I'm with a wonderful man that I love very much. We waited a long time to make love due to my beliefs he was fine with it the whole time. He had not had sex in 18 months, before we started making love.
The first time we did he had a premature ejaculation, which was fine I knew it had been a long time for him so I didn't care, I was just happy that he enjoyed it. But it was continuing to happen, I still didn't mind but he would get so upset with himself so I tried to make him understand that it wasn't a big deal to me that he needs to stop being so hard on himself.
Well, two nights ago we were again together 2 times. The first time was the longest that it has been and the second he ejaculated right upon entering. So again I told him it was fine, not to worry about it. I wasn't just saying it I meant it. I love him so much that it wouldn't matter to me if we were ever able to make love again I would still be with him. He finally, said we needed to talk and so he told me it had been happening for about 10 years now and that it just irritated him to no end. He thought that once he told me that I would end things with him but thats not going to happen, he is the world to me.
However, is there something that I can do to help him with this? I want him to be happy and not be so depressed about it. I adore him and it kills me to see him this unhappy. I told him we would work through it together so if anyone has any thoughts i'm willing to listen. Its not only during making love its also when I go down on him as well. If anyone has any tips i'm all ears, I want to help him so that he will not feel like he is failing me because he isn't.