Hi buzzybee. I am sorry that you had to make such a hard decision. It was exactly how I felt. When I learned about my pregnancy I was about doing everything to keep my baby (you said you don't think you can abort your twins) and to make the pregnancy joyful as much as it was possible. Then, after some time my moods changed to negative and I decided to have abortion. And I had it 8 days ago.. I even ran away from the first appointment because got into panic but still did it 2 days later.
I just ask you, please make sure, that your decision is not based on 1) other people's influence 2) hormone changes. I went through consideration regarding abortion very carefully, I had many days to think about it and had no pushing from anyone, so decision was mine and only mine. (this knowing helps me now).
Please make sure, that your arguments are reasonable. You can share your thoughts and fears here. I will help you as much as I can. If want, send me a private message.

No, no-one has influenced me at all, that I am grateful for. This is completely my decsion as fo rmy hormones, at the moment they are telling me to continue with the pregnancy, but I know that at this time that would be a mistake. Xx

well I am glad to hear that it is completely your decision. As for hormones, they told me in opposite - to terminate pregnancy, now with sober and clear mind I don't think I would do it, but put me in the same situation again, and I would make the same decision. Buzzybee, how old are you? You still have a week for consideration, am I right?

I have till thursday. Im 20.

Wow 20... I had my abortion at 20.... I am 24 now =)

time flies so fast..

I am glad you are making the decision for you, and doing what is best for you.

you are very young honey, and all your life is in the future. Be with us this week, that I believe is very hard for you. If you have any doubts, just share here. If not, I am with you and will comfort you when needed.... Take care.

Hey buzzy it is so good you have already came to such a hard decision in such little time. I wish u so much luck on thursday and make sure u come on here before and after for any reassurance or advice you need. The best to you hun!!! *hugs*

and toja if 20 is young what does that make me? Im 18 lol!!!

hey sweet cherry :) wow, you are 18! I am 27 already huh. I was surprised that you are so young, because you look so mature and experienced in your hard decision making. For example, I thought that caryfairy is older than she is because of thoughtful advices she gave here. Everyone here looks older... And I guess I know why...

lol, I like to think I am mature sometimes, yer other times I can be pretty immature! Which I reckons ok 4 my age! Since ive only just turned 18! :)
yeh carifairy is the .Don at giving advice! She knows everything!! So how r u 2day toja? Oh and I think 27 is very young :) (this means you too lisa!!!)hehe

I am only about to be 24 in 8 days =). But because I did not have a baby when I was 18 or 20 (when I got pregnant), I was able to get a good college education. I am still in college too, I love learning, and want to further educate myself =)

well happy birthday for 7 days!!! :)

and the bit bout getting your education e.T.C good on ya girl! Theres so few women left theses days that dont just have kids and become a stay at home mum. (i.E the easy way ouy)men and women are equal these days, its a shame some women and men are stuck in the 50's :roll:

lol

Buzzybee, how are you today?

I think she said she was going on holiday; perhaps that is why she hasn't posted lately? I hope so anyway.

She went away for a weekend ages ago.

She hasnt been back for ages.

You'd know that if it wasnt for everything getting deleted.

I may get blasted for this, but I believe it's important enough to talk about.

I am on an abortion support site. This one is for women only who have had abortions to talk about their experience and how to cope with it. It is not for debate, or for pregnant women who are questioning their pregnancy.

Buzzybee is on there. I know this, because she has the same handle, is from the same location, said that "buzzybee" is always her handle because it's her nickname, and had a twin pregnancy she recently terminated. The timeline lines up exactly as well. The chances of this being someone else is pretty nill.

I bring this up not to ostracize buzzy, or call attention to her decision, or dehumanize her, or criticize her, or any of those negative things people will jump the gun about.

I bring this up because it is important for women who are considering abortions to know that many women who have already had abortions know what they are talking about when they tell you something. This is, as buzzy said in the other forum, a lesson learned too late.

She completely regrets her decision. She, to summarize, wishes anything to still be pregnant with her twins. She's do anything to have them back, wishes she didn't listen to people, etc.

These may be feelings of regret only brought about by hormones, or these may be feelings she would never of had if she hadn't of had the abortion. She may instead feel very resentful of the twins for interrupting her life. Who knows?

The point is, women, and I am completely pro-choice by the way, there is a very high risk you will regret the decision to have an abortion. Not everyone will, certainly, but you may. And since I am staunchly pro-woman, I beg, plead, and beseech you to shut out all other influences, and make a clear decision based on you- not anything else. Not your parents, not friends, relatives, boyfriends, husbands, society, religion, education, finances, anything.

I bring up buzzy b/c it's here in black and white that she was all for it, and felt okay with it, and now she is not.

If you wish to doubt me about her example, then use myself for one. I was okay with it, now I am not. I am not a gooey, pro-baby, diaper toting, kid loving person at all. I have never wanted kids. Also, I am highly educated, intelligent, and introspective. I thought I too was okay with this desicion, b/c it was the "best" decision. Now I am convinced I was wrong.

Again, because I am pro-woman I ask for women to do for themselves what is best, and I ask that they take serious time to consider this decision. Do not rush! Take your time, think, go off by yourself for three days and be away from influences. You owe yourself three days, at least.

Only love,
birch

Not true..She was not 100% for it.

She posted in her previous post "i feel like I have no choice"

for women who know that they truly want an abortion, they are unlikely to feel regret.

Regardless, it still stands for itself. She felt she had no other choice, as may many that read this, and yet she wishes now that she had made a different choice. My point is that you owe it to yourself to take time to make such a decision.

i don't think many women do rush the decision whether or not to abort a pregnancy.
No-one can tell you how you're going to feel following an abortion, something that seems like the best decision at the time may cause you more hurt than you realise but its not a definate either way

i know which site you're talking about so i'm pleased buzzybee is receiving support.

I am considered fairly well off financially, yet I still had an abortion, and I have no regrets..

Some women just know that they want an abortion, so they are less likely to have problems with regrets.