I lost my virginity to my current
girlfriend when I was 28. She was not a
virgin. I never hooked up much in
college, and never in highschool.
Unfortunately my girlfriend and her
friends talk a lot about hooking up and
sex and it just makes me feel like I
wasted so much of my life. Whats wrong
with me, why was I not out there screwing
random girls like her friends do with
guys? Im really concerned that there was
something wrong with me and my friends in
college because we werent constantly on
the hunt.
My girlfriend was surprised when I told
her how many people I had kissed and was
like "omg why didnt you kiss anyone?" I
guess im just a scrub cuz I thought there
should be something there before I start
making out with someone.
Now I just feel like a huge loser cuz im
old and I havent had sex with anyone else
and apparently I shouldve been hooking up
a lot more that I did.
I dont want any cliched "virginity is cool
responses". Im not religious. Just think
I have a confidence problem and I allowed
it to ruin my life.
The worst part is that this girl loves me
and I love her but I cant shake the fact
that shes had sex with other people (never
gave me a number which makes me think its
high) and I have a lot of jealousy both of
the guys she was with and also the fact
that she was able to have sex with people
and not worry. Youd never know this by
looking at her since she looks so
innocent. She said she may have done
crazy things in her past to try to kill
the innocent image. What an fool.
Im such a loser. I dont know what to do.
I feel like ive been robbed because I
allowed myself to be freaked out by all
the anti sex nonsense with disease and
pregnancy. Im such a loser. Losing your
virginity at 28 is pathetic. People
prolly thought I was gay. Might as well
have joined a priesthood.
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CastleJerkenstein
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jun 2006 Posts: 2
Posted: 06-13-06 01:22am
Well, your not a scrub or a loser, there
really is nothing to be ashamed of and
some poeple have never gotten laid. For
me, I would have no problem with my
girlfreind discussing past experiences.
She is probably just making conversation.
That said, there is a limit such as it
being the only topic she discusses. Your
confidence is definetly the problem if her
past bothers you. You need to dump any
jealousy you have and think highly of
yourself, including in the bedroom. No
whining to her about her past. This will
be a huge turnoff to her. Who the hell
cares what people thought about you, they
are just as insecure about their lives
even if they've gotten more. You have to
ponder whether or not you truly wanted to
be sex maniac or maybe thats just not who
you are. Don't worry so much about what
other people are doing.
There are many things that contribute to a
conservative attidude concerning sex.
Diseases, religion, insecurity about ones
body, ect. All create a taboo in the
minds of some people. Some of these are
valid(i was infected with hpv), and some
are silly. Don't contradict yourself
either. You said that all the anti-sex
nonsense was ridiculous, yet then you say
she's an fool for being promiscuous.
Find out why this is bothering you,
because quite franky, it shouldn't be.
Just enjoy the relationship else whats the
point of having it?
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luvkittykats
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2005 Posts: 69 Location: north carolina
Posted: 06-13-06 16:35pm
Just because you weren't whoring yourself
around all those years doesn't mean you
wasted your life. Life isn't about sex.
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w0rldd0minat0r
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Feb 2006 Posts: 238
Posted: 06-13-06 16:37pm
Has sex really been lowered to that
level?, its not the most important thing
in life tbh and often not having sex often
makes when you do far better then if you
do it every day
