4 months ago. I feel hopeless. I love my
child more than anything in the whole
world ever but I cant seem to focus and I
dread everyday tasks. Not to mention my
boyfriend and the father of my baby, lets
call him "bryan" just doesnt seem to
understand me. We rushed into things much
to soon and i'm so hurt by something he's
done to me.
This last weekend he was talking online
w/his friends "matt" and "catie" and got
this wonderful idea to ask "catie" for a
picture of her nude. He told me about
this the next day but failed to mention
until three days later that he masturbated
to this picture. I'm so hurt. I consider
this cheating. I deleted her from his msn
messenger, I deleted her from his myspace
I even wrote her an email and asked her to
stay away from him. Suprisingly it wasnt
even horribly mean.
I wanted to call her horrible names. I
just couldnt, and still cant, seem to
realize his thought process. He says he
knew it was wrong. If thats so why did he
proceed to masturbate to the picture
instead of deleting it? I dont know what
to do. I dont want to leave him, I dont
want to stay. Please help me. Any advise
will do. I'm seriously hurt by this and
it's not like I never said anything about
cheating before. I was very stern and
repetitiously advised him of my zero
tolerence towards that behavior. We have
a baby but i'm finding myself very
unwilling to compromise. I'm so hurt.
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w0rldd0minat0r
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Feb 2006 Posts: 238
Posted: 06-06-06 10:59am
I'm not sure tbh... Us guys can be like
that the steps u've made are good just
make sure he doesn't get in contact with
her... Ummm.... This is a hard one to
give advice about... How old are you 2
btw?
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w0rldd0minat0r
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Feb 2006 Posts: 238
Posted: 06-06-06 11:01am
(the baby has to be the number one
priority... Just make sure that is was a
one-off and try to put this behind you ...
It's hardly like there meeting and make
sure it stays that way... Be cautious for
a while but dont get too paranoid about
this...)
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orange_rae
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Jun 2006 Posts: 4 Location: Idaho
Posted: 06-06-06 20:37pm
I'm 21 yrs old. It's easy for you to say
put it behind you but you're a guy and i'm
not so sure men have the same definition
for cheating. This is cheating to me. It
broke me.
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w0rldd0minat0r
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Feb 2006 Posts: 238
Posted: 06-07-06 17:40pm
No I can see how this is cheating... I
dont have time to post tonight but I will
get back to you... Chin up for the time
being eh :)
edit: the main problem is that I dont want
to give radical life changing advice tbh
because I dont really know too much about
this... I guess what you should do is
what feels right for you... As I say i'll
think about it and get back to you....
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w0rldd0minat0r
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Feb 2006 Posts: 238
Posted: 06-08-06 10:55am
Well ive reread your post... And I really
feel for you...
Life seems almost impossibly difficult
it seems like you really need some support
that your not getting from your boyfriend
and now hes gone and done this....
What i'd do if I was you is talk to a
councellor to start and try and talk
through your feelings and they can help
you think about ways of working through
your problems and help you with what to
do... And help give u more motivation and
energy to be able to do the every day
things and more to make you and your
babies life better...
Its just a suggestion but I believe that
could be the way forward in this
