Hi I am 24 and have had 3 abortions..I am financially stable, some would say 'well off" I own my own business and my soon to be husband is also very stable.

I never want kids, I just do not, it is a personal choice and one that I have happily made. My birth control failed me, and I had 3 abortions due to 3 failures.

I am not staying pregnant and warping my body, and I am not having a baby to 'parent', as I said before I do not want kids.

It was an easy decision made with no regrets.

I decided on abortion because of several reasons.
Firstly, I was at university in my final year, I was enjoying my degree and did not wish to take a year out as I was/am very career orientated.

Our means of support would have been through myself and my partners parents (being students) and we did not/do not want to be reliant on anyone on anyone other than ourselves when/if we have children.

It was accidental, I was on the pill and it failed.

I was also taking some medication which may (or may not) have affected the fetus.

All in all, I didn't want to be pregnant or have a child at that time in my life so it was the best option for me.

i found out I was pregnant when I was 19, a sophmore in college, and broke beyond all belief. I didn't even have a checking account at that time because I was not able to keep the minimum amount that they required in the account. I was working two minimum wage jobs ($5.15 an hour) and "borrowing" food from my parents pantry. If I hadn't worked for a bakery as one of my jobs, I and some of my roomates at the time would have gone hungry far more than we did. All I ate was bread and cheap pasta. I was gaining weight because of all of the carbohydrates and yet starting to lose my hair, have dark circles under my eyes, and have odd colored nails because I was quickly becoming malnourished. My mom paid for my birth control pills because $32 a month would have meant going hungry for two weeks and we were also relying on condoms lubricated with spermicide.

My entire life was screaming that I could not even hope to maintain a healthy pregnancy at that time.


My options were to give up, move back home with my parents, and have them support not only me but also the pregnancy and then the resulting child. Something they had had to do with both of my older sisters who became pregnant in highschool. When my sisters lived with my parents while they had their children, they all fought constantly and neither of my sisters ever returned to college or even went on to further their education in another location. They both still make less than $10 an hour at their dead end jobs and their children do not have even the same opportunities that they had. I didn't want that for myself or for any child that I may have. I didn't want my parents to be disappointed yet again when they had made so many sacrifices to get me to college to begin with.


My boyfriend (now my husband) was a little hesitant about abortion though. He thought that if he dropped out of college, that he could work, support us, and still make enough to let me continue with my education. Because of his optimism, we sat down and tried to logically figure out how much money he would have to make for that to be possible. With only a highschool diploma, he would not have been able to find any work to pay him enough for us to have a child. The only option at that point would have been for us both to quit school and start working full time, thus ending up like my sisters and their husbands. I didn't want that for him or for any child that we might have.


So, together we decided that an abortion was the best option for us. I made an appointment with my doctor to confirm the pregnancy and give me a referral. A few days before my appointment, I began experiencing odd pains and symptoms. I told my doctor about these right away because they didn't feel right. Based on my descriptions, my doctor ordered a sonogram (which I actually tried to decline, telling him I couldn't afford it) and discovered that the pregnancy was ectopic.

He ordered me directly to a hospital who would perform the procedure of removing this pregnancy that now threatened my health and life. While the procedure is technically called something else, it was an abortion. It ended my pregnancy by removing an implanted fetus.

I chose an abortion for myself, because it's what I wanted to try and get my life further on a track I was struggling to maintain. I chose an abortion for my boyfriend (now my husband) because I could not let him sacrifice all he had ever wanted (he was the first in his family to go to college). I chose an abortion for our future family, by giving us more time to secure our educations we are in a better position to fully support ourselves and any children we may have. I chose an abortion for my own family who had already bravely supported two daughters with unplanned pregnancies and were looking forward to a new retirement house. I chose an abortion because I believed that I could and I believed that it would be beneficial. And, I would choose to have an abortion again under similar circumstances.


