The last few months, having sex with my
boyfriend of 1 year has become
increasingly painful. I lost my virginity
to him, and we almost always use
protection, but have failed to do so a
couple of times. (i was already
experiencing pain, before we had
unprotected sex)
we are both very careful when it comes to
sex, and are very aware of stds and the
risks etc.
I have tried having a break for a while,
to see if it was just irritation from too
much, and have tried lube, but it is still
really painful. Most of the pain seems to
be when he enters, and when he withdraws,
so im guessing whatever it is, its
occuring in the cervix?? Its kind of like
a stinging pain, but doesnt hurt when I
urinate, only during sex, and a bit the
next morning.
I dont believe its an allergic reaction to
the condoms because we have been using
them for a year now, and ive only
experienced pain the last 2 months or so.
I am going about arranging a doctors
appointment foir a pap test, but was
hoping someone might be able to help me
out.
Please help!!
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Spook
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Jul 2006 Posts: 7
Posted: 07-16-06 15:48pm
Still being a virgin myself I wouldnt be
able to answer anything detailed. What I
can suggest though is looking "down there"
with a mirror to see if anyhting looks
sore or inflamed. It may just mean you
have to take some antibiotics :)
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gloworm1061
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Jul 2006 Posts: 1 Location: Sacramento CA
Something to Try Posted: 07-25-06 17:49pm
Hi.
If the pain is at the vulva or vaginal
openning, try lubrication like ky jelly.
If it is deep, you need to change
positions. If too much stimulation is
happening on the front wall of the vagina
or up against the cervix, it will cause
you to become hypersensative in those
areas. This problem will increase over
time if you continue. If you are not
able to find a positon that improves the
situation, you may want to consider
learning about some alternative means of
stimulation to orgasm as sensativity will
be diminished after you have one and
intercourse may then be more fun.
Hope this helps.
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whitespotsonteeth
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Jul 2006 Posts: 4
Posted: 07-25-06 18:10pm
I know we always think we "know" our
partners and what they are doing, when
they are not with us, but, we never really
know 100% of the time. Was he with
anyone else before he met you? Has he
been with anyone since you and he have
been having intercourse? I know it
sounds bad, but, sometimes std's do cause
pain inside the vagina. If you are
refraining from sex and still having pain,
I would try to get it checked out. Most
stds are very treatable and curable.
Sometimes guys can have herpes etc.
Without ever knowing. Just because there
is no sore doesn't mean it isn't
contagious. Not trying t scare you, but,
you may want to think about it. Also a
virus that causes genital warts can cause
cancer when you get older if not treated
early on. Abstinence is best if you are
not married, but, if you are going to do
it, use protection, and get checked out.
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cherry88
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 May 2006 Posts: 633 Location: ,
Posted: 07-25-06 20:36pm
Mermaid19:
i think I know the reason why its painful.
Cause it happened to me too.
You may have an allergy to latex(the stuff
condoms are made out of) I had no idea and
kept it to myself till I went to the
doctor and mentioned it. He gave me durex
latex
free condoms and voila. Everything
is fine now!
I strongly suggest you try them out. You
can get them at a family planning clinic
free, or buy them, they are a bit more
expensive than latex condoms. But it will
be totally worth it in the end if thats
the reason!
i dont believe its an
allergic reaction to the condoms because
we have been using them for a year now,
and ive only experienced pain the last 2
months or so. I am going about arranging
a doctors appointment foir a pap test, but
was hoping someone might be able to help
me out.
thought I might add I was using normal
condoms for about a year and a half, then
it suddenly started to irritate me. Dont
dismiss it. Honestly, mention it to the
doctor if you go. He would say exactly
what I just said.
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whitespotsonteeth
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Jul 2006 Posts: 4
Posted: 07-25-06 21:06pm
In this day and time, painful intercourse,
irritation, etc. The doctor might say
more than it might be from an allergy to
latex. It very well could be, but, I
would also be concerned about other
things. I mean, it is possible she has
an std. If it is, and goes untreated,
neither she nor the boy know, therefore,
when they break up, spread it to others,
like my daughter, son etc. Not good.
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cherry88
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 May 2006 Posts: 633 Location: ,
Posted: 07-25-06 21:11pm
True, theres getting checked aswell. But
I think personally it could be an allergy
more than an s.T.I.
The symptoms shes having is what I did.
And I didnt have any s.T.I's
:)
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sandy78
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Mar 2006 Posts: 81 Location: Cali.
Posted: 07-27-06 23:56pm
I agree with the latex answer. Many
people have this issue and there are a lot
of different types of condoms out there.
Remember to use a godd personal lubircant
such as ready lube or other water based
lubue since they are the safiest in my
opinion.
