I am the mother of two grown children, and I have to tell you even though I would like to think that I was tuned in with my children now that they are grown I realize that I miss read them lots of times. Maybe you need to sit down with your mother and really talk to her and tell her how you are feeling. Tell her you need to have a private conversation so that you don't get input from other people. I know that probably is not cool, but hay who is to say what is cool and what is not. I will listen any time and there is always councelors at school, good luck

Sorry... I really dont know why but I found it really hard to give u sympathy... You wrote in such a way that u were trying to tell out your life in the most dramatic way.

Im currently doing my a levels atm... And feeling a lil down.

When I was doing my gcse's I had severe depression... Its just about feeling like u cant cope...

So let me get this straight... Your depressed because you had exams about a month ago right and u got some answers wrong.... Surely if u had put time into revising then u would have known these answers...

Im sorry if your feeling like your down and im giving u very little sympathy but if your feeling like your down its no good keeping quiet all day. Its quiet clear that you've had a one off rowl and its easy to feel like its been going on forever.

When I was at the same stage as you I took on this idea that the whole world is against me that I was unloved by my parents and that nobody cares and it doesnt change anything.... I don't want you to fall into the same thing as I did

the only thing that can sort out your problems is not your mum sitting you down and telling you that everythings going to be ok and that she loves u, what needs to be done is you need to face up to the problems in your life and do something about it... Such as if you didnt get as good exams results as you were hoping then work on maybe resitting them if its possible or to really stop sitting there telling yourself that lifes too hard and just sit around being depressed... Listen to me on that... It really wont get you anywhere.... Ur grades wont change you'll have just alienated urself from your family and fallen behind further with your studies

whats done is done what you need to do now is take some time away from life and think about what you need to do to your life back on track despite how bigger task that may feel like...

It is easy to make your life easier... You know inside yourself that the only way that you can change whats happening in your life is admitting your mistakes and getting over them in a positive way...

You know yourself that your family love you and that they would miss u terribly if u werent alive...

Please listen to my advice I didnt spend this time late on a wednesday evening to just think im stupid... Cos I kno thats what I would have thought really think about it....

U will come to this point you just need to work out whether you need to go round that cycle of feeling very depressed before you can tackle your problems or whether you feel like you are strong enough to sort them out, which wont take much time, and start living like a happy teen again...

I really wish you the best of luck....
Dont persue the road down depression because however attractive it might seem to you at this point in time it is very grim and quite destructive

be constructive and good luck :)

Wow...

I mean... I guess I can see where you are coming from with your responce but, dude, having your whole family telling you it is all caca and that you should just get over it (in so many words) is the worst thing that can happen...

Just sitting there feeling depressed is one thing...

Just sitting there feeling depressed because you tried to talk to your family about it and having them blow you off is just messed up!!!

How dare you say such things like, that's the only reason your depressed? What is wrong with you! Makes you the most callous jerk on earth!

When I am lucid I realize that my life doesnt' suck that much... But once the illness kicks in the depression comes and there is nothing you can do about it...

Do you honestly think that all those people that have commited suicide in history were thinking rationally when they did it? Do you think that it is rational when we cut ourselves???

It isn't and that is the whole freaking point... This is an illness!

You yell at this health forum like you are god all mighty, like you are judge and jurry, but you are just a calous person that must have no social interation to be that innept at interprateing emotions...

Why is it that if you have a mental illness everyone is allowed to tell you to put a freaking smile on your face, think happy thoughts, and everythign will be ok??

Why can we be yelled at and shunned by the world??

U can't go scream at a guy for having cancer...

You will never hear "god damnit dave!! How can you be so self centered that you feel it's ok to get ebola! How selfish are you??"

you lost a limb? Well I guess you did that just so that you can stay at home and get attention!

what???

I have friends, well, x-friends, that still going around saying that I am saying i'm depressed and have ptsd just for the attention... Even the fact that I need a new hip is played off as if I am doing it so that I can be lazy...

