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Q: Read Me - Yes, You!
asked by: Kia on June 9th, 2006
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This is the gist of an email I received today - the poster shall remain anonymous so don't ask me.

I have generalised things a bit as to be honest my replies would be similar

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no you are running one hell of an establishment here.

i don't run this site and a lot of stuff would be different if I did

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letting people call other people and/or their babies names or saying they aren't cute.

i can not and will not tell anyone that they must lie and say everyone and their children are beautiful. Sure it'd be more tactful to not say anything but there is no reason for someone to lie.


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telling people that they should die, saying peoples children need to be taken away.

there have been a few instances of various members saying someone should die and no, I don't think it should be said. Posts containing that sort of comment will be locked or removed as deemed appropriate at the time.

Saying peoples children should be taken away - is a different matter. I t depends on what the recipient is doing to prompt such comment.

In the past few years i've thought this about a few people that have come through these forums.

I sincerely hate when people don't appreciate their kids and how lucky they are to have them.

This is a topic close to my heart and if you want to know more then ask.


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that persons ip address needs to be blocked which I know wont because you are a mod and you have a personal relationship with them.

yes I am a mod here that means I don't have the ability to ban people - trust me there are some people i'd love to ban - repeat offenders who stir up trouble and make fake names over and over again for a start.


If anyone thinks I have a "personal relationship" with someone and that they get "special treatment" because of that is very misguided.

I don't care who makes a post, i'll lock or delete as I see fit at the time I read said post.

Anyone is welcome to draw my attention to a post that they feel is out of hand or where an inappropriate comment has been made.

I do strangely have a little bit of a life outside of my computer screen and sometimes posts do go unread.


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no one else posts nasty comments.

actually, yes they do. In fact most people at some time or another will make a post that will offend someone.

Very often the "nasty" comment is something that a lot of people would like to say but have too much tact to go ahead and do.

Smart people would ignore those comments that they don't like or report them either to myself or another mod to deal with instead of causing more drama.


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i am really curious to see how long the site will let this continue.

well I guess that means you will be hanging around for a while then - good we need more long term posters, and hopefully you will see that if no-one fuels the fire it can not burn.

As it stands I believe it's been going for about 3 years now.


I hope I cleared up a few issues here, if not feel free to post back.


As far as possible I like to stay neutral or to try to mediate if both parties wish.

I have very different views on most issues to most people who use these forums.

I was bought up by a different generation, i'm soon to be pushing 30 yet 15 often seems like a couple years ago - I remember it well and I remember how "rebellious" I was.

I don't have "personal relationships" with anyone online except for a few limited "friends" that I have known for over 2 years, even then that would be more of a good "acquaintence" rather than "personal relationship".


Kia xxx


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michelle1981
replied on June 9th, 2006
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Ooooooooo, I wanna know .Kia------you tease!!!
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Sunflower_pie81
replied on June 9th, 2006
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Well put, luv.

Kudos to you.
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Melissa_20
replied on June 9th, 2006
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Kia,you hold yourself so well!
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Kia
replied on June 9th, 2006
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I hold myself well??? Isn't that a little kinky?
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Melissa_20
replied on June 9th, 2006
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There you go being a smart again! No! I was saying that in a different way,like. . .You know what I meant silly! Lol
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Kia
replied on June 9th, 2006
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:p
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Melissa_20
replied on June 9th, 2006
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Ok kia.I would like you to know he called me back while I was in the bathroom and he appolagized to me for how he acted and for hanging up on me : ) I was starting to think he wasn't trying anymore(i have had lots of problems with him in the past) but I still think he is.Thanks for listening to me b*tch! : )
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diamondsz
replied on June 9th, 2006
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I dont know who wrote that email but as it is alot of us get along with kia but she had no problem locking my post and for that I respect her because she keeps the peace what ppl dont understand is that none of us live in front of a pc.

I say nasty comments and I do it because I dont agree with that persons view I know that email isnt in regards to me but how did you act at 16 I highly doubt you were an angel lol!!! All im trying to get across is put urself on those peoples shoes

im not trying to stir stuff but I write how I feel I hate holding stuff in it hurts my head and I get all stressed but anyways have a good day everyone
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diamondsz
replied on June 9th, 2006
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Yeah thats abit out of line but im just saying for anything else that doesnt endanger kids oh god anyways ill leave it that
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Kia
replied on June 9th, 2006
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Me? An angel - far far far from it.

As I said in the first post if anyone wants to know why I feel the way I do you can ask me.

But I have been more rebellious than most people would ever imagine
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diamondsz
replied on June 9th, 2006
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Kia I didnt mean u I just meant everyone in general
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DaliciaLynn
replied on June 9th, 2006
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Haha obviously that was about me.

