I have a loving girlfriend who tends to
fall into bouts of depression about her
job, how she looks, how she thinks her
parents view her, how she thinks others
view her and its kinda rough.
On the other hand I am often depressed or
concerned over the fact that she is much
better (or at least better off) than I am
because:
1)her family is much more wealthy than
mine
2)she went to a much more prestigious
college than me
3)just found out she makes more than me at
her job
4)shes had more sex and relationships
whereas I had practically none and this
makes me feel inadequate or lame and
naive.
5) I was a virgin before meeting her and
worry that ive missed out on a lot of
experiences because I didnt just dive in
in the past.
6) my car is a piece of caca
7) I had little self esteem in the past,
which was boosted by having her as a
girlfriend, but now it starting to
decrease because I feel irresponsible or
stupid since shes younger and has a better
paying job.
I have crazy mood swings concerning these
items, whereas she has mood swings based
on the things that bother her.
Im just wondering if anyone else has dealt
with this at all. I feel like I am
constantly embarrassing myself any time I
give her info, like when I told her I was
a virgin, when I told her I only hooked up
with a handful of people, when I told her
my salary, etc etc etc.
Im 29 years old, I feel really naive and
dumb sometimes, even though im more
intelligent and caring than almost
everyone I deal with I still feel that im
lacking certain info that other people
take for granted. Its wierd.
Any advice would be good.
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johnR
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 May 2006 Posts: 229
Posted: 06-27-06 17:21pm
It sounds like the way you are thinking or
processing your thoughts is what is
getting you down. I have always struggled
with my thoughts but now that I have
leanred to use the tea form to counter
them in my cbt group I am feeling so much
better. You may want to join a cbt group
and learn how to counter your thoughts
that are causing your pain and teariung at
your self esteem.
