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Orgasms Vs Ejaculation Posted: 06-08-06 20:17pm


Could anyone please help me out on this? I've orgasmed many many times (followed by the 'shakes,' fast heartbeat, sweat, etc.Etc.Etc), but there is one thing I haven't experienced, and i'm not sure if it's a 'normal' thing or something made up for porno: i've never ejaculated. Now, I don't see why a woman would ejaculate...I mean, we get wet to allow the penis to enter all nice and everything, and then the man shoots to get the sperms up in the v.I.P. Area so the female gets pregnant. It's just natural stuff. And yet, i've heard of this. And now my boyfriend of a year wants me to ejaculate, and I really don't know how to do it, or even if I could. There are times where there is no way he's going to cum, and so he'll work and work and work until I ejaculate. But since I never do, we both wake the next day all swollen. I'm fairly sexually active (with my guy and myself) and I know what gets me off. I just don't ejaculate. Does anyone know if it's abnormal to not ejaculate if you're a woman? I feel so broken.... Thanks!

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Posted: 06-09-06 05:42am


Don't worry. As far as i'm concerned the vast majority of women have never experienced female ejaculation. I was intrigued by that long post about how to make yourself squirt, and I tried it, and it didn't work :) i don't know anyone who it ever has worked for. Every woman is different and perhaps it is possible for some, but untill I see it for myself I remain somewhat of a sceptic.

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Posted: 06-09-06 22:55pm


A lot of women have so many troubles in life to worry about (society, abuse, crazy men lol) that they forget to let themselves go during sex fiona05 if you tried the g-spot orgasm alone, i'd suggest getting a trigger point massage, and if that isn't available get a deep tissue one, then try it again...If you get that pee feeling you're close. Oh yeah...Do lots of kegels! If you still get nothing...Pm me :)

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I Have a Question Posted: 06-10-06 00:09am


Do you think that male or female masturbation is more satisfying and if you dont mind saying so why is that your opinion? :oops:

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Posted: 06-10-06 09:05am

da vinci wrote:

a lot of women have so many troubles in life to worry about (society, abuse, crazy men lol) that they forget to let themselves go during sex

fiona05 if you tried the g-spot orgasm alone, i'd suggest getting a trigger point massage, and if that isn't available get a deep tissue one, then try it again...If you get that pee feeling you're close. Oh yeah...Do lots of kegels!

If you still get nothing...Pm me :)

answer me this then:

1) when we use the term g spot, what are we actually referring to? I've read plenty about where the gspot is, but nothing on what it actually is. Is it hypersensitive erectile tissue? Is it a muscle? What is it about this particular area that could cause a woman to ejaculate?

2) where does the ejaculate come from? A gland? What?

3) what is contained in the ejaculate?

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Posted: 06-10-06 12:13pm


Fiona05: the g-spot is acutally inside the tissue underneath the urethra. There are paraurethral glands (on either side) of the female urethra. This area enlarges during sexual stimulation and swells during orgasm. It's sensitive tissue but unlike the clit, it doesn't get as hypersensitive during orgasm so you can "reuse" it almost right after orgasm. It is apart of the urethral sponge. The ejaculate that comes from the skene’s (paraurethral) glands is not urine, but a thin clear fluid containing glucose and prostatic acid. This chemical makeup is much more similar to semen (without sperm), than it is to urine. The male and female genitalia are the same up until 6 weeks of pregnancy...Heck they are still the same, but different...I'd go into this further but i'm sure you all already know this. Look at this pic http://en.Wikip edia.Org/wiki/image:fem_isa_2.Gif

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Orgasms Vs. Ejaculation Posted: 06-10-06 21:50pm


