Stupid Thing.. But Need Help =/

Hiya,

first off can I say apart from everything else that is going on in your life, you should be proud to have kicked the drugs aside, congratulations for having the courage and sticking to it :) from what I am reading, would I be right in thinking that maybe your spells of depression might be related to the absence of the drugs you were using? A kind of withdrawl symptom maybe? I know that if I am off the drink for a day or two I get low really weird feelings, but when I take a drink even if its only a bottle of beer I "perk up". I found getting out into the fresh air and going for a short walk helps lift my spirits and reduce my need for alcohol. As with your relationship because you have both been in bad ones before, maybe your minds have been set to think that it will always be that way no matter whoever else you meet and start relationships with. Obviously you and I know this is untrue as there are decent trust worthy people, just your sub conscience isn't letting you see it that way. I guess its the age old thing of having to sit down with your partner and have a good old fashioned talk. You'd be amazed how good it feels to get things out in the open. Good luck :)

How long have you been with your gf? And how long has it been since the two of you have been out of the bad past relationships? Sometimes it's hard to feel instant comfort after getting out of a bad relationship. It is very important to be open with eachother about everything possible. Let eachother know what hurts you and also let eachother know what makes you feel good. To gain confidence in a relationship it's impotant to make eachother feel confident that your not out to hurt eachother that you are there for eachother to regain comforbility, trust and security. Show it to her so that she may show it in return. This does not have to mean buy eachothers love do it with words and actions because things that you do and say last alot longer then materialistic items. I hope I have been of some help. One of my favorite quotes are " love is everyting it's cut out to be; it truly is worth fighting for, being brave for and risking everything for" good luck

Well, we gave been together for almost 2 months. I was with my bad relationship for 11 months and got played with my betsfriend whom is now someone ima someday beat the caca out of. Its been about 6 months since i've been with my last. For her, about the same. But how would I say im not comfortable knowing these things? My g/f is very.. She gets upset easily. Like one time when I told her I couldn't completely trust her yet, she cried, ignored me, I would ask her what was bothering her, she wouldn't even tell me, how can I help a situation like that when she won't tell me what I did wrong? Yesterday she told me she couldn't really trust me and now she expects me not to get mad but she gets furious? what?? I just don't know how I can tell her something that is bothering me without her getting mad :(

To possibly start a conversation like that I would suggest saying something like asking her "how do I gain your trust?" then also explain to her what would gain your trust for her. The other thing is, is that you have to be open with eachother. Just starting out (2 months) you two shouldn't be having issues pertaining to getting upset about being open and honest. This time in your relationship the two of you are still in the midst of getting to know eachother your likes and dislikes weather in the relationship or just the basics like foods, colors, sunset/sunrises ect... Try to avoid getting upset about past expieriences because if you think about it we all have excess baggage that we carry and the thing to think about when it comes to the baggage it is going to be things that you don't want to hear or the things that you don't like to talk about but releaseing the feelings that you have allows for closure and also it gives the two of you something to learn from. I say it's a learning expierence because you would not want to live the same mistakes over again or even make the same mistakes that her ex may have done to her. This is also another way you could talk to her is just tell her you want to learn about her and educate her about you. I hope this made sense and that it works for you if it doesn't maybe I could suggest something else. Good luck and let me know how it goes!!!!