Just Blowing Off Steam... Posted: 01-11-04 21:43pm
I've been with my b/f for over a year now.
We are really serious and plan on getting
married in the future. A couple weeks ago
he got into a fight with his friends about
the lack of time he spends with them and
that he spends too much time with me. His
mom agrees. The thing is that he's really
all I have... He's my best friend,
because I don't really have one. I don't
have anyone to go to the movies with or
the mall with. My supposedly "best
friend" always hurts me, and my other
friend is with her b/f on days that she is
free. So on days that i'm free, I want to
be with my b/f. We hardly ever get in
fights or arguments, no we are like
everyday almost. It seems like he has
changed because of this fight he had with
his friend. He seems scared to get him
mad, but doesn't seem to care if I get
pushed aside, even though he says that i'm
still his number one priority, I just
can't see or feel that I am. Today I
found out that his spring break from
school is a different week than mine.
Before we found this out we agreed to
spend my spring break on vacation. Now,
he doesn't know if we are. After all the
reservations and information I did... I
even asked him "what if your break is
differnet than mine?" he said that he'd
just not go to school those days. Now
he's like, "it depends on id I have tests
or not." he was talking to another one of
his friends, telling him of our vacation
plans, then his friend said, that sounds
cool. Can I have some info about it?...
Inplying that he wanted to go with his
g/f. My b/f was going to have them come
up with us at the same time but different
cars. I got angry because this was
supposed to be our vacation, we shouldn't
be sharing it. He said that he wouldn't
be hanging with his friend or anyhting. I
highly doubted that. There has just been
so much that my b/f has done lately that
have just hurt me. I don't understand it
at all.....
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sparklypixie12
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Sep 2003 Posts: 3099
Posted: 01-19-04 17:07pm
Hey there,
im guessing ur about 16.Am I right? How
olds ur boyfriend?
I think the problem is that u both need 2
have some of ur own free time 2 do the
things u like.Dont u like time just 2 sit
around,listening 2 music,watching films or
reading magazines? Cos we all need r own
time. Maybe u shud put more effort in2 ur
friendships so that when ur not with ur
boyfriend,u can b with friends & do
all ur girly stuff! Its not good 4 you to
have limited yourself by distancing
yourself from ur friends.
I think ur boyfriend is suffering from
male pride when he pushes u aside,he
doesnt want 2 admit 2 his friends that
he's in love.
Its ashame that ur holiday is different
from ur boyfriends but,im sure theres not
much he can do about that.
I think u really need 2 sit down &
have a long talk with him because i'd b
pretty mad if my boyfriend invited some1
on r holiday without asking me first! U
really need 2 tell him how u feel because
if u plan 2 get married,u will need 2 b
able to b truthful with each other about
how u feel.
Best wishes & good luck & if u
want 2 talk,pm me
liz :d
p.S. I am 18, my boyfriends 21 &
we've been 2gether 2.9yrs & we plan 2
marry in a few years.
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bd1012
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 May 2004 Posts: 1998
Posted: 07-20-04 14:44pm
I have the same problem, or used to. My
bf is my best friend and everything I have
and basically I would do everything to
make sure that we are always together.
Anyway, one thing that pissed me off is
that my stepmom and dad thought I was too
codependent on him and actually had the
nerve to say they would seperate us if we
didn't do it ourselves! If either of
them ever say it again to my face, they
better hope he is there to pull me off
them. No one ever threatens to seperate
me from my world without serious
consequences again! I don't care who
they are, they will regret it whether they
are my parents or even god himself!! They
actually think that it is the olden days
where parents had a say in who their kids
married. My bf asks no one but me
whether or not we get married and that is
it. It is up to them whether they come
or not. Not even god if he exists has a
say, let alone my parents or anyone else
for that matter.
Anyway as I was saying, I am the same way
and I understand that for some people, a
husband is more than a quaranteed lay
every once in a while. I mean what do
they think that husbands are for if not to
be your friend and someone to love? I
seriously think that they believe spouses
are meant for a quaranteed lay every once
in a while and procreation and that's it.
I am not kidding, based on what they told
me and the lives they have led so far all
the proof points towards my above
statement.
