I have been dating this guy for 1+ year.
Everything is fine except that he has
pe(premature ejaculation). Prior to this
relationship I was seeing another person
for four years and we had regular sex.
For my current beau well he is new to sex.
So at first we thought he might be too
nervous. However after few attempts to
have sex he stills ejaculates early.
Since then we did not try to have sex.
Our most imtimate moves are just caressing
and french kissing. I try my very best to
handle this situation. I gave him the
best support and courage that I can.
Never once did I show my frustration
(imagine being aroused yet not being
satisfied). I always put a smile on my
face for him. However, he does not take
any effort at all for his problem. When
confronted, he said he had not really sit
down to think about it and he is not ready
for a doctor. We have not discussed about
the issue since. You see, I am an
conservative asian girl who can't discuss
such issues freely. I did email him once
about this but no reponse from him.
Needless to say, I am very frustrated.
That's not due to lack of sex, but his
attitude. I am a 28, young, healthy woman
who has normal desires for sex. All this
while I am hiding my desires and feelings
as I do not want to upset him. However,
as mentioned, not only I feel frustrated,
I feel unattractive. Sometimes I wonder
if it is my fault.
Any advises would be much appreciated.
Thanks!
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robbeh
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jun 2006 Posts: 10 Location: england
Posted: 06-08-06 18:31pm
Trying to get the same advise but for
myself lol
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scott4
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Jun 2006 Posts: 1 Location: Erie, Pa
Posted: 06-10-06 08:23am
Have you tried getting him off another way
first, waiting a half hour and then having
sex? Sometimes the first time is very
quick, but the second time lasts forever.
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rifki
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jun 2006 Posts: 8 Location: indonesia
Posted: 06-11-06 06:30am
Hmmm ... I think the right decision is to
dump him, he doesn't care about your need
....
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DylanJacob
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Apr 2006 Posts: 559
Posted: 06-11-06 07:52am
That's bullshit, he probably does care
about you - being his first time with
someone he probably is nervous, but that's
probably not what's making him ejaculate
early - pe is a condition in itself, can
be caused by many things -
the reason he probably doesn't want to
have sex is because he feels self
consciouis about his problem, and probably
also feels scared if he does have sex with
you then it might satisfy you even less.
Maybe get him to see someone professional
or in foreplay try getting him to come,
then wait a bit until having sex (as scott
said) - if not, try telling him with no
pressure that for your relationship you
.N.E.E.D to talk about this. He probably
doesn't want to see a doctor because he's
scared of finding something out which he
doesn't want to. If he sees a doctor he
can probably be helped in some way. Good
luck.
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rifki
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jun 2006 Posts: 8 Location: indonesia
Posted: 06-12-06 07:16am
dylanjacob
wrote:
that's bullshit, he
probably does care about you - being his
first time with someone he probably is
nervous, but that's probably not what's
making him ejaculate early - pe is a
condition in itself, can be caused by many
things -
the reason he probably doesn't want to
have sex is because he feels self
consciouis about his problem, and probably
also feels scared if he does have sex with
you then it might satisfy you even less.
Maybe get him to see someone professional
or in foreplay try getting him to come,
then wait a bit until having sex (as scott
said) - if not, try telling him with no
pressure that for your relationship you
.N.E.E.D to talk about this. He probably
doesn't want to see a doctor because he's
scared of finding something out which he
doesn't want to. If he sees a doctor he
can probably be helped in some way. Good
luck.
hey...She's been with that guy more than a
year ....
I'm a man too, I really care about my girl
needs ....
U know men, ..They don't always on the top
performance when it comes about sex
...Girls r natural sex machine..
So if u really care about your girl needs,
i'll do anything to satisfied her
...Techniques ...Cunilingus ..Etc etc that
u can't imagine ...
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DylanJacob
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Apr 2006 Posts: 559
Posted: 06-12-06 07:36am
I'm a girl by the way. Dylan is my son's
name...
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MESTIZOFLIP
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 May 2006 Posts: 13
Drink Posted: 06-14-06 16:06pm
Get him drunk... I dont have a pe
problem, but I know that when I drink it
usually takes me a little longer to
go...Thats what my gf says..
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cobrakid
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Jan 2006 Posts: 29
Posted: 08-15-06 04:13am
Try being on top. That can help and you
control your own orgasm better.
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prelude
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 May 2006 Posts: 77
Posted: 08-15-06 17:24pm
Just get him to masterbate you till you
cum, and then he can start to penetrate
you. Thats the easy way.
