I know not everyone knows everything about everything but I was talking to someone younger (stupid idea I think) about birth control. Now I don't think she was right but she was saying using birthcontrol and condoms barely decreases your chances of not geting pregnant. She was 14 so she was all about just not having it. And told me that. So am I crazy to think its the best bet besides not having sex at all?
Your friend is indeed misinformed, but it sounds as though she might have been taught abstinence-only education. As for you, it's a personal choice to have sex and one that shouldn't be taken lightly. If you make that choice, use protection in the form of condoms (because the pill does .N.O.T protect against sexually-transmitted diseases) and be sure you feel emotionally prepared for the experience.
If you are on a reliable form of birth control (like the .Pill, .Patch, or an .Iud and take it correctly, your chances of pregnancy are very low. Combined with the use of condoms, your chances of pregnancy are nearly impossible. Certain things do reduce the effectiveness of birth control pills, like antibiotics, st. John's wort, and some anti-seizure medications. Discuss methods of birth control and their effectiveness with your doctor if you have any questions, as he/she can provide reliable information.
It is a shame that she will not learn... But it is not your problem, although I know you probably wanna educate her for her own good.
The pope refuses to say it is okay for condoms to be used to prevent aids in africa, why his stupid opinion counts anyway is beyond me.. Many places in africa are catholic, and in catholicism you have to have natural sex, no withdrawal, condoms etc....