I lost my virginity to my current girlfriend when I was 28. She was not a virgin. I never hooked up much in college, and never in highschool. Unfortunately my girlfriend and her friends talk a lot about hooking up and sex and it just makes me feel like I wasted so much of my life. Whats wrong with me, why was I not out there screwing random girls like her friends do with guys? Im really concerned that there was something wrong with me and my friends in college because we werent constantly on the hunt.

My girlfriend was surprised when I told her how many people I had kissed and was like "omg why didnt you kiss anyone?" I guess im just a scrub cuz I thought there should be something there before I start making out with someone.

Now I just feel like a huge loser cuz im old and I havent had sex with anyone else and apparently I shouldve been hooking up a lot more that I did.

I dont want any cliched "virginity is cool responses". Im not religious. Just think I have a confidence problem and I allowed it to ruin my life.

The worst part is that this girl loves me and I love her but I cant shake the fact that shes had sex with other people (never gave me a number which makes me think its high) and I have a lot of jealousy both of the guys she was with and also the fact that she was able to have sex with people and not worry. Youd never know this by looking at her since she looks so innocent. She said she may have done crazy things in her past to try to kill the innocent image. What an fool.

Im such a loser. I dont know what to do. I feel like ive been robbed because I allowed myself to be freaked out by all the anti sex nonsense with disease and pregnancy. Im such a loser. Losing your virginity at 28 is pathetic. People prolly thought I was gay. Might as well have joined a priesthood.