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Q: In Need of Support! I Can't Believe This Is Really Happening

asked by: Lildreamer on January 15th, 2004

Experienced User

Hey gurls its lildreamer...I miss everyone so much! Im sorry I havent been on for a minute but im glad to be back. I know this is quite a way to return but I am in need of some support. Im scared, desperate, and I really feel alone. Remember my boyfriend johnny. Well I finally decided to move on. I have found someone new. He knew about johnny and he accepts the fact that I need to heal from it. Well I have been sexually involved with him for awhile now. Around the beginning of december was the last time I had my period. It really didnt faze me cuz I am usually irregular. Well I started to get suspicious and I knew I needed a pregnancy test. Yesterday I went to a clinic and I took a pregnancy test. Well...I am pregnant! My heart sank when I heard the word "positive"! I couldn't believe it. Now I have 2 weeks to decide what im going to do. My mother doesnt even know that I have a new boyfriend. She has met him but thinks we are just friends. My mom will throw him in jail becuase he is 20 years old and she said she would make me get an abortion. Can she do that? I am only 17 years old. I will be 18 in july of this year. Can she really force me to get an abortion? I know she will kick me out of my house and disown me. I know I will never see her or my family again. I know my mother. She really could be that cold. I can't abort my baby. Even though I cant see my baby I am already in love. Someone pleez help. What can I do to save my baby! Im afriad she'll throw omar in jail and make me abort or kick me out and disown me or she wont let me go and just force me to abort and bring the law into this....Like take me to court or omar and file charges on me or omar. I dont know. Im that scared. Pleez reply to my post...Any advice I would really deeply appriciated.

Replies(14)

Yazmine

replied on January 15th, 2004

Experienced User

Dreamer!!! Im glad ur back....Also its good u finnaly chose between johnny and omar....As for ur ma she cant force u 2 have an abortion...But she can send omar 2 jail.....Just try 2 calmly talk 2 her and tell her that u love him and u want 2 keep the baby and ur reasons.... If she did kick u out do u have a place 2 go??...Sweetie I would let u stay w/me!!! Lol...But really I hope thing work out n its great 2 see u again we missed u!!

Yaz

smith8500

replied on January 15th, 2004

Especially eHealthy

Welcome Back!

Yuo were missed! I am so glad you got over johnny. You deserved better! Well, as she said before me, your mom can put omar in jail however she cannot make you have an abortion! Do you have a place to go? Friends? Omar's house?
Love,
chanda

honeycoco

replied on January 15th, 2004

Experienced User

Hello lildreamer I have never met you, but I have read your post. My name is chrystal 20 yrs old no children. First of all congrats on being pregnant. Im sure its overwhelming right now, but everything will work out for the best. Keep us posted on what happens.

KariM18

replied on January 15th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Hey hun.. Sorry about all this.. . Your mom cannot make u get an abortion..And she cant put him in jail either. .My mom tried that.. But once ur 16, if u tell the cops its consentual sex, they dont do anything.. Specially if ur 17 and will be 18 when the baby is born. Its illegal for ur mom to force u to abort your child. The only way she can kick you out at 17 is to take u to court and emancipate u.. It will be ok..Sometimes things work out better then u think , but remember you have the control here so dont give up*

insurancegirl

replied on January 16th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

pInKpAnThEr

replied on January 16th, 2004

Active User, very eHealthy

Wow-girl...

my mom and I went thru it all..Believe me.

Lildreamer

replied on January 22nd, 2004

Experienced User

Everyone is so negative about my baby. Everyone basically says that an abortion is best. I really really really dont want to!!!!!!!Im doing all I can to find a way through this.

insurancegirl

replied on January 23rd, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

youngmomtobe

replied on January 23rd, 2004

Active User, very eHealthy

Hey girl serously u can do it!! I get looked down on and get pressured into a adoption everyday from my family!! Stay strong its hard believe me im still going thru it but u can do it!!! And dont be afraid to ask for help if u need it!! We are all here for u and if this is your only source of support like it is kinda for me then so be it we are all here to support u and help u out in any way we can !! Hang in there hun! Much love!!

Jen & river

Lildreamer

replied on January 25th, 2004

Experienced User

Thank you so much! I really appriciate all the support you all give me! I want to keep my baby and do whatever it takes for my baby to be my side! I love you gurls!!!

PregnaJordan

replied on January 25th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Whats up with the bloodtest? Did you ever get that figured out? Im really confused..
Jordan

JillMarie

replied on January 25th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

After reading everyone else's posts I guess I could be wrong but i'm pretty sure there must be a 6 year difference in age before you can be charged with rape! Hope that makes you feel better!

pInKpAnThEr

replied on January 25th, 2004

Active User, very eHealthy

Lildreamer- girl u do what u needa do. U keep that baby, and even if she does act like crap at first I promise things will change. I was out for awhile but my mom welcomed me back with open arms. I actually left without her telling me to because thats how I felt it would go. I am happy now though, and you just gota hang in there. And if you dont think you can do it, there is someone else out there dying to have a baby that they could love and take care of as well. Just think about it.. Abortion is not the answer. You got a little person in you. People can argue that, but no one can tell you what to do. Good luck and I pray you make the right decision.

Love mol

candy_coated600269

replied on January 25th, 2004

New User

Okay the think is that you are 17 and at the age of 17 you can only be with a 16, 17 ,& 18 years old. Anything older or younger is considered statutory rape. Your mom can press charges and send him to jail. But as soon as you turn 18 there is nothing she can do about it. I went through all of this in april of 2003 I was pregnant by my boyfriend he was 18 and I was 16. I lost the baby after my mom pressed charges and he was sent to jail. As far as the abortion she cannot force you to do that. And one more thing don't let anyone change your mind about keeping your baby it will be the greatest reward you will ever have. Just make sure your boyfriend is there to support you. If you need anyone to talk to i've been through a very similar problem
allison

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