Megan~your parents love you...They will not disown you!! They will be hurt and disappointed and they will get angry but then they will come around!!

Who took you to the gyn? I am having a hard time with the fact that the doc told you that you were "slightly pregnant" but didn't talk to you more? Did they give you a due date? Did they talk to you about your options? Did they set up your next prenatal visit?

Good luck with the test today....Please let us know what the results of that are!!!

After she told me I was "slightly" pregnant she told me that me and my mom should go to the hospital and get bloodwork done. She also told me to discuss options with my mother. My mom did take me to the gyn but they didnt tell her anything, I went in by myself. It was my first visit. I dont wanna get blood work with my mom becuz then she would know. They didnt give me a due date or anything but still gave me bc (the patch) so maybe you can see why im so confused. Im also afraid becuz I know my parents would not be able to support another child either they are having enough trouble supporting us, they are having wicked bad money problems. I wish the gyn explained more or I wish I wasnt in so much shock so that I could have asked more questions. All I wanted to do was get out of the place that just handed me the worst news of my life. Im not saying that bringing a baby in the world is bad just that its hard for teens everywhere and I really dont think my parents would understand. The other day they told me if I came home preg. They would kill nick lol and the irony was that I was already stressin about being preg. Please write back anyone.
-megan

I took the test finally earlier today and the results were positive so I am having a baby afterall. Im already realizing how hard it is gonna be. I will not be able to drink smoke pot or cigerettes anymore and the smokes will be the hardest thing to quite. Ive been smokin butts since I was 8 any ideas on how to quite fast???

Ok, now that u know u are definitely preg, then yes u need to stop whatever is not good for ur health and the baby's health.

And I think this baby is gonna straighten u out! quitting is always not easy, but with help from family and friends, u will be able to do it!

Smoking is bad for anyone period! To quite quickly is not that difficult, keeping smoke free is the difficult part lots of will power required!

Ur parents love you of course! And they will understand you, they just dont want to believe the truth. But if you really sit down and talk to them, I dont think they are gonna be unreasonable.

Killing ur by is only the rage talking!

It was easy for me to quit, I put down the cigs ass soon as I found out I was pregnant, its been tuff but I have been ok, havent wanted to smoke, at all, u gotta think about that baby, and it will be easyer to quit,

I hope its really that easy to quit. I also have been getting lil tummy aches that only last like 5 seconds and then go away but they happen a lot through out the day and like when they happen sometimes they hurt so bad I can start sweating and im just lying down. Does anyone know if these harm the baby or anything?

Eventhough you are pretty young to be pregnant, you sound like you're very mature and want to do the right thing. Have you quit or are you trying to quit smoking now? If you are, these may just be some kind of withdrawal symptons from the cigarettes. Not sure. However, I am 21 wks now and I remember having stomach pains frequently in the first few weeks also. As for the parents thing, mine would have said some of the same things to me if I was pregnant and in highschool. I became sexually active at 17 and my parents flipped out then. We were also financially in the hole with three kids in the family. Only you know your parents the best. If you don't want to tell them right away, wait until you figure out the best way to. Dont let others tell you what they think you should do in this situation. Good luck with your pregnancy. Everything should turn out ok in the long run. Just try to keep your hands busy doing something and chew gum. The oral fixation along with the nicotine addiction is hard to kick. I know. So , chew sunflower seeds or take up some hobby with making stuff.
You will be okay. Be positive.
Beth edd 12-25-03

Thankyou guys (well girls) so much youve really been a lot of help. Actually I talked to my mom like 20 mins ago at work and she told me she called the gyn and they told her they gave me papers to go get bloodwork done and she's gonna take me either today or tomorrow. So she will most likely find out very soon. It will be releiving when she finds out I just hope she doesnt try to pressure me into abortion or adoption because I dont think I could mentally handle either of them. Nick (my babies daddy) is being so supportive and im so gratefull to be having a baby with such a great guy who already loves the baby so much. I am trying to quit now ive cut down a whole bunch I used to be a pack a day smoker now im down to about 3-4 a day and I am gradually gunna quit. My friend told me I shouldnt take asprins or anything so im trying to be as cautios as I can. I am on depression med. Wellbutrin and im going to ask my doctor if I should continue to take them. Thanx a bunch!

