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Q: Abortion Soon.. Someone Wanna Reassure Me?

asked by: Finch on June 26th, 2006

New User

Hey

we're having the abortion soon and i'm worried about the surgical procedure. I think thats the way we're going. It sounds fairly simple, but I guess we'll be there for awhile. I hear that it takes like almost 4 hours to do everything from paper work, exams, to the procedure.

We've chosen a planned parenthood abortion clinic and I think they use a medication that allows you to be awake but deeply relaxed. I wish they'd put her totally under so she doesn't have to experience it or remember it, but there are also more risks involved.

The only thing i'm worried about at the moment are the risks involved. I know they're very slim, but I can't help but worry about them. The risks are blood clots in the uterus, infection, very heavy bleeding, injury to the cervix, and organ damage. The last two have me most worried because we're dealing with this totally alone and have to be secretive about it so her family and friends don't know. We can't depend on them for any help.

I know the risks are very slim and that she'll be ok, but I just wanted some reassurance. She's the most important person in the world to me and I would feel absolutely horrible if something happened to her. I wish we didn't have to go through with this, but we don't see any other choice.

Any comforthing thoughts of help guys?

Replies(26)

Carifairy

replied on June 27th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

You cane asily go to another clinic and be put to sleep..Planned parenthood is not the only lcinic around. Some other clinics have shorter wait times too! They can also be cheaper...

You can find a place hat will put her to sleep if you want..I have never had an abortion at pp because I would rather be put to sleep, and I don't like the longer waits. I went to one private clinic that had a 2 hour wait..

Carifairy

replied on June 27th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

It is going to be okay!!! The risks are small with an early abortion!! She is actually safer having an abortion than carrying to term and having a baby. Abortion is 10 times safer than pregnancy.

sunshine424

replied on June 27th, 2006

Experienced User

Edit for non support

good luck to you both.

Carifairy

replied on June 27th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

This is a support forum..You cannot tell people how they will react...

If she wnats ti have an abortion she will most likely feel relief and be happy the pregnancy is over.

Birch

replied on June 27th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

I had an abortion about a year ago at a private clinic. They used a repiratory inhalant that make me 'relax'. However, I did pass out on the table. It was more from my discomfort with the entire situation than any pain I felt.

It took about three hours- about an hour of waiting, an hour of preparatory things, five minutes for the procedure, and 40 minutes of recovery. The prep stuff was watching a video on the procedure, discussing risks, taking a blood test (to determine rh factor), a pee test, and being interviewed.

General anesthesia puts her at greater risks for more complications than the inhalant "laughing gas". Don't do general; it won't be painful and if you are concerned about psychological problems (being awake, remembering it, etc.) than there are more worries under the surface and they should be discussed.

I know it is a difficult decision and I wish the best to the two of you. If you would like to further discuss post-abortion follow up, you may contact me via pm.

Carifairy

replied on June 27th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

I do work in an abortion clinic...

General does have higher risks...But there is also iv sedation...

And that pp they are going to offers a deeper relaxation med which would be safer than general.

I had general for all 3 abortions..

The general in a clinic is different from a hospital, you will still breathe on your own at a clinic..

sunshine424

replied on June 28th, 2006

Experienced User

sunshine424 wrote:

edit for non support

good luck to you both.

what is hilarious is that it was support. I gave my advice and thoughts and because they didn't live up to the pro-kill view, it was "edited". Hah, I almost wrote get a life, but I forgot that you all take them and enjoy it!

How about being non-biased, even if the opinion isn't like yours?

sunshine424

replied on June 28th, 2006

Experienced User

carifairy wrote:

i do work in an abortion clinic...

General does have higher risks...But there is also iv sedation...

And that pp they are going to offers a deeper relaxation med which would be safer than general.

I had general for all 3 abortions..

The general in a clinic is different from a hospital, you will still breathe on your own at a clinic..

just curious as to how you look at yourself everyday after 3 abortions and working in a clinic as well? Who taught you morals and decency of life? Ugh.

jaime_elms

replied on June 28th, 2006

Experienced User

Its up to her how many abortions she has, and so what u saying someone who has had thee abortions cant wok in the clinic. Its her body not yours. And why ask questions like that? Why come and read these topics if all your going to do is nit pick at people. And try and cause a fight.

Quote]just curious as to how you look at yourself everyday after 3 abortions and working in a clinic as well? Who taught you morals and decency of life? Ugh.[/quote]

jaime_elms

replied on June 28th, 2006

Experienced User

Re: Abortion Soon.. Someone Wanna Reassure Me?

Hi there I dont want to be mean and please dont feel I am, an abortion is a big thing and I really hope you have thought it all threw, I had one at 17weeks as the nhs made me wait on a list for 6weeks, and it wasnt a plecent expiernce and I definatly wont go through it again.. As I had to give birth to my baby... As there wasnt a surgen there for me to have the surgical.
The risks are extermley low. I got give antibiotics after my abortion to stop infection.
Anyways good look with ur choice.

finch wrote:

hey

we're having the abortion soon and i'm worried about the surgical procedure. I think thats the way we're going. It sounds fairly simple, but I guess we'll be there for awhile. I hear that it takes like almost 4 hours to do everything from paper work, exams, to the procedure.

We've chosen a planned parenthood abortion clinic and I think they use a medication that allows you to be awake but deeply relaxed. I wish they'd put her totally under so she doesn't have to experience it or remember it, but there are also more risks involved.

The only thing i'm worried about at the moment are the risks involved. I know they're very slim, but I can't help but worry about them. The risks are blood clots in the uterus, infection, very heavy bleeding, injury to the cervix, and organ damage. The last two have me most worried because we're dealing with this totally alone and have to be secretive about it so her family and friends don't know. We can't depend on them for any help.

