I have an idea, have them listen to a baby screaming for a really long time! Thats not cute! I had to drive home with my family and the baby was upset and I was stuck in traffic and she screamed almost the whole time! I mean scream! And then kristen was crying because she was thirsty! So both of them crying at the same time while stuck on the road for over an hour! How annoying could that be. I can only imagine if I had to have that when I have kids! I had such a headache, then the baby took a mean you know what, and it stunk! Thats not cute either! Lol

Well I never wanted it..And I had dreams for myself..Which I am still making happen

but when ur pregnant ur guna be a mommy

..Just tell em, put urself in your mothers shoes..Shes raising u and has such big dreams for u and for a baby to have and raise a baby its really tough.

Just that things will change forever and unless theyre completely content with their life as is...Its only guna make it harder..

Dont get me wrong its a blessing and a joy, but its really hard.

And I am totally rambling but maybe u got something outa what I said...

Bah-i jus went to the doc. And im all excited about my ultrasound,sry if im not all there..Im giddy!!

Yay!
Love mol

I'm 15 and this baby was definatly not planned. But I agree with you...I wish that I could open the eyes of young teens and just make that relise that its not easy and stuff. At my high school over 30 girls are pregnant...Sadly....Only 10 -15 wont have an abortion.

I just wanted to bring this back up so maybe some people will read it and understand that having kids is not about cute clothes and trips to the park. Them are the rare moments!

Babys are adorable.. Everyone knows that. .But for u teen girls wanting a baby... Did u think about what it also involves? The not so cute stuff?!




- no more parties
-no more child hood
-no more doing things your friends can do
- being completely depended on from the baby.. If u mess up (which teens are still normally aloud to do) then u hurt the baby as well! So basically you cant make mistakes in judgement etc, u have to become an adult.



- work work work- gotta save up every penny for your baby.



- if u live with your parents, they are gonna ride your ass and basically, u'll still be the young kid, they will just try to run your life by telling you how to raise your kid (only trying to help)
- what about prom? Dances? Boyfriends? (cuz yes, boyfriend, alot of the tiem do leave once the kid comes a long) late curfews? Going out? Clubs when u hit 18? --- nope, your friends will be out doing this, u'll be indoors changing diapers and trying to sleep, do your homework etc. While your baby finally decides to stop crying, and take a nap.



- what about college? Your career? Homework.. School... U have someone elses future to think about now, so yours just might have to be put on hold.




This is only some of the many tuff consequences of being a teenage mother. Im not trying to scare the many of us teens who are pregnant now because we all know what were in for, im not saying theres not good things too cuz there is. But u know what, we did something, and we will live with it. Why try to create this hard lifestyle? Wait till u grow up!!!

Sorry, mines long!@

* im also going to post this seperatly to the teens wanting to get preg*

You know I was just thinking this the other day....If I was a younger girl who wanted a baby and I came into this particular forum, I would say we all make motherhood seem so fun and awesome! Has anyone else realized that? I mean we are all excited about what our babies did today, what we bought them, our ultrasounds and such. Which isn't a bad thing for us..But to a young girl who wants a baby it sounds like so much fun! I wish I could invite them girls to stay with me for a week!!! It won't be as much fun as they think. And even if they can handle it for a week...Whos to say 18 years of that?! Don't get me wrong, my pregnancy was pretty much planned, and I wouldn't trade jayden for anything in the world. And I have said many many times, I have accopmlished more in my life thank I probably would have if I didn't have a baby, because I have to for my daughters sake. Times can get tough. I mean I cannot explain how tiring it is. Like in the mornings after you have stayed up all hours of the night with the baby and not to mention trying to get dishes and laundry done. I dread waking up at 7am!!! But I can count on that every morning! So..After I drag my butt outta bed I have to feed and bathe jayden half asleep!!! By the time the afternoon rolls around I am exhausted!!! But I cannot lay down to take a nap because jayden isn't ready to nap yet. So I have to force myself to stay awake and cheer up to play with my daughter. Finally she may lay down for a nap...And so do i. But she dosen't take long naps, so I get maybe a 2 hr nap. Which now when I wake up I am still tired because I didn't get a decent nap. Eeeeck I hate that feeling when you are so dang tired, but you can't sleep because baby is up. I could go on and on about all the cons of having a child at a young age, but I try not to look at it that way because like I said...My daughter is my world and I wouldn't trade her for anything ever in the entire world. It's just not as easy as it looks or seems. So all you young girls out there..Take my advice and enjoy your teen years. You have the rest of your life to make a family, but you don't have the rest of your life to be a teen/child.

~sara~

Hey,

i know you are trying to scare girls to not preggie. I have taken care of my mya my old bestfriends baby she is 16 months old. I know its not all fun. She sh*its her dipair I clean it. She pukes I clean it up. Some girls dont understand it is hard. It is one of the hardest things you will ever have to do. But some girls are ready for it like me. So just dont say younge girls wanting to get preggie cuz its all nice and cute. Most of them do know what it is like. If you put your mind to it you can do anything you want to.

