Ok here is the deal...I am 16 and i'm
pregnant and i'm still with the father of
my child. The thing is I think i'm gay I
mean I like girls and I don't want to
leave my boyfriend because I do love him I
have alot of feelings for him especially
since he's fathering my child. I can't
stand this though I would rather look at a
women then a man and it's killing me
because I think I would seriously be
better off with a girl like maybe I would
get treated alot a better being with a
girl...And i've always been attracted to
women like I always want to watch those
sexy girl movies over and over instead of
the "hot guy" movie over and over....It
just seems right that I stay with my
boyfriend though and raise are daughter in
that enviorment but see my question was if
we ever broke up should I stay with guys
or go with a girl or maybe even just stay
single? I don't know just hope someone
out there might of went through the same
thing!
Niccole
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brionnas mama
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jun 2006 Posts: 14 Location: USA
I Am Bie Posted: 06-24-06 14:52pm
I know how you feel. I'm 21 and I first
realized bie when I was 16.
I am married now and have a baby girl. It
dosnt change the fact that I still into
women and my husband is very open to my
choice and except it well to be honest he
loves it..
But anyway hunny if you are not just into
guys then expermint there is nothing wrong
with that tell him how you feel and see
what he thinks but you have to be honest
with your self first trust me I just have
come out with it to my friends and wish I
had done it sooner. I never told him just
hinted around to it and finally I am abel
to say I am biesexual..
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 06-24-06 16:38pm
I believe every relationship should be
open and you should be honest with each
other as otherwise it could cause
problems and the other person might be
thinking it was the other one's fault when
it wasn't which could really cause
problems down the road and they should be
given a choice, to stay or go (just my
opinion) and then again, people do
change,
good luck!
Yeah I really want to tell him he kinda
knows already that i'm attracted to women
he just doesn't know I would want to be
with one. I think it would make him
mad....We have a bad reltionship already
we always fight...He thinks he's not good
enough now as it is....I'm afraid that if
I tell him this he would really think he's
not good enough for me and I don't know
what he would do...I think I just need
some time before I do tell him like that
maybe I should not tell him all at once
and just tell him bit by bit ya know like
so he can figure it out on his own and he
might be uset to it instead of it just
being like all at once..I don't know this
is frustrating...I don't want to break his
heart because like I was saying I love him
and all and I already tried leaving him
and it was really hard because I broke his
heart and I felt so bad....Ya know being
bisexual or gay was something I always
knew was there but never relized that it
was really a problem like I thought who
cares i'm attracted to women who cares
i'll just be with a guy...Now I find
myself wanting to be with a girl...I don't
know i'll have't to figure this out...I
got to do whats best for my baby and that
would probally be staying with her father
but I have decided that if we ever did
split up I would want to try and be with a
girl....But who knows what will happen.
Thanks for the advice!!
Niccole
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brionnas mama
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jun 2006 Posts: 14 Location: USA
Posted: 07-01-06 17:42pm
I am a mother as I said b4 niccole listen
you have to put yourself first that is
what is best for your daughter because if
you stay and you are not happy your
daughter will sense that and that isnt far
to a child. If you are happy then she
wont ever care..
I have fought with my husband for along
time and finally I was like I am going to
leave but I didnt then we got married and
things were good for a while but then we
started fighting again so I decided to
leave him we had only been married a few
short months. Then I found out that I was
pg and stayed cause I felt like you I was
scared of hurting him and ruining my
daughters life because I didnt have a dad
so I didnt want her to grow up without one
either. Things got better so I thought
they would stay that way then after she
was born right back to the same old stuff
on both partys I just have gotten so
bitter toward him that for the last
5months I havent wanted to really be with
him and was making his life miserable.
Finally I told him the truth in marriage
counciling and we desoverd that I was more
attracted to women that him but that I do
love him deeply I just havent been abel to
be myself. So now with that said I
wouldnt want to be with a woman now I dont
think but I dont really care about that
right now just that we are both finally
happy and to top it all he wants to stay
together so I pray that you have the same
luck as I did..
