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Q: Dating Single Father of Two..
asked by: daisey25_2003 on July 20th, 2006
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
First of all I would like to say is... I love him and his two daughters to pieces he a terrifc father to them..... But...

I'm feeling neglected and frustrated. I know he loves me alot and the girls do to, but I feel like an outsider. I try to make him understand how I feel, which leads us into fighting.I know the kids (3) and (4). Take up alot of time plus his work, but it hurts me. I probally sound selfish, but i'm being honest.Just out of curiousty.. How many parents sleep with there kids when they go to sleep.? Ie: like if they wake up and want a sippy cup? I always thought they should put the kid back to bed. Then they should go back to bed w/ there gf/ bf/spouse or what ever.

I've read alot of posts on her about dating a single parent and have to worry about the other parent stickin there nose in everything, in my case she doesnt do that. Him and her get along for the kids sake and thats that.

I just need some advice on how to change the way I feel, and understand the whole single dating thing..Lol we do live together ( 3 months). He's 45 and i'm 27. Maybe that has alot to do with it, but I dont know anymore.
I know he doesn't try to neglect me and things, thats just the way I feel.

Thanks ya all!


~ daisey
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ssparklers26 replied on July 20th, 2006
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I hate to say this but I think some of it as to do with the age difference. His priorities right now are his children (as they should be) that means that everything else comes second including his relationship with you. Now that said most people can find a balance between the two but it is hard. If he's the one doing most of the raising and working as well he's already got his hands full. Add to that his children are very young and require a great amount of time and atenttion. I don't think your being selfish I just think you might want a different sort of relationship. Remember this when you enter into a relationship with a man with children and an x you take on his life. It's not his job to change his world to meet yours. I don't mean to sound harsh at all i'm sure you guys get along well and could be very compatible I just think you need to clearly see that his life comes with a lot of baggage. You can help both you and him by being as supportive as possible and letting him know how much you enjoy spending time with him. Once your relationship with him and his children balances out you'll find that tings get easier.

Hope I helped and good luck
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