Here is a bit more on the subject...... Females ejaculate? Yes, they do. We’re talking about a gusher of fluid spurting out of her vagina as she comes. Actually, to be more accurate, the fluid comes squirting out of her urethra. Don’t let this gross you out, though; it’s not pee! Female cum is a clear, odorless liquid produced by a small organ called the “female prostate,” or urethral sponge, which is located between the urethra and vagina. The fluid it produces just happens to come out of the pee hole, but...So does guys’ semen, right? While some women may experience ejaculation naturally in the course of intercourse or other sex play, most require some concentrated stimulation of the g-spot. Massaging the g-spot causes the urethral sponge to become engorged with fluid, which is then expelled during orgasm. And, as with an orgasm, ejaculation also requires the woman to “let go.” before ejaculating, the woman will feel as though she is going to pee. However, it is nearly impossible for her to urinate while coming, because the muscular contractions of orgasm close off the bladder and prevent the passage of urine. As she gets closer to coming, she will start to feel as though she has to urinate. That’s the cum beginning to flow into her urethra. In order for her ejaculate, she has to relax, let go, and push down and out with the same muscles she would use as if she were peeing. It may be hard to overcome the impulse to hold back, but you can reassure her, again, that if she is coming, she will not pee. Instead, as she comes and pushes the fluid out, she should feel extra intense orgasmic pleasure, and you should be rewarded with a spurt of nectar that may range from gentle gush to a drenching spray. Visit "www.Talkwithsue.Com"

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kegel Posted: 04-07-08 13:32pm


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Kegel Posted: 04-08-08 00:41am


xxxfrankxxx Kegel Exercises Kegel exercises (pronounced "kaygel") are a series of simple exercises you can do anywhere, any time. Stuck in traffic? TV too boring? Just start Kegel-ing! You will not regret it, especially if you are pregnant, just had a baby, if you have had lower abdominal surgery, if you want to spice up your sex life, or if you are a male and experiencing Erectile Dysfunction or you just want to last longer - Kegels will help. Our pubococcygeal muscles (P.C.) act like a sling, suspended from our pubic bone in front to coccyx or tailbone in back. These muscles support all your pelvic organs, bladder, uterus, and bowel. Sphincters are rings of muscle that circle your anus, your bladder, and the vagina. As a result of pregnancy, surgery, menopause, bladder infections, or simply aging, muscle tone decreases. And you know that old expression - if you don't use it, you lose it! So, you may laugh, cough, do aerobic exercises, and you spurt small amounts of urine - very embarrassing. Or you may be stuck in traffic, get home, put your key in the lock, and suddenly, you've gotta pee - like, now! You crotch-clutch and dribble in your rush to the bathroom. You've got a problem. Before you go to the doctor for treatment for incontinence or resort to adult diapers, you can take charge with Kegels. There is an easy way to tell which muscles you should exercise - try to stop the flow of urine when urinating. If you can stop the flow when tightening your PC muscles, you will know that you are contracting the correct muscles. (Although this is a good check for accurate Kegel technique, it is not recommended that you regularly perform these contractions while urinating.) Here are some exercises that are helpful: Sit on a hard chair; lean forward and tighten all your sphincter muscles, anal, vaginal, and urethral, in succession, front to back; hold the squeeze for one or two seconds; release, then contract from back to front. If you are in a line-up at the store, you can squeeze all your PC muscles and lift up. You will notice that when you do this, you tuck in your tailbone and tighten your abdominal muscles at the same time. That's a good thing. Now, gradually release the muscles slowly, one by one. Here's one they call The Flutter. You contract all the PC muscles quickly, and then release repeatedly. Another one: Squeeze your PC muscles briefly for a count of five; hold; then squeeze harder, and hold for another five seconds; then squeeze as hard as possible and hold again for a count of five. Then, slowly reverse the process, releasing a little, holding for five, repeat, until your muscles relax completely. As with any exercise program, start gradually. When your muscles begin to strengthen, increase the number of Kegels you do every day and the length of time you hold each contraction. By making Kegel exercises part of your daily routine, you will improve urinary control (both women and men), as well as vaginal tone. In males, the additional blood-flow to the genitals due to exercising also helps with erections. Granps

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Posted: 04-08-08 15:29pm


My boyfriend was fingering me and I dont remember the feeling of having to pee but then I felt like I tinkled it felt like a light fluid like the consistency of pee but it didnt smell like it. I asked him if he noticed and he said no but I get VERY VERY wet down there so was it possible that i ejaculated but not that much?