Alison xoxo

How old r u kitty? And r u pregnant? I really dont think anyone can possibly know just how hard it is until they have one of their own.

No I am not preggie I am 16. You cant say I dont know how hard it is. I took care of mya everyday, with sonja her mother. Her mother sonja did nothing for her. She would go out and party and get drunk and f*ck random guys. I am not like her what so ever. I dont drink I dont party I would give up my life for a baby. I think a baby would be the best thing that could ever happen to me. I know I am younge and I know how babys are and stuff. I am not gonna go out and sleep with any guy. I know what it is not to have a dad in my life.

Alison xoxo

So u want one right now????


I understand u mite have taken alot of care of someone elses kid.. But its still not the same. I babysat for a family every single day, watched the kids for like 8 hours each day.. Took care of them a ton. .But its still not the same. And at 16, no one can really be ready until they have to force themselves if they are put in the situation. Sorry, my mind cant change about that. Im just so sick of hearing all these posts of 14, 15, 16, and 17 year olds planning to get pregnant right now.. If they think their mature, they can wait. God I just wish they all would finish highschool before making babyplans..

I am not planning to have one. If I do end up getting preggie I wont get an abortion. I am not going to go out and f*ck every guy I see. When I do have sex he wears a condom. I sleep with the same guy since sept. I have had sex with one other guy since than and he wore a condom. I am on b/c too. It might not be right for your life having one so younge but it is right for other people. If I do get preggie b4 I finshed highschool I will go to school where their is a baby sitting centre in the school.They take care of them while u r in classses. How old r u anyways?

Well; thats good. .It sounds like u have a head on ur shoulders and are careful etc. So thats really good to hear.. But no I dont think its ''right'' for anyone this young. .But I agree, if u, or anyone, does end up pregnant, I am against abortion as well. I am 18, im 4 months pregnant. Unplanned. Was on birth control but I guess there was a loop hole and I somehow ended up pregnant. Even im young to have a kid.

U r only 2 years older than me. You are saying its bad for me having a kid? What about you?? It just angers me off ppl saying younge girls having babys are bad. I do think girls who r 14 and younger having kids r bad. Every person is differnt. I know and so do many other ppl my mom my nana even christina thinks I would be a good mother. If I end up getting preggie I will do anything I could do make it have the best life ever.

Kitty I thought the same way as you are right now....I went of birth control purposley...Jaydens father and I pretty much planned it...And I was wrong about everything I thought. It is hard. How do u plan to go to school and raise a child??? And my bf makes tons of money therefore I dont have to work and I get to stay home and enjoy my daughter. Not everyone is as lucky as I am to have someone like that. And even so...We still have problems making ends meet at times.

~sara~

Umm first of 2 years does make a difference. .I graduated a year ago from highschool.. So theres one big difference. Second of all I was on birth control.. Not trying to have a kid at all, not wanting to have a kid at all. If someone ends up pregnant young then yes they should have it and take care of it and im sure they can be a good mom. But planning it or wanting it at a young age is way different. I even think 18 is young to have a kid.. I feel young to have a kid.. But at least an 18 year old is out of school. That makes a biggger difference then u think . But like I said, my pregnancy was way unplanned.. I didnt want a kid right now at all and u and other 16 year olds and other highschoolers saying their ready for a baby, I think thats just immaturity right there. But once again to remind u, im not saying young people can make good moms cuz I know theres wonderful good moms here.. But a planned young pregnancy is different then just excepting the responsibility of unplanned consequences. Sorry if u feel like people are gangin up on u.. But ive been hearin this all too much.

Also kitty....How are you going to financially raise a child?! My fiance makes over 20 dollars an hour and I was making 15...Its still financially hard to raise that child! You have no hs diploma...Let alone a college degree of any sort. What do you think your going to do??? Believe me I thought the same friggen way as you are right now! I raised my niece from 2 days old which means I was about 14-14 yrs old until now...I still do and she will be 5 in june. Its hard! I don't care how old you are...No one is totally prepared for a child. Things come up..Do you have your own vehicle...Or a license for that matter? What happens when your car breaks down and you need a couple hundred dollars to fix it otherwise you cannot go to work or school. Do you realize how hard it is to breastfeed...And my daughters formula is now 13 dollars a 12 oz can! She goes through several cans a month!!! Baby food...Oh man don't even get me started. It dosen't seem expensive at 50 cents a jar...It ads up!!!


~sara~

Their is this school here that has daycare for your baby. It doesnt cost u anything. I am just saying if I do end up getting preggie I will be happy but I am not gonna go out and try to.

I just think everyone is differnt and belives the own thing. 2 years does not make a differnt what so ever. I will be gradding next year. I will have a career in hairdressing cuz the school I go to now they will pay for it. I know babys are hard. I am not saying they are easy or anything. I am mature enough to take care of one. Most likely I wont end up being preggie till I am older. I just think no one should tell anyone what is right and what is wrong.

Why does everyone think I am planning to have a kid? I am not! I am just saying what is right for you may not be right for other people. If I do end of getting preggie I will get a job I would do anything to get money. I would have support from my mom and my nana.