Your gyne should of told you yes or no theres not slightly about it. Good luck wit the baby

That's great news......And I am soooooooooooooo happy for you that ur baby is gonna be loved so much!!!

now, the pain and ur on depression med, I think those are the main concerns right now to ask ur gyno, because early preg is very dangerous if you dont really know what to expect and such, and pain can be a normal thing or an abnormal thing, just to be sure, ask lots of questions

good luck!!!

My mom n dad had a "talk" with me and nick today. Tomorrow me my mom and nick are going to the hospital to get blood work. My mom and dad are really pressuring me to get an abortion not really pressuring me, instead giving me no choice. They said im a minor and its their decission not mine, but I thought it was mine cuz im 16. I really dont want an abortion at all I dont wanna forever live my life wondering what would have happened if I didnt. I dont want my parents to be dissapointed with me neither. I had nick tell his dad today over the phone. His father took it very very well. He wanted to bring us out to friendlys and discuss it but I couldnt, I had to work. Nick went with his dad and he told nick that he refuses to let me get an abortion so im pretty much torn. Nicks dad offered us his apartment and said he would pay the rent for us to live there we dont have to give him anything and he will support us all the way. I really dont know what to do anymore my parents are confusing me so much. I know and understand im only 16 but caca happens for a reason and I need to take care of my responsabilities. This wouldnt happen to me if I couldnt handle it. What do you's think I should do?!?!

Wow..This situation took a bad turn!

Ok, first ask yourself what do you want?? If you dont want an abortion then dont, and if ur parents force you, tell the doctor, coz the doctor probably wont do it coz the client is refusing to!

Second, I know it's so nice of nick's father to offer u guys so much, but, I think it's wise not to take the offer 100%, coz then u will be in his control (maybe not if he is just truly nice and wonderful), but if u do take his offer, but dont just do what he wants u to do, coz that's just like ur parents, so just do what you think it's good for you and the baby!!!

Third. If u r finanically capable, do pay nick's father rent or something, dont rely on him, I dont know, it's just me, I dont like depending on someone becoz then freedom is not totally yours anymore, it's just what I think though.

Forth, talk to nick, see what he thinks, if this guy cant think, darn!!! Eheh...But seriously have a talk with him and see what he thinks is good to do.

Well nicks dad is actually very rich, he has his own concrete construction company, and nick works with him. Nicks dad said he just wants whats best for the baby. Im supposed to go to lunch with nick and his dad tomorrow and discuss it further, cause his dad hasnt talked to me yet. I do feel bad for like letting him support us soo much but he really wants to..I donno yet. You girls are really and truley a lot of help really I cant say thanx enough! Thanyous!!!
-megan

As long as u think it's ok to rely on his father. I dont know him at all, so I cannot make any suggestions, but I do know that discussing it with nick and his father probably is a good idea, since ur family is mad right now, I think u just need to give them time, time cures!

Good luck to you!

I was in just about the same sittuation as you are now. Im sixteen and found out I was 2 1/2 months pregnant in may, when I first found out I was so confussed I had no idea what to do or think. Then I realized how much of a pot head I was and that stopping would be impossible ( so I thought )
but I didnt smoke anything the second after I found out. It made me mad for a while tho b.C I knew I had to stop and at the time I thought..." for what ?"
but then a month later I got my first ultrasound and I saw its little hands and feet and this feeling came over me and I started to cry...( happy tears )
my boyfriend held my hand and my mom held my arm and I knew that they were there for me and that the little creature on the screen was mine and I have to say i'd never in my 16 years of living felt so happy and complete. Little did I know that it just started.
About 1 1/2 months after that I felt it move kick and i'd got the feeling but more intence agian. And now here I am 5 months pregnant and looking back at health class and remembering how the teacher said that being pregnant at 16 is hrad and not worth it because it too much, but yet...
I feel the x-act opposite its easy and its worth everything. My family and boyfried have been so supportive and im now one of the happiest 16 year olds you'd ever meet.
I mean yeah sometimes I sit and hink about still being a kid and hanging out with my friends but no matter what I think I still wouldnt change having this baby for anything.