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heybaybee - boy friend fingering you Posted: 04-08-08 16:56pm


More information about fingering, climax & the G-spot We have both ends of the spectrum here - couples who devote the entire weekend trying to find the elusive G Spot; then we have females who are all upset because they think they pee'd the bed during sex, and are so embarrassed they are reluctant to get into sex again for fear they flood the bedroom! Anatomically, the G Spot cannot be found as such; it is believed to be a small spongy pad that wraps around the urethra. If that pad is stimulated through the vaginal wall during sexual arousal, it can be very exciting. The G Spot is a small area, (about 1 inch diameter) inside the vagina, up about an inch and half to two inches. Appropriate stimulation will cause the female to take a deep breath and push down real hard. Most women describe the sensation as feeling they want to urinate - they have a powerful urge to "bear down", same sensation of pushing when delivering a baby. They take a deep breath, hold it and push right down to their bottom. During G Spot orgasm, a large amount of fluid may suddenly gush out through the urethra. It is difficult to estimate how much fluid is expelled. I have heard amounts ranging from one cup to 2 quarts. The G Spot fluid is colourless, (urine is yellow), it smells sweet like clover, (urine smells like urine), it does not stain the mattress, (urine certainly does). Every woman who has experienced G Spot orgasm has a different way of getting there. But there is a common thread through their stories. Usually it happens when: - she is in a high trust relationship where she does not worry what she looks like, sounds like or smells like; she is confident. - she is very, very sexually aroused. She has possibly had one or more orgasms just prior to reaching G Spot orgasm. - she reaches a certain point and she just has to push down. - she can feel the fluid spurting out and it feels wonderful. - after that orgasm, women will tell you they feel completely depleted, they can hardly walk to the bathroom. - it the best sex possible. Some women say they have easy G Spot orgasms with one partner and unable to get there with another. Some women are able to stimulate themselves to G Spot orgasms, others just can't. Some women get tired of having a perpetually wet bed, so they take a green garbage bag, cut up one side and across the top. Open it up, then take a flannelette sheet or big beach towel, pin it to all four corners of the garbage bag. Then roll this up lengthwise and put it just under her side of the bed, within easy reach. Then if she decided that "tonight's the night, ain't nobody gonna stop me now", she reaches under the bed, rolls the sheet/bag under her hips. Her partner knows what that means, and away they go. Take the pressure off yourself. Some females ejaculate on a regular basis, some can make it happen, for others it is an amazing accident, and some women just do not ejaculate. But sex is pleasurable and enjoyable and satisfying if you do or don't hit that elusive G spot. More sex infor go to "talksexwithsue.com"

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Posted: 04-14-08 22:56pm


disposablefeelings... I have the other problem I squirt when he fingers me but cant orgasm. For me to squirt he puts his fingers in facing up and does the "come here" motion with his fingers... gets me every time.. I used to be embarrassed about it but then I found out he is crazy about it. If you could help me find a way to orgasm that would be great! Seeing that we have opposite problems! Thanks

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Posted: 04-14-08 23:21pm


Orgasm normally comes from the CLITORIS, not the g-spot. Try stimulating your clitoris! You need to masturbate, girl!

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Posted: 04-15-08 06:05am


I do!! I use my vibrator and I love it! But I can't seem to orgasm with my husband! That is what I really want. I can only go with my vibrator but if I manually stimulate myself it doesn't work.. any suggestions?

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Posted: 04-15-08 08:58am


I'd suggest masturbating with only manual stimulation to get orgasm that way first, however it may simply be too hard to achieve. There's no rule saying you can't use a vibrator during sex!!

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Orgasms Vs. Ejaculations Posted: 05-13-08 14:53pm


Hey ladies, listen up! I am soon to be 49 years old and had never ejaculated until 6 months ago! We use all types of toys during sex. He used to say "I want to see it" and I'd say "see what?" I did a google search on female orgasms and read that during clitoral or just beneath it stimulation, a woman should relax her body and let it happen, go with the feeling, don't be afraid and know that it is not pee. At our next encounter I did just that. Now I squirt all across the room. I call it my double whammy because during the clitoral orgasm I let go and the fluid releases. I could do this all night. He loves it and so do I! I'm a big girl now!!