How Do I Get to My Climax? Help!

So, 18 views and absolutely no replies????? I need to know! As well as anyone else does, I want to get to know my body! Please reply!

Good question! I have the same prob.. Ive had plenty of sex.. And still have plenty w/ my boyfriend.. It always has felt good. .But never actually had an orgasam... Sucks.. Im sorry I cant help. . Hopefully some others can!

Honestly, you just have to experiment with different things, have you tried a vibrator? If that won't get you to climax, nothing will girl! Lol try different positions...A lot of women can climax from pointing their toes and keeping their legs straight and muscles tight...You really have to get used to your body and know it entirely...There's more to the "goods" then you may think! Every little area has a different level of sensitivity, its just a matter of finding it and the right stimulation along with it!

Here goes from a guys point of view. First off guys are very lucky in that our plumbing hangs on the outside. All we have to do is grab ahold and pump the darn thing -- and away we go!! Women on the other hand have to find certain spots to help them feel the pleasure. I have know women in the past who have used hand held mirrors to help them discover themselves. Meaning females can't look down and spot their clitoris. With the help of the mirror they are able to locate it for the purpose of direct stimulation. Again, the stimulation involved depends on the individual. Some need a lot of stimulation others very little. I would recommend you experiment when you are alone and there is no possibility of being disturbed (roommates, parents, nosy brothers, sisters) and take your time exploring yourself. Take a warm bath, relax, sit down on your bed with a mirror and look at yourself. Where is it that arouses you the most? Pay close attention to when your clitoris begins to harden. When it does; how much friction or pressure does it take to give you the pleasure. Experimentation with your body is a normal process. Take your time and relax.

Relaxation or rather failure to relax can be the problem with some people. Some people are "control freaks" & so just won't let themselves "go" - when they start to feel it happening their mind takes over & basically says no! I am not going to lose control. This may sound insane but sometimes humans are insane.

I agree with philasheo, as a guy he'd probably make a great lover but since he may not be available I suggest that you take a long look at his advice, it is good. If it doesn't work, consider the possibility that you are someone who has to find a way to relax & I mean really relax. It's like when couples want a child & can't fall pregnant until after they adopt one, then the pressure is off & pregnancy happens out of the blue.

Dont over think... Just let yourself go and do whatever feels good...

Try the vibrator like someone else suggested...

Maybe you have the same problem as me where more of your nerve endings are int he clit? Try using one finger to stimulate the clit.. And yes a vibrator is always handy too

You may want to try a vibrator just to try something else, but it isn't going to get every girl off. It would never get me off. Some women cannot climax from penetration. And you can look down and find your clit. Unless there is something wrong with you.
Anyway, try stimulating your clit without putting anything inside of you. I know even if I start to have an orgasm if anything is put inside of me, I lose it. (sucks because actual intercourse has and probably never will get me off. So, I have to have a guy who really knows what he is doing and who has the patience to please me.) if this doesn't work, then try penetrating. It is hard because every girl is different. Another thing is, and I have known a lot of men to make this mistake, do not rub directly over your clit. And remember it is so very fragile, force is not necessary. Rub around it. Hard to explain, but put pressure above it, to the right, to the left, and find your "spot". You have got to have one. Just find a way that it feels good for you and go with it.
But yes, you definately have to be relaxed! Or it may take you a very long time, or it may just not work. Hope I helped! Good luck!

If you haven't already tried this, try using a bit of vaseline. Have a glass of wine before hand. Maybe you have, or can find, a patient lover who will take lots of time while you stretch out, relax, get turned on, and reach orgasm. Then maybe you can enjoy a second together. When making love most women come harder, and enjoy it more, with their second orgasm.

The number one way to get along the road to orgasming is to just relax, and don't have a mental expectation of it, or you're just going to stress yourself out and get mad if/when it doesn't happen.

Vibrators work well for some, for others, not so well. Some folks like just clitoral stimulation, some like clitoral stimulation and penetration. But if you're not paying attention to the clitoris, well then, that's part of the problem. It is the only organ on the human body, male or female, designed and exists soley for pleasure so use it! And to clarify on what puppy said, the way the clitoris is set up is that is where the central focus of the female sexual response nervous system is, in other words that's where the majority of the nerves are - not just in some women there are more there, that's where they are.

There are a few other things you can try: fantasizing while masturbating is a good one, and well there is one more, but it involves an *ahem* green smoked but *cough* illegal substance that helps women in achieving orgasms, esp if they hever have before. But 'tis illegal, so there ya go.

Experiment and don't stress about it - I think alot of women expect too much to happen and have all kinds of outlandish ideas about what they *should* feel or do. Just try and relax and have fun with it. It will come. Heh, pun inadvertently intended.

You know I had this same problem. I've had more then enuff sexual partners ( we'll just put it that way ) and I could never have an orgasm until I met a man who rubbed my clitoris and (in weird terms) pumped his penis in and out. Lol. Well anyways..Try it. I cam within seconds. Lol

One time an old boyfriend of mine suggested the bathtub faucet thing and I was skeptical. We tried it together and it didn't work. Then I tried it by myself and it did work.

Bathtub thing never did it for me.I have several vibrators,but one i've not tried is "the jackrabbit".Looks awesome!!Stimulates you in several areas at once.You can find it anywhere adult toys are sold or do a search for the jackrabbit online.I might just go look myself!! good luck and relax-if you're tense forget it!!Pattyv

Ok.. I think I may have the answer here.. Haha, I myself had a really difficult time having an orgasm for a long time, it didn't work with intercourse and I couldnt find a way of masturbating that really satisfied me. Then my friend suggested the fauceting thing and I tried it but it didnt really work, it felt alright but not orgasmic but...;.I strongly recommend if you have a hot tub or jacuzzi, especially a bath tub with jets... Place your clit in the line of the jet water and move around until you find the most pleasurable spot..I came almost instantly everytime.. I couldnt believe it, it was really great... Haha let me know how it goes or if it works.. Its nothing like the faucet thing..

The bathtub thing works for me...I don't know if you guys mean the showerhead or the actual faucet. I use the shower head and it's guaranteed for me to climax everytime. I pretty much have to now, as it hurts everytime I have sex (due to an infection which I am getting checked out )

I do the faucet thing, where you lay back in the tub and prop your rump up and let the water flow onto your clitoris. It's hard to hold in my moans when people are home let me tell you!

but the bottom line is, as everyone else said, to experiment. All of us girls are different. Some of us need direct, heavy stimulation for a long time, while others might need only a little tweaking for about 5 minutes and we're off. I'd add my two cents but i'd say that my advice has already been stated.

When you can find a foolproof method of releasing all your pent-up sexual feelings, it feels like the world stops for that one moment when you climax....Okay that sounds sick, but it's true.

..........

Good luck to you, and remember...Masturbation is 100% safe and natural.

........

Scaredbaka

ok,,,,the secret is in your anal area,,,,just do this folowing steps...
- laid down and open your legs up and very wide open
- caress your vaginal area and tickle it too
- tickle your anal hole with fingertips only
- now caress and tickle all the way from your anal hole to your clitoris
- do that several times making yourself very wet
*** now,,start masturbating with one hand and with your other hand tickle and caress your analhole at the same time,,,
also while doing this you can penetrate your analhole with your fingertip
,,,,,take your time diong this steps and also breath deeply while doing it once in a while,,,,,
****I HOPE YOU ENJOY THIS,,,ITS SATISFACTION GUARANTEE!