My 2 cents - I have been on this site for a while and haven't been banned yet, when I first came here I shared my opinion with people, and still am. I havent changed the person I am since i've been on this forum & I won't ever.

I said sorry to tanya, she said she forgives me. End of. Tanya is a sweet girl, and didnt deserve anything I said and as I said before, I would soo let the girl nail me right in the face for what I said about her baby.

I have my stupid days, as everyone else does.
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MamiClaudia
replied on June 9th, 2006
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Hey everyone it was me that wrote the email just to let all you nosey nosey people know! =0d
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diamondsz
replied on June 9th, 2006
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You should have just clamped up, your going to learn that sometimes things are better left unsaid she apoligized to the girl and thats all that needs to be said this has no concern to me or you.

The only time I would rat someone out for advice is if someones life is in danger such as them doing hard drugs or someone saying their are going to kill someone and you actually know they are going to do it or blind threats anyways anyways thats it
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michelle1981
replied on June 9th, 2006
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Kia, I love you!!!
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ThriftyGal
replied on June 10th, 2006
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I'm trying to stay off ehealth but i'm still reading it people, and I can't not say something that is really itching to be said...



I'm sick of people using what dalicia did to me as a way to fight against her. Especially since it's pretty irrelevant to anyone besides me and her. Like in becksters post (not going at you if I was I would have said it then, but i'm just saying). Dalicia and her had their own personal little thing and as soon as it happened all of a sudden beckster was using what happened to me against dalicia when before she said nothing and didn't get involved. It is irrelevant and we've dealt it out on our own, so no one use it against her as i'm not even holding it against her as I forgave her and we even were able to laugh about the whole incident afterwards and get over ourselves. Use your own personal experience if you must but I don't want anyone to use my experience to fight against her. Fair? Thanks. And by the way, why would she want to change and be nicer to people if they keep hanging stuff over her head and bringing it up... I've experienced this so many times in my life and each time it just gave me the thought "fine if you are going to expect the worse from me and treat me according to things i've already done wrong I have no reason to try to be any better". Everyone deserves a clean slate people, she said sorry, nothing else she can do let it go already.
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Kia
replied on June 10th, 2006
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If you feel strongly then yes there is every reason to pm a mod.

Mamicludia's mail was the most recent one, not the only one, that I received and I generalised greatly because I have had other similar mails about various people.

Comments like "xyz should die" - nah most of them have not come from d in fact the number of them that have been posted - she barely scratches the surface.
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MamiClaudia
replied on June 10th, 2006
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Everything I wrote to kia are things that I wrote in posts so im glad you could figure out that it was I that had sent it hehe. But im not talking about what was said to tanya. I am 15 weeks pregnant and I was told that I should be pushed down a flight of stairs and kicked in the stomach. Sorry to who wrote it if I cant take your 'jokes' I could care less because I have a very determined opinon of her. And there were plenty of other things said to plenty of other people that I have read. And yes I am a 'newbie' but to have to tell me that I have to watch my back, the things I say, and my opionins for that is immature and ridiculous. To tell a 17 year old girl that posts something about being pregnant here that she is a liar is wrong too. You have no right to be scaring away anyway and you have no right to try and determine who comes and who goes with your attitude. I saw a post somewhere else that said something along the lines of "dont worry she wont be here long" (not directed to me) and its kind if ridiculous some people here view it as... If I dont like you im going to be as bichy as I can until you leave my club house. Of course in that post back there I said some mean stuff out of anger and I am sorry that I said it but it is not something that I do on a daily bassis as with some people here. This is a public site and everyone that comes here should be treated with respect and given the benifit of the doubt for the posts they make. Like I have said plenty of times before if you dont like someone here or you think they are lieing what sweat is it off your back? It is diffrent when someones post get bumbarded with profanity and insults. Its uncalled for, and I dont care of immature, bichy, or high up on the ehealthforum foodchain anyone thinks they are here.. But you have no right to dictate to anyone in that maner and no right to dictate who comes and who goes and who is honsest and who is not.
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Kia
replied on June 10th, 2006
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You misunderstand.

When you have been here 3 years you also will quickly identify fakes.
People come here to pretend to be something they are not.

The girls here take those people into their confidence - build friendships, only to be hurt by that person.

After a while these people become easy to spot, the stories are similar, usually there is a fatality or similar, pregnancy gets bumped forward by months in the space of a couple weeks.

Also another thing to bear in mind is that some girls know others from other websites.

Sometimes a comment that looks "nasty" actually isn't because the person it is directed at knows the tone in which it is delivered.

For example a while back terra and dalicia posted about each other seemingly really nasty comments. They weren't and the recipients knew that yet to an outsider (of that conversation - me included) it was like woah what until you read the whole post and understood.
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