I was a single mom of two. Unless you have family to help its going to be very hard. I had my parents, worked a full time job and cared for my boys at night when I got home. I was very tired. It got stress full for me at times but thats when your family and freinds come into play to give you that time you'll need for yourself. I hope everything works out for you.

I went threw the first 2 months with my babys father... Then we split up... He came back when I was 7 months for a week and we split up again... And so I went threw 98% alone... And the birth was just me.. And since its been just me. Casey says he is going to come down here but.. I dont know.

I am four and a half months preg. And we are split up, I dont think hes going to end up being anymore then a child support check. I found out hes been sleeping with his other babys mom and me at the same time, and all this other caca. So im scared now, need to go get tested for stds again. But im so fed up with him, finding out hes with her didnt even hurt me, its just the baby im sad about. Is it true I can get him to sign child support papers now? And what about him signing the birth certificate, whats with that if he dosent sign do I have to do a paternity test to force him to?

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you can't get child support until the baby is born, you'll give them the fathers name, they'll call him in for a dna test and if he doesn't come in a warrant will be issued for his arrest. If the test comes back him being the father, he'll have to pay child support, and if he also misses payments he'll go to jail. That's how it is in the state of missouri.

You can't force anyone to sign a birth certificate, they either agree to do it or they don't.

Yeah the state of missouri, ahahahha right. My dad is thousands of dollars behind, and they always threaten him with jail.. He still doesn't pay it, they'll set a court date and put him on probation. It's a never ending cycle, they'll garnish his wages and he'll quit that job in a few weeks and get to a new one, same thing over and over. Hes such a panzy. I hate it here.

really?

My brother and sister's dad (we have diff dads) he got his leg chopped off because he got it stuck in a hay thingy, and when he's late on a payment they tell him to either pay or he'll go to jail.

My dad is a psychotic abusive f*ck whom i've met once and said nothing to him. I have a man that I call my dad who has raised me since I was 2 and I consider him my dad all the way, my parents got divorced and we still talk on the phone everyday.

I'm a single mom. I was "with" my ex until I was about 7 months pregnant or so...And then we broke up and now my daughter is 3 and a half months old. He's never seen her, and I wouldn't change that for the world (unless of course he was a decent person). When we were "together" he never helped out or was any kind of support system, so I still feel like I did the whole pregnancy on my own. All he did was cause more problems then he was worth. I wish we had broken up sooner, to be honest, I think I would have been so much happier and been able to enjoy my pregnancy to the fullest.

If he is missing out that is his fault. Don't feel bad, your baby will have as much love as it needs through you and your family/friends.

Atleast with me, I would much rather be single and alone for the rest of my life then be with someone and not be truly happy. I think your baby would be a lot more unhappy too if it was raised in an unhappy household full of cheating and lies. Children are very perceptive, and he/she would pick up the tension and unhappyness right from birth (even while it's still in the womb it can sence your feelings and react to it!).

good advice kimmeh!!

I'm not with the baby's father because as some of you know he's in a better place but I have a father figure for brayden whom I think is great. We have been together for a really long time off and on ( my choice) and I am starting to feel really good about it. He loves brayden a lot and plays the daddy roll to the fullest.

Being a single mom would be hard & I hope i'm never in that situation.

Im 17, 30 weeks pregnant and will be a single mother.

It's a hard thing to do, probably the hardest thing you will ever face. My bf left me when I was 7 weeks pregnant with my son and I had to do it all by myself. I was expecting my mom to be there and be a support but she moved when I was 5 months pregnant. I had undiagnosed bipolar disorder at the time as well so was coping with the wonderful mood swings that come with that and had severe ppd (post partum depression) as well as post traumatic stress disorder. I was lucky enough to have a couple of very good friends who would occasionally help by watching my son for me for a couple of hours so I could try to get some rest. He had severe colic for the first 10 months and I wouldn't have gotten through it without them.

I hope for you girls that are going it alone that you have friends and/or family who will help. I'm sending all of you good wishes.

Post script
i realized after I first posted this that it wasn't very encouraging. I don't want to scare those of you who are going it alone but I don't want to give you a false idea of how hard it will be. What I didn't say is this: it may be the hardest thing you will do, but every time you see your baby smile, hear it laugh or teach it something new, your heart will burst with joy. The most rewarding experience on the face of the planet is to raise a child and see it do well. Hang in there.

Innessa that was completely uncalled for and rude. We didnt ask for this situation, and some of us have had partners die during the pregnancy. Others were forced into having the sex, or were too scared to refuse it and got pregnant that way. Many were in a relationship for a long time before falling pregnant at which point their partners left. It is not up to you to decide who should get an abortion and who should not. It is up to the individual themself. Furthermore i have not read any of the mothers or mothers to be complaining that they are single, and what of those that choose not to get married for personal reasons. Until you have been in the situation you do not know what it is like.

