I say fill a soda bottle with water or juice and give it to him and insist that its soda then maybe hell get over it if not your the mom and u need to lay down the law if hes thirsty hell take what u give him

I have tried filling a soda bottle with something else and he knows the diffrence and throws it down and I have also tried giving him something else to drink in one of his cups and he throws it down, sometimes he will even take the lids off and throw the drink all over the place.

I put my foot down and tell him no your not getting soda because it is bad for you and he just gets more angry

Honestly you have to show ur kids whos boss and discpline him, even if he cries let him, I apply a three time rule and then give my daughter a time out, I hold her down or I put her in her room and let her cry it out. You need to understand that a kid will cry itself into exhaustion. I know its trying im taking care of two kids on my own these weekend cause my hubby is gone for the weekend and elisa (23 months) is pushing me to my limits. If you cant deal with the crying put him in his crib and go outside for 10 mins check up on him and go back outside thats the best way, once he goes to bed relaz talk to friends or have a good beer.

I will never give pop to my kids, my hubby has but my daughter rarely gets it, I have been making smoothies for my daughter and she loves it try that. Like macymama said change it too juice half water half juice if he doesnt take well to bad for him he shouldnt be having pop so stick to ur guns hun.

Parenting has never been easy but we actually have till a certain age to make them understand, my daughter had 8 tantrums today im almost at wits end so I understand but you just manage

good luck

I can not put him in his room because he does not have one, my parents are in the process of building it and he has a thomas the tank bed which he can climb in and out of.


Even if he had his own room and I locked him in it my parents would go off on me, they just went off on me for me letting him throw a tantrum. They think it was wrong of me and they think I should just give in everytime he wants something.


My parents are turning him nto a spoiled brat. They give him everything and they are the ones who started this whole soda thing.

You should see our house it is more like a daycare because my om is always buying my son more and more toys and he does not even play with really any of them he just throws them around and who gets stuick cleaning up all these toys,,me and if I do not my mom throws a fit over it.


I told my mom once that if she wants to buy him all these toys then she should clean them up not me and she said the hell I will he is your son and your responsibility.

Okay sorry if I seem abit harsh here

hes ur son if ur responsible for him so put ur parents in there spot, you need to understand that he will run to ur parents if they keep on acting like that a kid should have a tantrum and should understand what they are doing wrong but in this case your parents as well as yourself are to blame.

Im not perfect I make mistakes too im trying to gte my daughter out of that spoiled behaviour and its finally starting to work but it takes patience and alot of discipline from you tough love. My husbands family kept interfering and I told them to back off because elisa and cam are my children I have nothing wrong with them spoiling my daughter but I requested that they ask my permission first.

Honestly buy the book what to expect the toddler years its a great book, put your mommy shoes on and start doing what needs to be done honestly if I hadnt intervened with my husband my daughter may have been in ur sons position right now but I dealt with because that is my responsibility. Im really not trying to be mean im trying to help but you need to understand that u are the parent and you are the person who has power over your son not the grandparents. How old are you? Im 22 I got pregnant in my teens as well but even then I will never let ppl walk all over me anymore im just sick of it be strong.

I am 19.

I have tried sitting down with both of my parents numerous times and talking to them about letting me deal with him and to not spoil him and it just goes in one ear and out the other. They do not give a damn what I think.

My mom has now got him into going outside all the time since it is now warm out and yes a child should be out a couple hours a day but she has him to where he wants to go out all day long and he can not do that because I have things to do around the house and when it is really hot out like say 90 degrees he should not be out long because it is not good for him.

I told her a few weeks ago I am taking him off bottles and I put them away and I go away for a weekend and come back and here the bottles are out again and my son is dribking one of them. I got angry and asked what the deal was and she said he needs bottles and I told her his teeth were going to end up getting ruined and she said no they were not and I was an fool and she had 3 kids and new what she was talking about.