You have really pissed me off with your statements that make it sound so easy to make this all stop and to put down the knife...

You make me sick...

Now, girlie... You do need to try to make things better but don't let your family get to you too much... They are totally incapable of understanding what is going on inside your head...

It's like asking a guy to understand being pregnant...

It is just beyond their abilities...Yet they feel that it is ok to tell you how to "cure" yourself because they have gotten sad once or twice in their lives...

Honestly... This might be part of pms... Depression and borderline personality disorder (it's what makes you want to cut) are truly exaserbated by horemones...

Hang in there and be aware that not all of us are as stupid and calous as ^that guy!

Good luck honey!

Thank you all for trying to help me out here.

W0rldd0minat0r, do you really think that i'm "pursuing the road down depression because it looks attractive"? Honestly, did you deliberately make yourself depressed when you were doing your gcse's because depression looked attractive? Hmm..

During my argument, my mom too, told me to not be quiet all day. But I had nothing to say! I really didn't know what to say. So I asked her what did she want me to say? I didn't read the papers that day so I couldn't discuss the latest news with her like I always do. She just wanted me to talk! About what?! There really wasnt a purpose to talk. She didn't ask me anything that day, if she did I would've answered. Unless she wants me to make noise, then sure.. I can make monkey noises if she wants me to. It's like asking someone why didn't he go to the toilet this afternoon? I think it's ok to be quiet since I really really really had nothing to talk about!

well..... Where do I start with this dude..... Omg.... Motormouth and theres a lot of anger up in there... With very little logic to knowing what he is talking about.

Dude when your through your depression and come through the other side then try and talk to me in a reasonable manor because dude you talk to much bs....


And also mate I know exactly how it feels to be told that I am making it up... It took a long time for people to realise that there was something seriously wrong.... Im not sure if its the same for you but I had the same kinda feelings as the girl in this message and im writing how it helped me to come over the other side...

I had to put down the feelings that it wasn't worth the effort and it would be easier going through death destroying my body and slashing it open... Stabbing myself through the gullet with a knife... Dude ive been there to...
~ as I said its not simple to put those thoughts past you and it might take some time but thats where your gonna to end up september at one point.


Being able to say theres a lot for me to deal with... But im just gonna face it head on no matter how hard they are and how much of a struggle it is whether my family is supportive or not (my family didn't give two shits whether I was alive or dead).

Whenever I feel like I have problems I look at the third world its hard for us people in the western world to comprehend the kinda problems people have.... If you have the time and money go buy geldof in africa volume 3
its what I reflect on when I think I have problems... Its a video btw....




Oh and btw about this comment....


"why is it that if you have a mental illness everyone is allowed to tell you to put a freaking smile on your face, think happy thoughts, and everythign will be ok??"

things aren't gonna sort out if you just sit in a corner telling yourself that life is bad, that the world is bad, that anyone who tells you to sort your life out is bad then your just gonna take yourself down a road that no human being should go down... So yeah....

You have a mental illness as you put it and so do i.... But seriously dude... Your never gonna be happy unless you do do something positive because sitting around writing abusive messages to people might make u feel better in the short term but really your life hasnt changed when you wake up the next day....

(if you expect people to sit you down and go there there I know life is hard but we all care for you ... And how does that make u feel? Go see a councellor they just help you clear your head tho.... Its you who has to sort yourself out its you that has to sort out why your feeling the way you are... And no its not pretty but its gotta be done.... And when you come out of this illness you will have overcomed that and yes you will be able to put a smile on your face and yes you will think happy thoughts but u need to take that step dude to go to the that point.... Just take some advice yourself man....Maybe go see a councellor to try and help you sort out whats going on with your head.... Why your having these feelings and then you go to cbt maybe with the help of anti-depressants to start tackling problems and sorting out the way your mind works when tackling problems... Good luck to you dude.... If you wanna send anymore stuff saying im a bad person go right ahead but pm me dude....