Broken Relationship Due to Bipolar & Adhd Posted: 06-06-06 07:21am
My gf broke up with me 4 months ago.
We spent alot of time trying to work stuff
out. In the process shareing some of
the best times we've ever had. However
2 months later she called it fully off.
One later (which is also about a month ago
today)
i was dignosed with adhd & bipolar.
Shes suffered from depression earlyer on
in her life. And is still medicated for
it. We where together for a year.
A few weeks after meeting her we where
practically living together and where that
couple that made everyone in the world
jeloues of what we shared. 4-5 months
into we started having small probelms that
where just seen as nothing to unsual.
Things only contined to get worse.
We where deeply in love. But it wasnt
working. For reasons that just didnt
make sense. Puelry tiny tiny things.
These reasons make alot of sense to me now
though. I moved out towards the end
last year. To see if that would help.
We where still always inseperable.
We'd already planned the rest of our lives
together. It was the real thing. A
few weeks before we broke up. We had a
large argument on the phone that almost
led to a brake up. In replie she sent
me a email expressing her undevided love
for me. She broke up with me because
she needed space. Promising me that
we'd get back together. It never
happened.
She had mentioned a few times some of the
way I acted weren't normal and that I
should see someone. Aswell as
mentioning a few major things I need to
work on in that last email. I took
disregarded. I just thought I had
faluts in my personality it'll work itself
out. I also have rapid-cycling bipolar.
And I can idetify quite a few minor and
major episodes during our relationship
that has seriosuly effected things.
A month ago when I rang her and told her
my dignosis her voice lifted so much.
And we had the best conversation we've had
in month. Later that day she lost her
job. Shes already in alot of det.
And this couldnt of came at a worse time.
We spoke a little over next week. I
got a little to pushy and being on a few
meds for the first time probably didnt
help things.
I wanted to wait a while before trying to
talk about weather there was maybe a
future still for us. I didnt wait very
long. She has her stuff to sort out.
So do i. My #1 priority should be me
and it is. I couldnt be with her right
now it would be silly. But I lover her
and want to work this out so there is a
strong possablity in the future. The
last time we spoke being about 3 weeks
ago. She told she couldnt handle this
right now. Since then i've only sent a
short text msg.
I really have no idea what to do. There
is possably a new guy on the scene I don't
know. I need to regain some connection
or something.
I read all these girls writing on here
with concerns for there ill bf's that
won't do anything about there condition.
And I am doing every thing possable.
Never forgetting to take meds. Knowing
all the side effects.
Reading, reserching understanding my
illness. And from a spouse's point of
view! I just have no idea... Any
advice would be great!