Well i hadnt long found out i was pregnent when my boyfiend at the time had died so i did the rest myself. Luckly i do have really close family so they looked after me.
nw i have a fiancee and another lovly little boy. just keep the chin up girls

it gets better
xxx

I just found out i was pregnant... i couldnt be happier... that is untill i found out that my husband of 3 years dosent want it and is trying to get me to abort it.... he says we are not financaly fit to have a kid.... but this is all i have ever dreamed of being a mom. he has said it is him or the baby...and that im not "fit to be a singal mom so you should just kill the damb thing"

i honestly dont know what i should do. i was releaced from my job just a few weeks ago and im at a loss.he did say if i get a job and pay for everything ( he has one but LOVES his money) then i can keep the baby. but who is going to employ a soon to be mom??? if i dont then he say give it for adpotion... i looked into it and found a good family just in case.

The worst part is he keeps changing his mind on if he wants me to keep it and try or not.

am i in the wrong here. i have no job and he dosent want to pay but i cant just kill it.


i just hope my friends

I am tryna get an insight on things of how it's gonna be once i become a single parent. As of right now me and my husband are still together but i am thinking of a divorce before we go any further and i let him do me like he wants too, i am still young and four months pregnant this will be my first and i never imagined that i would ever go through this with a man who baby i am carrying.

hi, i just found out im 5 weeks pregnant and i dont know what to do. i dont know if i want to keep it or get an abortion. my boyfriend has told me he doesnt want the baby but if i did decide to keep it he would help me but im sure he would break up with me. i dont know if i could go through with an abortion but i dont want to lose my boyfriend but then i dont want to make my decision based on him.
has anyone got any good advice or anything that might help me in this situation please?

hi..im 9 weeks pregant from a boyfriend on nearly 7 years..on and off tho. he forced me into having unprotected sex and made me believe he was ready for this baby.. he apparently was seeing another girl and only just realised it. His parents and family do not want me and they have made it clear that they will not allow me to ask for child maintainance from him.

i feel so cheated and unfairly treated. I loved him with all my heart and part of me still does. I cry everyday and cannot eat or sleep

please, can someone help me

I am now 9 weeks pregnant. 24 years old, college graduate, and I have a good paying job. I had a stupid drunken one night stand with a guy I've known for about a year. And now I'm pregnant. I just can't help feeling like having an abortion would be selfish, since I'm at a time in my life where I'm perfectly capable of raising a child. This "man" has shown he will have nothing to do with me or the child. I am honestly terrified of going through the pregnancy and the birth without a partner. It's just not the way you see things happening, but I feel like God wouldn't of given me this gift if I weren't suppose to go through with it. It's very depressing and confusing.

I was in a similar situation. I thought he used protection but found out "afterwards" that he did not. 5 weeks later I discovered I was pregnant. I told him in person I was pregnant and since then I have not seen him. He has been hurtful, uncaring and a jerk. I also just found out he has a girlfriend (whom he had when we were together) which explains his actions/behavior. I am certainly facing my share of panic, and fears knowing that I am soley responsible for this little life growing inside me. It is not easy and has had its ups and downs, however the precious life growing inside me is a blessing. When I saw that little heartbeat at my 8 week ultrasound, I was hooked. He is probably mad I did not get an abortion but I do not personally believe in abortion. We are both adults and have responsibilities. He may not want to show any emotional support but that is okay. You can find that through family and friends. Granted this is not the ideal situation you would ever place yourself in. Women are resilient and strong creatures and this pregnancy will prepare you - that is why we have 9 months. Sure it sucks to do it alone sometimes, but there is also benefits. You can plan how you will raise YOUR child, buy what you want to buy for it, and you don't have to worry about some man not understanding what you are going through. Cause even the married ones usually feel a little left out, and clueless. Hang in there and know that you can do anything you put your mind too. Like being an awesome Mom!

P.S. I am 41 weeks pregnant and will be induced on Friday. I am a little nervous, apprehensive and excited all in one. My mother will be there with me and I am so grateful. If you are pregnant and alone, then finding a good support system is key. I felt shame and fear when I first found out I was pregnant and although I am 28 yrs old I was still scared to tell my mom. Gratefully she understood that I was upset and did not badger me. Instead she was excited to be a grandmother and has been supportive ever since. I even grew to be happy about the pregnancy. If you don't have a great relationship with your mother, a friend, or other relative can be a great help too. My mother and I actually bonded during my pregnancy and our relationship has improved by leaps and bounds in the last 9 months. Good luck to all! Hopefully whatever decision you make, you will be at peace.