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Q: First Timer Here~ 18~ Pls. Give Any Advice

asked by: KariM18 on January 13th, 2004

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Hi everyone~ I am 18 and I am 13 weeks preg tomorrow. I am not with the father anymore, actually he is the biggest problem to me ever sense I told him. I found out I was preg. 1 1/2 months ago, and I told him right away, ive only talked to him once sense. All he does is yell at me and tell me to get an abortion.I dont know if he will be there or not for the baby. I will make him pay child support but I dont know about him being the baby's father. He says now he might move out of state. It's a big mess. Anyhow I am sooo worried to do this alone.. I am worried about not being enough for the baby etc...Are there any of you goinng through a similar situation with the dad? Wow I feel way too young to be pregnant and im 18 and I read there were some of you pregnant at 14 and 15? I cannot imagine.... Also.. I feel like I am gaining weight too fast.. How much have any of u gained around my weeks? Anyhow, ive went to the doctor.. Had an ultrasound and heard the heartbeat. That part was very exciting! Also, another thing about me, I have been anorexic for a year and then bulimic for the past year..So this is very rough for me to gain this weight.. But I havent acted on my bulimia sense I found out (mean I havent thrown up once or restricted my food intake) so..This baby was definitly my motivator for getting better. Well hope to hear from some people soon and hopefully hear from some people in a similar situation. Thanks alot* if any of u have aol, my s/n is skeaxryi629**

Last edited by KariM18 on January 13th, 2004 07:02 PM; edited 1 time in total

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CrombieChic16

replied on January 13th, 2004

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Welcome!

Hey kari, welcome to the board! My name's vanessa, i'm 16 1/2 and 10.1 weeks pregnant with my first child...I'm still with the father and we're surprisingly making it work so far..Im still ready to raise my child as a single mother though, becasue I know most guys bail when they hear the word baby. I'm sorry to hear about your baby's father..."every child deserves their father, but not every father deserves their child"...It's so true, especially in this case...This guy has no idea what he's missing out on...A human being that you and him made together, a new life....Well, it's just more for you to enjoy right? Do you have the support of your family? Do you go to school? It's amazing hearing the heartbeat isn't it? It's like that's coming from inside me?! As for the weight gain, i've gained 4lbs so far...How much have you gained? I've got aol too.... Crombiebabie04 if you want to talk, especially since we're around the same weeks in our preg......Best of luck and keep me posted!
Much love,
vanessa

KariM18

replied on January 13th, 2004

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Hey hun ,thanks for replying* to answer your questions~ I do have my family's support,but so far they want me to move out a few months after the baby is born and I am graduated from highschool as of last year but im not in college yet and I have gained like 15 lbs.., but part of my rapid weight gain was probably because my body was getting used to eating normal amounts of food again due to my recovering from my eating disorder because I went from eating like 500-800 cals a day, to 1,500-2000. But yes it is thrilling to hear the heartbeat. U heard your already? Also.. What grade r u in? And what about your family? I will add your s/n*

i only got one reply Sad

. . No one else is goin through this with the father etc? O well. .Hopefully at least people have read it and know a little about me now*

insurancegirl

replied on January 14th, 2004

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Untimely Blessings

replied on January 14th, 2004

Experienced User

Hi sweetie! My name is kelly, I am 19 years old and have a 5 year old little girl. When I told her father, caler, that I was pregnant he told me to get an abortion, when I didn't he started beating me up, he did this for 5 months, he even got me in the stomach a few times. But after he left us we pulled through! She is now happy and healthy and until recently we hadn't heard from caler for almost 6 years. Now he came back and you can read the rest of the story in my post "the meeting". You can raise your baby by yourself hun!

Kelly

KariM18

replied on January 14th, 2004

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Thanks girls!
Jennifer- wow so u started out young, and still are young and have 3! U must be so strong! And im so happy for u that ur still w/ the father*

kelly~ i'm so sorry of what he did to u.. I cannot believe that.. He doesnt deserve to be in that childs life, or yours.. I will go read the meeting so I can find out what happened.

Thanks for the encouragement!

O yeah, I was with him on and off, we were together for 3 months in the summer, then we dated again in oct. For only a few weeks.. Then I got preg. During that time cuz I am 3 months now. I told him dec 4th , the same day I found out. He basically demanded abortion...But once I said no, he turned into an problem and did nothing but yell and me and tell everyone I was just some promiscuous person he hooked up w/ one nite...Who knows what will happen. His parents still want to see the baby. But I dont know if he will. He wont talk to me tho. His mom asked me to contact him to talk things over.. So I called him and left a message.. Then he called me, yelled at me for calling him, and hung up. That was a few days ago..Who knows.. Icant explain the hate I feel for him. But my current, new boyfriend of only a few weeks is so understanding and he says he will love the kid like its his own if were stil ltogether* which he says we will be* so im happy I have him at least. .And this beautiful baby!

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