You need to just have fun, or take a course.....Something to show to yourself your more than just a stay at home mom(the most rewarding yet stressful job there is!!!). The kids will benefit from a happier mom too and so will the bf......And tone down the ragging on him.....You said he doesn't deserve it and I doubt it puts him in the mood......

.....And oh yeah, you may want to have a chat with the bf......My guess his feelings have changed too?!

You had something before maybe you can reignite the fires! :)
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sherry24
replied on July 23rd, 2006
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I don't think that his feelings have changed, because if it did, then he wouldn't show how much he loved me and say things like that, if he didn't love me. It's not like a b**** at him everyday, it's like once or twice a week. I've tried to talk to him, and he says things will change, but they don't. I try everything. He just comes home from work, eats, and goes to sleep, leaving me with the kids. I can't even get to take a shower until like 9:00 at night, when the kids go to sleep. I figure something out.

Thanks
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