Do not take his lack of sex drive personally. It is the medication. This is something I have been dealing with half my life. I am a 36 yr. Old female who was diagnosed as a teenager. The lack of sex drive is always been a problem for me. I had a doctor once explain to me that basically the medications calm all emotions including sexual feelings. This actually was such a problem in my first marriage that we divorced. Lucky for me I was able to find a wonderful man who is very understanding and accepts me for who I am. Living with someone who is bi-polar takes a lot of patience and understanding. Just remember don't take any of the drastic mood changes personally.

I'm just finding out that the reason she always called me bipolar is that she is in fact bipolar. she has driven me crazy for the past 4 years, in part because she can tell a story with no effort and seem true!

recently she had an episode in an airport and was running throughout the terminal going from plane to plane and even assaulted airport law enforcement, they then sent her to a state menatal institute. all verifiable.

her "boyfriend" picks her up from the hospital and I believe 2 hours later they were having sex. I even called the boyfriend and he verifies that they are together. cool, I'm free and clear and am estatic.

now she calls me, after her family threatens her with expolsion for being with this fella, she calls me and explains that the medication she has been given at the hospital comes with a "no sex" while on medication rule!! now I'm crazy again because this sounds like a pathological lie that was given enough time to create.

Whitebull, I'm right there with you. My husband was diagnosed with rapid cycling bipolar disorder three years and three months ago. Until about a year ago, he was very unstable, but had a sex drive. Then with a complicated cocktail of medicine that stabilized the bipolar symptoms, his sex drive completely diminished. We've had sex only about three times over the last year. My husband's psychiatrist assures him that it's the medication (he's on about six different psychotropic meds), and that he will keep playing with the combination until he finds one that both stabilizes my husband's moods AND allows him a sex drive.

My husband's lack of sex drive was something I accepted as part of the process of stabilizing his disease. But recently, as we've approached the "one year, no sex" mark, I have become incredibly depressed. I'm 28 and he's 30. We'd like to start a family, but it's virtually impossible right now. It seems like half the women I know are pregnant, and I learn about a new pregnancy just about every week. I've found it incredibly depressing, and have lately found myself weeping just thinking about the fact that we're not even having sex, let alone planning a baby.

I want to be wanted and desired, and I want to be able to conceive. I long for the kind of emotional connection most women find in sex with their husbands. I love my husband deeply and desperately, and for me, giving up isn't an option. But at the same time, for most women sex is more emotional than it is physical, and, frankly, that reality is taking a toll on our marriage and the extent to which I am content. It's hard to admit that.

Hang in there--and get your husband to ask your doctor to find a combination of meds that gives him back his sex drive. I hope we both get there!

Rosa is now living with me, she is almost a new woman, she finally sleeps for very long periods of time. even looks healthier, gained a lot of wight, but over all she is so much better.

however she recently played me for a shopping spree, saying we would have sex after her period but as in the past she put it over on me, i gott totally pissed this time and lost me cool, because now my bills aren't paid, we got into an arguement, some shoving and alot of verbal abuse. but two hours later we were sleeping in the same bed.

this stuff is driving me crazy and now I think I am bipolar. or suffering from madness.