Then be more intense all im trying to say is that if something happened to u kid you are to blame even if your parents do it, honestly sit them down and tell them that if they dont listen to you they cant see him and you will find care for him somewhere else. I know what ur going throgh you want an answer but at the same time you need to stop making excuses if you have to get family counseling like I said parenting isnt easu but if you have for your sons sake move sometimes the answers are right there. None of us have the same parenting views but what I understand is your parents arent respecting your will do you know how much trouble that will cause my grandparents did it with me I use to run away and live with them. My grandparents let me smoke when I wish they would have said no they bought me smokes at 13 and let me drink I probally would not have had such a troubled youth if they had been a bit stricter. My mother respect my wishes but I told her if she did something really bad she would not see her grandchildren!!!



I used to steal money off them 100$ at a time I was drugs at 11 sad eh and they never said boo even if I told them I did it as to my parents the pressed charges against me and I went to jail. You need to put ur foot down now im only writing this cause if my parent never intervend I may not have been able to say I succeeded instead I would have been living on the streets still. I know this is alot to take in but I think their is a bigger issue that going on!!


btw my names jess

Please persuvire (sp?) and ban soda. My mother gives me lil 5 year old sis coca cola all the time and it sends her hyper and I swear her teeth are gonna be rotten soon.

She even makes up still at night for coca cola - and she's 5! She's addicted to it

If things are that bad then honey maybe you need to move. They (your parents) should respect the fact that you are the mother in this situation. I would pull the same stuff you said your mom pulls on you about picking up his toys. She told you that he's your son and you need to pick up his toys so next time she said something I would tell her, "he's my son, remember?".

I am going to work on not giving him soda anymore and hopefully my parents will not either. I know his teeth are going to get ruined if he keeps doing it which is why I really want to stop it along with how hyper he gets.

It seems like since starting to drink soda he never takes a nap anymore. He use to nap from about 12-2 and now since drinking soda he does not get tired at all so he is awake from 10:30 in the morning to about 10:30 at night and sometimes later, to me that is just to many hours for him. Other people I know with children my sons age all take naps.


I may end up moving out in the fall with my best friend. I am working on getting another job now, I just put in an app at walmart so I am keeping my fingers crossed.


I just can not do this anymore. Me and my parents and even my sisters are constantly arguing how I take care of him and every little thing that happens my little sisters run and tell our parents like their little five year olds and then my parents get all pissed at me.

For example my son was playing out on the back porch last weekend and he tripped and blood started coming out of his nose but he was fine, not screaming or anything and it only bled for a bit but of course my tattle tail sisters ran down and got my mom and then my mom says that I am not going to be happy till something very bad happens to him, every time something happens that is her comment. When she said that comment when he busted his nose open I ran to my room in tears and I just wanted to bad to just slap my mother across her damn face for saying it. Another example is not to long after I created this topic my older sister came out and grabbed my son and went down to my parents complaining.


It is like sometimes my parents have multiple personalities like when my son is with them and he falls and hits his head or hurts himself my dad is like kids fall it is no big deal you guys fell all the time when you were kids but yet when he falls or gets hurt with me my dad says it is ridiculous and me and my sisters never got hurt when we were little. I know we got hurt when we were little because I was constantly busting my head open as a kid. Also they can be the nicest people in the world one minute and the next be complete terror

I would just tell them that you are thankful for their help but that you are his mommy and you will lay diwn the rules.

Hey chrissy I think thats the best thing you can do for your son, my daughter sleeps at least 12 hrs a day including naps and I think without that me time I would go nuts too. Your parents are hypocrits sorry if I seem abit harsh but they should know better, all I can say is all the more power to you for doing something about it even though its not now start making changes.

Honestly if my parents ever did what urs are doing they would never hear the end of it and my child wouldnt be able to go their house unsupervised. Hope u get that job kudos!!