I know the risks are very slim and that she'll be ok, but I just wanted some reassurance. She's the most important person in the world to me and I would feel absolutely horrible if something happened to her. I wish we didn't have to go through with this, but we don't see any other choice.

Any comforthing thoughts of help guys?

sunshine424

replied on June 28th, 2006

Experienced User

jaime_elms wrote:

its up to her how many abortions she has, and so what u saying someone who has had thee abortions cant wok in the clinic. Its her body not yours. And why ask questions like that? Why come and read these topics if all your going to do is nit pick at people. And try and cause a fight.

Quote]just curious as to how you look at yourself everyday after 3 abortions and working in a clinic as well? Who taught you morals and decency of life? Ugh.

[/quote]

look jaime, I did not say she could not work in a clinic after having 3 abortions, so make sure you read things right before you open your mouth. I was wondering how she could work in a clinic, period. How do you make abortions your living? F**ing sickening. Yes, it is her body and she is free to make the decision to give birth to the baby or kill it, and she chose to kill three. I believe in karma and if karma is real, what she did will not go unnoticed. I don't care if you like this opinion or not. And I also don't care if you cannot face reality. As for starting a fight--please. I have a life, so I do not feel the need to do that. But I do have the right to express how I feel about this topic, as all who come here do. People who have been coming here for a long time will tell you that I speak my mind, so if you do not like it, I might as well tell ya now to back off, because if you want the truth, that is what I give. If you cannot handle it, sit back and hush. ;o)

jaime_elms

replied on June 28th, 2006

Experienced User

Quote]just curious as to how you look at yourself everyday after 3 abortions and working in a clinic as well? Who taught you morals and decency of life? Ugh.[/quote][/quote]

its the same thing! Jus sounded quite mean the way u said it. I can have my opinion 2. And I have

jaime_elms

replied on June 28th, 2006

Experienced User

Also abortion isnt my living, I have had one. One that I didnt want to have okay! So back the medical question off... Yes it is sickening..

(quote) how do you make abortions your living? F**ing sickening.(quote)

Finch

replied on June 28th, 2006

New User

Sunshine424, I appreciate your views and respect them as your own, but I don't think they were the advice that I was looking for. You should have respected my views, and that of everyone elses here on the forum, and not have posted anything.

Your own personal crusade against abortion may be valid in your mind, but others may not share that same sentiment. You fail to understand that cultures, people, beliefs, etc are all different and vary to person to person.

We had the abortion and it went well. She experienced some cramps and that was about it. She's feeling much better and we're both relieved to have done it.

The time in our lives wasn't appropriate to have a child and we all would have gone through some very rough times had we not have done it. I think it would be foolish to not have this abortion, especially when we can have kids in just a few years from now when we're prepared and the child is planned, wanted, and expected.

jaime_elms

replied on June 28th, 2006

Experienced User

Im gald it all went well for you!!! Least u can concentrate on your relationship now, and grieve together and be there for one another. I understand how u feel. It was alot harder for me. As I was 17weeks when I had mine. Im gald you both decide it was the right thing. Least you can be ready next time. And have everthing u need to provide for a baby..

finch wrote:

sunshine424, I appreciate your views and respect them as your own, but I don't think they were the advice that I was looking for. You should have respected my views, and that of everyone elses here on the forum, and not have posted anything.

Your own personal crusade against abortion may be valid in your mind, but others may not share that same sentiment. You fail to understand that cultures, people, beliefs, etc are all different and vary to person to person.

We had the abortion and it went well. She experienced some cramps and that was about it. She's feeling much better and we're both relieved to have done it.

The time in our lives wasn't appropriate to have a child and we all would have gone through some very rough times had we not have done it. I think it would be foolish to not have this abortion, especially when we can have kids in just a few years from now when we're prepared and the child is planned, wanted, and expected.

nightangel73

replied on June 28th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

finch wrote:

the time in our lives wasn't appropriate to have a child and we all would have gone through some very rough times had we not have done it.

and through some very good times too.

jaime_elms

replied on June 28th, 2006

Experienced User

I do agree with you !!!

nightangel73 wrote:

finch wrote:

the time in our lives wasn't appropriate to have a child and we all would have gone through some very rough times had we not have done it.

and through some very good times too.

sunshine424

replied on June 28th, 2006

Experienced User

jaime_elms wrote:

also abortion isnt my living, I have had one. One that I didnt want to have okay! So back the medical question off... Yes it is sickening..

(quote) how do you make abortions your living? F**ing sickening.(quote)

i was not talking about **you** making it your living, I was referring to carifairy. That is where she works. Therefore, that is what she does for a living. (duh).

sunshine424

replied on June 28th, 2006

Experienced User

finch wrote:

how do you know that in a few years she will be able to have children? Do not assume just because she was pregnant once means she for certain will be again. One pregnancy is not a guarantee for a second, third, so on and so forth. In fact, some woman only become pregnant once, or never at all. If the time was not "appropriate", you should have taken steps to prevent it happening in the first place, so the abortion never had to be considered. That is what the smart person would have done. The moral person. But nah, why do that when there is abortion right? How will you feel if she never becomes pregnant again, even if she sought fertility treatment? I bet that baby may cross her mind once or twice, or a thousand times. Don't assume because it has not affected her yet, it never will. A decent person will regret an abortion at least once, at least once. It was her flesh and blood for petes sake, and yours. The baby you may have one day may make you think of the one you never did as well. Because let me tell you, if the day comes and you do have a child you decide was worthy enough to live, that baby will be the love of your life, and then you will think back of the one you let go......Sad, don't you think?

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