No offence intended but I notice you're from utah & I wondered if maybe your dr refused to do the hysterectomy for his own religious reasons??

I had a total hysterectomy at age 42 or 43 after 2 kids & several miscarriages. My husband & I talked to our local dr about why I wanted it - I had really heavy periods, major cramping. Migraines associated with it all & back pain (& I already have a back problem I didn't need an extra one each month). But there was no need medically. My husband had had the "cut" so I wan't going to get pregnant but I also didn't wantto go on the pill to regulate things.

Our local dr saw our view & recommended a ob/gyn who she felt would "listen" to us, we saw him together, along with our written list of why I wanted a total hysterectomy & he asked some questions then said ok. He felt that we had considered the pros & cons, we weren't going to have another child & so he did it.

So maybe talk to another local dr, see an open minded ob/gyn maybe out of state or not a mormon & have your reasons & answers to questions you might be asked, preferably take your husband (if you'er married) & present a united front, I feel this made a difference.

Good luck

Thank you so much for your reply.....Your right, my dr is mormon...I am not....Maybe that is why he said no.....Its funny cause after I posted my question, I read thru other womens posts and I am rethinking the whole hysterectomy thing....I now understand there is whole new can of worms that I would be opening........Now, I am more confused than ever.....Lol

Yes, this is not a decision to make lightly, it is major surgery & very final!! Tubes can sometimes(!) be relinked but not a total hysterectomy. But nor is it something anyone else's opinions should decide for you. Talk to your husband(?) & consider your age etc, in terms of hrt there are plenty of natural oestrogen replacements so if that's a concern don't let it be, although I don't take any replacement (my choice) & no problem.

Good luck.

Definately get your tubes tied. Sex is awful after a hysterectomy!!!!! I know I had one in august 2002, and it hasnt been the same ever since then. I am only 30 years old, so I should be enjoying intercourse, I dont it is awful. It just wasnt like that prior to my hysterectomy!!!!

I had my tubes tied and just had a partial hysterectomy 2 weeks ago. After my tubal my endometriosis became worse and very painful, the periods and cramps were so bad that nothing was helping. I had a partial because my ovaries still looked very healthy and I did not want to go into early menopause. I am still very sore but so far it seems well worth it. I still have my sex drive and no signs of menapause. I wish you all the best in your decision.