I didn't read all the replies because i'm lazy, so this might have already been delt with. But I wanted to say what I would do if I was dealing with that. I would let him cry it out without me caving, and by that he'ld see that crying isn't going to get him what he wants. If you cave when he throws a tanrum it'll teach him that it works for him, and won't have any reason to stop throwing them. If he doesn't have a bedroom why not put him in the bathroom for a time out when he's throwing a tantrum?

Diamondsz if I did not live with my parents I probably would not allow them to see him till they shaped up and got it threw thier heads that he is my child and what I say goes.

Tanya when kids throw a tantrum it is so hard to not give in and the first couple times I was weak and gave in but now when he is throwing a tantrum I am putting on my headset so I can not hear him.

I agree if you give into kids even just once they will think that you will give into everything everytime they throw a tantrum.

Chrissy, you need to move. If only for your own piece of mind and to establish your own parenting skills.

You live with your parents, you are their child. Your child is their grandchild. Obviously ;) but they feel like it is all their responsibility. Your development and, ultimately, your son's development. Even though you are his mother, your parents are in the mix too. Feeling just as responsible as grandparents as they do being your parent. (i'm not saying what they are doing is right, i'm merely giving ideas as to why they are doing what they do.)

if you go away for the weekend and leave your son with them, what do you expect? I had loads of fun at my grandma's house. She let me have as much ice cream as I wanted and I got to stay up and get my way every time! But I didn't live with them. That was only a treat or a special occassion kind of thing. Not an every day all day occurance.

If you don't want your son to have pop, then say no. Mean no and make it no every single time. Not just for right now. But for every time. My nephew is clinically obese at age 4 because his own mother cannot say no. She says he gets into the fridge on his own and her parents always give him pop whenever he wants it. As the parent it is your responsibility to make the rules and stick to them. Just as diamondz said. You are the parent. You be the parent.

Of course everyone will rebel at first. From your son having tantrums to your parents having their own tantrums. But if you want things to change, you be strong and change them.

Good luck ;) (i know all about this. I lived with my inlaws when I had my baby at 16. It was not a pretty picture!)

Hi chrissy! I agree, I think you should try your hardest to be in a better financial position so you can move out .A.S.A.P. Thats awful what seems to be going on right now, and its very sad your son's in that situation too, with everyone arguing around him, and making him spoiled. He wont respect you or anyone if that goes on much longer, he'll think hes in charge he gets his way with everything cos of your parents. They're older, they should a more responsible helping you, not causing this b/s. You dont need that stress either.

With the soda thing, my sisters daughter got addicted to that stuff too. She knew it was unhealthy etc so she started filling half the cup with soda and half with water. Slowly reduce amount of soda further and add more water instead. He'll be off it in no time. Hes too young to understand when you say 'no its bad for u'. And its unfair to refuse giving it to him, if your parents are still going to. He wont understand so yeh he'll get upset/angry/frustrated poor thing. Your parents need to agree to do that aswell though, or it wont work.

Damn im so mad at your parents! Lol goodluck!

Luv, I feel for you. My sister was forced to move back home because of her boyfriend leaving her when he found out she was preggers. She went crazy and she did move out and has become the parent of her son. But she went thru the same things before she did move out. I dont' know your finacial situation or anything like that but I think it best for you to move out. I dont' belive that just because you are the mother that this is going to change. You may say this to your parents but as long as you are living under their roof it's not going to chnage. You know?????

I would advise you to work digilantly and save save save, and move out. Also you mentioned no more bottles and then you went away for the weekend and when you came back....He was on the bottle again that is something that you could have controled if you had been there. So maybe no more weekend's away unless you can maybe get a sitter or some one you know to watch the little guy that will follow your rules. You can controle the situation a little better....You just have to try....And be a little stricter with your 'rents'

Have you tried maybe pour half soda out then add water and just keep adding more and more as time goes by he will not want it at all. My freind had same prob when she lived w/her parents at 19 with a baby they too spoiled her rotten and she was a huge brat but that is what my freind did and within a week little one never wanted pop again. :lol: