Also I wanted to add she tells me that shes going to pee at points during we make love, and she'll get up and go and pee. Or if she don't get up and pee she holds it in, I tell her not to hold it in but she goes its pee and shes certain because every time she does end up peeing in the end.

I had this same problem. Some women have a hard time and problem getting an orgasm. Have her to ride you (get on top) both of you do each other while on this position. Start off slow not too fast because this will mess up her orgasm. Allow her to do a little of the work as well. Tell her to squeeze her walls tight for this can also boost an orgasm. If she keeps on doing this, she is more likely to cum. This is the best position for me to have a nice orgasm. Hope this helps. :wink:

If she's telling the truth about never masturbating (and I dont suppose she'd lie to you) then she sounds like she's not very in touch with herself sexually. She mustn't have any idea what an orgasm feels like or how to attain one. Encourage her to be more open to these things. I think you both need to explore her! Have you been down on her? That's a sure way to get a good response.

Through penetrative sex, women need clitoral stimulation, so try a position where you're going to be stimulating it. Try missionary, with a pillow under her bum for deeper penetration, and coital alignment technique. These are just suggestions.... And I def agree with chinid - you need to start slow.

Really, I think it's not a problem with you, it just sounds to me like she isn't experienced in these matters, and needs opening up.

Thanks ladies, I understand all your views but I just can't help but think its me. She doesn't know what an orgasm feels like at all she says, she just continuosly keep saying she has to go pee, which she does actually do, however I make her go pee before sex now and than still during sex she says she has too! Could this pee sensation be a orgasm coming at all, I personally think she should just let loose and not hold it in at all. But thanks for the suggestions and as for going down on her she doesn't want me to nor does she want to touch herself she says. So looks like I have to do all the exploring on her and find out, its just real frustrating and sometimes I think I won't be able to!

Wow, you have a really uptight girl!! I feel your frustration, but i'm gonna stick to what i've said and what the others have said - this really isn't your fault!

It's a tricky one, cos I dont think i'd be able to reach orgasm through sex unless i'd experienced it before by myself. I just wouldn't know what to make of the sensations.

This is probably an issue she has with self confidence. You have to understand that the vast majority of girls and women grow up with a totally different attitude towards their bodies then men do. Anatomical and sexual education is simply not up to scratch. For example, I didn't even know where my vagina was until I was about 11. I didnt know where anything was, for that matter! I thought at first that my clitoris was where I peed from. Then I thought "what was I thinking?" and concluded that the pee must come from my vagina. I actually hadn't a clue. None of my friends did either. Then just when you think you have it sussed, puberty hits and a load of changes occur, and you start to feel weird or abnormal. Your body becomes something you curse rather than celebrate. In my experience, women's early attitudes towards their bodies range anywhere between confusion to disgust.

Although you grow out of this with time, early experiences are what shape a lot of your attitudes throughout life, even if subconsciously.

Make sure you tell her she's beautiful. Make sure you tell her she's beautiful down there, too. The main reason I think that women don't want to receive oral is because they think their genetalia looks disgusting, smells disgusting or tastes disgusting. Make sure she knows that if you offer it's cos you want to, not cos you think you should.

Yeah, I dunno what to say really. I think this really isn't a question of being able to make her come. This shouldnt be a priority. The priority should be getting her to overcome body anxieties she has, and changing the attitudes she seems to have towards her sexuality.

Go back & read granps on organism & ejaculation thats the way it is you think you have to pee but help her through it pretty awesome when you get it figured out

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Does the trick I swear..Or...Doggy style. :roll: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

oh god I love doggie!!!!!

You should be careful about the peeing thing cause if she says she has to pee(and she really does) and you tell her not to hold it in,what if she pees all over you?

I never knew what an orgasm was like with a man until I was with my husband I had one through masterbation but it feels different with him it's really hard for him to get me off so I have to get on top to hit the right spot he can't even get me off when he goes downtown I really think your girlfriend needs to lighten up and get to know how her body works looks and feels like all us girls can give you advice but only your girlfriend knows what she likes best and I really think until she finds out and tells you what she wants then well good luck

I have had a really hard time orgasming in the past. You guys have it easy. Ladies are a bit more complicated. I have tried different things and I agree with a lot of the posts....She needs to touch and explore her body. I have been exploring my body for a long time, and if "it" isnt in the right spot, then it isnt any use. So, most times, I take control and it is exciting. My b/f gets to be dominated, and he loves it. Plus, I can control my orgasm. I love to be on top, and I also love the doggie style, and you will just have to figure out what she really needs to put her over the edge sexually. We try different things, and I think maybe you will have to bring her out of her shell. Good luck,

I know what your girlfriend is going through. I love doggy style bent over our sofa and just before I reach orgasm I need to pee.
This gets on my boyfriends nerves coz I can av an orgasm n then av to pee straight away. The only way ive found out that stops it is to pee before and straight afta.
But sometimes when I do need to pee nothing comes out so I do put it down to reaching orgasm.
Maybe your girl needs to experiment a little more and you could help her do this or she can do it alone. X

I feel that a girl should have an idea of what she wants before she has sex... Just encourgae her to explore herself and try new things. *shrug*

also... I've heard that sometimes when you hit a girl's g-spot, it feels like she has to pee, but then it just turns into an orgasm... Or something.
I mean, I wouldn't know this for sure, it's only what i've heard. And I suppose that would be something difficult to acheive unless you were in certain positions or used your hands...

Quote i've heard that sometimes when you hit a girl's g-spot, it feels like she has to pee, but then it just turns into an orgasm... Or something. Quote

i have also heard the same thing so maybe you need to talk her into just continueing

The g-spot
we have both ends of the spectrum here - couples who devote the entire weekend trying to find the elusive g spot; then we have females who are all upset because they think they pee'd the bed during sex, and are so embarrassed they are reluctant to get into sex again for fear they flood the bedroom!

Anatomically, the g spot cannot be found as such; it is believed to be a small spongy pad that wraps around the urethra. If that pad is stimulated through the vaginal wall during sexual arousal, it can be very exciting.

The g spot is a small area, (about 1 inch diameter) inside the vagina, up about an inch and half to two inches. Appropriate stimulation will cause the female to take a deep breath and push down real hard. Most women describe the sensation as feeling they want to urinate - they have a powerful urge to "bear down", same sensation of pushing when delivering a baby. They take a deep breath, hold it and push right down to their bottom.

During g spot orgasm, a large amount of fluid may suddenly gush out through the urethra. It is difficult to estimate how much fluid is expelled. I have heard amounts ranging from one cup to 2 quarts. The g spot fluid is colourless, (urine is yellow), it smells sweet like clover, (urine smells like urine), it does not stain the mattress, (urine certainly does).

Every woman who has experienced g spot orgasm has a different way of getting there. But there is a common thread through their stories. Usually it happens when:

- she is in a high trust relationship where she does not worry what she looks like, sounds like or smells like; she is confident.
- she is very, very sexually aroused. She has possibly had one or more orgasms just prior to reaching g spot orgasm.
- she reaches a certain point and she just has to push down.
- she can feel the fluid spurting out and it feels wonderful.
- after that orgasm, women will tell you they feel completely depleted, they can hardly walk to the bathroom.
- it the best sex possible.

Some women say they have easy g spot orgasms with one partner and unable to get there with another. Some women are able to stimulate themselves to g spot orgasms, others just can't.

Some women get tired of having a perpetually wet bed, so they take a green garbage bag, cut up one side and across the top. Open it up, then take a flannelette sheet or big beach towel, pin it to all four corners of the garbage bag. Then roll this up lengthwise and put it just under her side of the bed, within easy reach. Then if she decided that "tonight's the night, ain't nobody gonna stop me now", she reaches under the bed, rolls the sheet/bag under her hips. Her partner knows what that means, and away they go.

Take the pressure off yourself. Some females ejaculate on a regular basis, some can make it happen, for others it is an amazing accident, and some women just do not ejaculate. But sex is pleasurable and enjoyable and satisfying if you do or don't hit that elusive g spot.

The g-spot
we have both ends of the spectrum here - couples who devote the entire weekend trying to find the elusive g spot; then we have females who are all upset because they think they pee'd the bed during sex, and are so embarrassed they are reluctant to get into sex again for fear they flood the bedroom!

Anatomically, the g spot cannot be found as such; it is believed to be a small spongy pad that wraps around the urethra. If that pad is stimulated through the vaginal wall during sexual arousal, it can be very exciting.

The g spot is a small area, (about 1 inch diameter) inside the vagina, up about an inch and half to two inches. Appropriate stimulation will cause the female to take a deep breath and push down real hard. Most women describe the sensation as feeling they want to urinate - they have a powerful urge to "bear down", same sensation of pushing when delivering a baby. They take a deep breath, hold it and push right down to their bottom.

During g spot orgasm, a large amount of fluid may suddenly gush out through the urethra. It is difficult to estimate how much fluid is expelled. I have heard amounts ranging from one cup to 2 quarts. The g spot fluid is colourless, (urine is yellow), it smells sweet like clover, (urine smells like urine), it does not stain the mattress, (urine certainly does).

Every woman who has experienced g spot orgasm has a different way of getting there. But there is a common thread through their stories. Usually it happens when:

- she is in a high trust relationship where she does not worry what she looks like, sounds like or smells like; she is confident.
- she is very, very sexually aroused. She has possibly had one or more orgasms just prior to reaching g spot orgasm.
- she reaches a certain point and she just has to push down.
- she can feel the fluid spurting out and it feels wonderful.
- after that orgasm, women will tell you they feel completely depleted, they can hardly walk to the bathroom.
- it the best sex possible.

Some women say they have easy g spot orgasms with one partner and unable to get there with another. Some women are able to stimulate themselves to g spot orgasms, others just can't.

Some women get tired of having a perpetually wet bed, so they take a green garbage bag, cut up one side and across the top. Open it up, then take a flannelette sheet or big beach towel, pin it to all four corners of the garbage bag. Then roll this up lengthwise and put it just under her side of the bed, within easy reach. Then if she decided that "tonight's the night, ain't nobody gonna stop me now", she reaches under the bed, rolls the sheet/bag under her hips. Her partner knows what that means, and away they go.

Take the pressure off yourself. Some females ejaculate on a regular basis, some can make it happen, for others it is an amazing accident, and some women just do not ejaculate. But sex is pleasurable and enjoyable and satisfying if you do or don't hit that elusive g spot.

Female orgasm
we get so many questions about orgasm, I will try to provide some information about the big o.

An orgasm is described as a level of sexual arousal that reaches a peak then subsides leaving the participant feeling elated, relaxed and sexually satisfied. It is difficult to describe an orgasm because it is different for every female. Women generally describe it as a feeling of being so aroused that you are going to explode.

Muscles in your body may go into contraction, your hands tighten up, you may arch your back, your facial expression is intense, your breathing pattern changes to short gasps, your legs tremble, your toes curl under. You may make groaning noises, whimper, some women cry out. Because the sensations are so intense and so different for each woman, it like trying to describe a sneeze.

Are all women capable or reaching orgasm? Yes, unless there is some rare congenital abnormality or extensive genital surgery where nerves have been cut. Some women who have had a stroke can still reach orgasm. Women who are spinal cord injured and are paraplegic or quadraplegic will probably not have a genital orgasm but can reach orgasm by stimulating other areas of their bodies. Some women who have severe diabetes may not reach orgasm because of nerve degeneration.

Some women have lovely small ripple orgasms, others have massive orgasms. There are women who have one orgasm after the other as long as the stimulation continues; for others, one is quite enough for them. There is no normal, all are unique. A few women may have singleton orgasms with one partner and multiple orgasms with another partner. Some women experience a headache after orgasm; some start to cry and some start to laugh; this is simply a release of pent-up sexual tension. These reactions quickly pass and you bathe in the afterglow. Be honest about it. Every once in a while, you will have a cataclysmic orgasm. He will know it – he'll have the bruises to show for it. There are no rules when it comes to orgasms.

It is a myth that a female should have an orgasm every time she has sex. There are times when it just will not happen, if she feels fat or ugly, afraid that she might get pregnant or a disease, she may be tired, stressed, angry at her partner, preoccupied with family or finances etc. She may be uncomfortable, even in pain.

There will be times when all systems are go and she does not have an orgasm. The sex was good, she is fine, satisfied, happy and contented. She was very aroused then just slid over the top and into the "refractory period" but she is still purring.

Here is where your partner enters the scene. Do not ask "didja come?" this puts pressure on her to have an orgasm to convince you that you are a good lover and capable of satisfying her. She may be tempted to fake orgasm just to have you believe that you are that good. Faking orgasm is destructive to a relationship that is based on honesty and trust. If your partner is dishonest, the trust level is shattered and that can be very damaging to a relationship.

Ladies, be honest, "no, I didn't have an orgasm but you are great, I feel wonderful, wow, you are da man." guys, accept that.

How to have an orgasm for females

most women reach their first orgasm all by themselves. Few things you have to do before you begin. First, you have to:

1. Become comfortable with your own body.
2. Look at the messages you got as a kid about "self pleasuring"(masturbation). Bad, dirty, dangerous?
3. Give yourself permission to fantasize about sex. Read a sexy novel, romance pocket book, allow yourself to get turned on. You can't masturbate without fantasy. Read our web site on female masturbation.
4. Give yourself permission to stimulate yourself, learn what pleasures you, all by yourself.
5. Share that information with your partner, guide your partner so he can make the moves that are pleasurable for you.
There are a few basics you need to know. For most females, penis size is not important. Bigger is not better. Most women do not reach orgasm with sexual intercourse. Most women reach orgasm by clitoral stimulation, either manual, oral-genital contact or a vibrator.

Here are a few great books that will be helpful: 'the big book of masturbation' from down there press; 'the good orgasm guide' by kate taylor; 'self love and orgasm' and 'sex for one', both by betty dobson; 'turn ons, pleasing yourself while you please your lover' by Dr. Lonnie barbach; 'orgasms' by tara barker; 'for yourself' by Dr. Lonnie barbach; 'understanding the g-spot' by donald hicks; and 'great sex' by anne hooper.