I am a 21 year old female, with a great
job, my own place and a boyfriend who I am
desperately in love with. Our lifestyle
is not what you would call "typical" we
are both musicians and metalheads. We
often will have friends over and drink...
In the last few years my drinking has
become a serious problem. I drink around
friends and I am happy! But as soon as I
come home or see my boyfriend I completely
freak out. Last night I was crying and
crying over something we had allready
argued about and fixed.. Then I hit and
punched him, smashed my guitar and some
dishes. When I woke up this morning I was
embarassed and felt extremely guilty. I
am such a passive and nice person when i'm
sober. I dont want to hut anyone! I must
know how I can quit drinking and do it
around a whole pack of people who are
constantly drinking! Any help would be
greatly appreciated!
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shadowalker164
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Jan 2005 Posts: 175 Location: Tampa, FL
Posted: 07-18-06 09:34am
“i must know how I can quit drinking and
do it around a whole pack of people who
are constantly drinking!”
sugar, that may be impossible. We drink,
that is what we do. If I could have
stopped just by saying so, I would have.
But it didn’t happen.
Someone would push a drink in my direction
and I drank it. Then I drank another, and
another and another. Emeraldearth, you
know what I am talking about when I say
one drink leads to a bunch more. We
drink, that’s what we do.
There is a way out, actually there may be
a few ways out, but most of us chose to
bury our feelings in the bottle or the
pipe rather than face the reality of our
existence. In short, most of us never
stop drinking. We drink literally until
we can not drink any more.
Some of the luckier ones get killed in
auto accidents or bar fights or some other
drunken mishap. But most of us just go
drinking until we have thrown away our
boyfriends/girlfriends, husbands/wives,
homes, our children and our health.
Look around where you live. Look behind
the garbage cans, down the alleys, you
will see them. The unlucky ones. The
ones who are taking that alcoholic
elevator all the way down.
You can get off it at any floor
emeraldearth. But living with alcohol
being consumed all around you every day is
about the hardest way to go about it.
The best help I can offer you is
alcoholics anonymous. Find a woman who
has been sober for a while and stick close
to her. Find out how she did this almost
impossible feat.
And remember, you only need to change one
thing about yourself, and that is
everything.
Richard
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Jaleigh
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Oct 2005 Posts: 34
Posted: 07-26-06 00:53am
shadowalker164
wrote:
“i must know how I can
quit drinking and do it around a whole
pack of people who are constantly
drinking!”
sugar, that may be impossible. We drink,
that is what we do. If I could have
stopped just by saying so, I would have.
But it didn’t happen.
Someone would push a drink in my direction
and I drank it. Then I drank another,
and another and another. Emeraldearth,
you know what I am talking about when I
say one drink leads to a bunch more. We
drink, that’s what we do.
There is a way out, actually there may be
a few ways out, but most of us chose to
bury our feelings in the bottle or the
pipe rather than face the reality of our
existence. In short, most of us never
stop drinking. We drink literally until
we can not drink any more.
Some of the luckier ones get killed in
auto accidents or bar fights or some other
drunken mishap. But most of us just go
drinking until we have thrown away our
boyfriends/girlfriends, husbands/wives,
homes, our children and our health.
Look around where you live. Look behind
the garbage cans, down the alleys, you
will see them. The unlucky ones. The
ones who are taking that alcoholic
elevator all the way down.
You can get off it at any floor
emeraldearth. But living with alcohol
being consumed all around you every day is
about the hardest way to go about it.
The best help I can offer you is
alcoholics anonymous. Find a woman who
has been sober for a while and stick close
to her. Find out how she did this almost
impossible feat.
And remember, you only need to change one
thing about yourself, and that is
everything.
Richard
that is great advise richard. You said
it all perfectly.
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Makoto
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Jul 2006 Posts: 263 Location: Japan
Posted: 09-05-06 08:44am
Read allen carrs "easy way to control
drinking". You will not be tempted to
drink again. You will be able to hang
around other drinkers as well.
Big claims I know, just read the book.
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prev10
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Aug 2006 Posts: 6
Posted: 09-24-06 23:18pm
It can't be too difficult find the help
you need..
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ejroot
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Mar 2006 Posts: 6
Posted: 10-03-06 22:42pm
prev10
wrote:
it can't be too difficult
find the help you
need..
i can't understand how you say it can't be
difficult. It makes me wonder if you have
ever had a problem at all, whether
alcoholism or other wise. Any addiction
is "difficult" to over come. No matter
what the addiction may be, and there are
some addictions out there that have
nothing to do with substances (but I guess
that would be in another forum). And help
is not always easy to get. I know its out
there, but, it is easier said than done.
I am an alcoholic and no matter how much I
want to stop I can't help but buy it.
Then after I buy it I tell myself I wont
drink it all (you know, cut down) and
after just one shot i'm in it all the way
and wishing for more. I'm not much for
the "aa" thing because of an anxiety thing
but I really wish I could. Just venting,
sorry.
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shadowalker164
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Jan 2005 Posts: 175 Location: Tampa, FL
Posted: 10-04-06 14:09pm
Ejroot…
welcome to the forum. I also was taken by
the simplistic message that it can’t be
too difficult to find the help one might
be looking for. It is often quite the
opposite. This disease is very difficult
to treat. Recovery options are more
available than they used to be, but
recovery rates still are very low.
We start out the day telling ourselves,
today will be different, i’m not going
to get drunk today, but we almost always
find an excuse for just one. And like you
said. After one drink, we are in it all
the way. Ejroot, I understand what is
going on in your life very well. It was
that way for me as well.
I am an alcoholic.
There are two things I believe about this
disease.
#1 it only gets worse with time,
alcoholism over any appeasable length of
time only gets worse, it never seems to
get better on it’s own.
& #2 there are thousands, hundreds of
thousands no, millions of alcoholics just
like you that aren’t drinking today.
There is a way out.
And that is good news
your friend on this ling strange trip
richard
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Makoto
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Jul 2006 Posts: 263 Location: Japan
Posted: 10-18-06 11:16am
Seriously, read the book. It does not
have to be hard to control or quit
drinking. It was and is not hard for me
to give up drinking. Actually, it was
enjoyable.
If it does not work, you have lost
nothing. But what if I am right, and the
book helps you? What then?
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Baddrunk
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Oct 2007 Posts: 1
Bad Drunk Posted: 10-14-07 21:41pm
I hate the way i feel after i have been
drunking. I imbarres m I act like a
dickhead, i treat others bably, i abuse
people. I am nothing like this when sober.
i hate myself for it.
I want to stop drinking im not addicked
but it part of my life.
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shadowalker164
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Jan 2005 Posts: 175 Location: Tampa, FL
Posted: 10-15-07 10:21am
Baddrunk, before someone states the
simple, but uneducated question, why
don’t you just stop, let me say hello.
My name is Richard and I remember coming
to in the morning and saying to myself,
“You a##hole, you did it again! You told
people that it was going to be different
this time, but you went and got wasted
anyway.
I could not stand myself. I had bulls###ed
everybody that would listen to me so many
times that I had lost count. I was a
failure as a father, a failure as a
husband, and a failure as a man. And I
couldn’t stop drinking. And I hated
myself for it.
Oh, I could go for a day or two, but I
could never make the decision stick. I was
a hopeless, helpless drunk.
I showed up in my first AA meeting, and
some guy asked me if I ever said to
myself, Oh. You turd! I guess my look gave
me away. One of the most important think I
ever heard in a meeting I heard that day.
He said, “The good news is you never
have to feel that way about yourself
again.”
Baddrunk, our relationship with alcohol is
a strong one, it will not let us go
easily. But there is a way out. Do
whatever you think you need to do, just
remember Alcoholics Anonymous is the last
house on the block for drunks like me.