My abortion was a positive experience and a decision that I knew, at the time and even today, was the best choice that could have been made.

Im in a relationship and am 27 next week but I also had an abortion in feb this year. My partner owns his own business which is prospering well which was one factor he gave as to why he couldnt have a child at the moment. I desperatly wanted the baby but knew I couldnt give it everything it deserved, a stable home and family and I know how much it costs to have a child so with a heavy heart I termintated. I thought it was for the best but in hindsight I now see (without all the pregnancy hormone induced emotional mess I was) that I could have had my baby, yes it might not have lived in a huge house with its own pony but god damn it would have had an abundance of love which is more that what some babies born nowadays dont have..... So babsically im saying im a stupid person who possibly listened to everyone else instead of herself and everyday I wake up aching to hold my baby which I know deep down will never ever happen. Everyone has their reasons for having a termination but for my it was the wrong decision.

i'm sorry that happened to you... I hope that everyone who feels regret after their abortions will be able to move on, learn from the experience; hopefully some day you'll be in a better position to have a baby! I think you should probably seriously discuss your feelings with your partner if you haven't already. I didn't have a huge house and a pony either, lol. But I was surrounded by love, and I had enough food, and that's what matters. If you can care totally for a child and give it what it needs, then perhaps just a little more discussion is needed between you and your partner, to plan a time to have a child that you can both care for :)

in the mean time, there are a couple of websites devoted to shrines for abortions, and perhaps you could have a charm bracelet made or something. I heard of a girl on here who named her aborted fetus, and I thought that was sweet!

Thanks for ur msg, I named the baby george because my partner liked the name for a girl (georgie) and I liked it for a boy (george). Ive got the name tatood on the bottom of my back in chinese letters so I know my baby's with me for life in one way. Neither of us were planning a baby we were happily ploding along, and I even had the morning after pill I guess it either didnt work or I sneakily got sold a mint!!!!! We've disscussed children now because of what happened and we have come to a time frame of startiing to try next year. Fingers crossed. Thanks again it really helps when people reply positively... Im talking to a a girl on here who has been called something which is horrific especially after what she has been through and she is a fanatastic person who just happened to fall pregnant at the wrong time in her life, just like me. So I would like to take this oportunity to remind everyone that unless you have been through this yourself please think "if you cant say anything nice and supportive dont say anything at all"!!!! Your comments are harmfull..Hugs to all who need them xxx

[quote="lissy79"]im in a relationship and am 27 next week but I also had an abortion in feb this year. My partner owns his own business which is prospering well which was one factor he gave as to why he couldnt have a child at the moment. I desperatly wanted the baby but knew I couldnt give it everything it deserved, a stable home and family and I know how much it costs to have a child so with a heavy heart I termintated. I thought it was for the best but in hindsight I now see (without all the pregnancy hormone induced emotional mess I was) that I could have had my baby, yes it might not have lived in a huge house with its own pony but god damn it would have had an abundance of love which is more that what some babies born nowadays dont have..... So babsically im saying im a stupid person who possibly listened to everyone else instead of herself and everyday I wake up aching to hold my baby which I know deep down will never ever happen. Everyone has their reasons for having a termination but for my it was the wrong decision.

I understand you, I had an abortion at the age of 29 I was okay in the finance dept..And my boyfriend at the time was also okay however he had a child who he did not spend much time with..In the three months that we knew each other. I never thought that I would of been able to have an abortion I always thougth I could handle the whole situation..However when happens to you, it all different,i didn't think I reacted stupidly..I regret my decison, but I want to give the child the best he or she could have and not being married and not knowing that I was going to fall in love with guy..It all ended up a mess because of the constant pain.. The guy I was seeing didn't understand my pain..He began to think I was crazy..For having all these emotions..Our realtionship ended and I now have more anger towards him for being in a healthly realtionship and I am just lost..I have gone to support groups . It helps but the pain and regret is still there

I had an abortion because.
1)we both were not ready
2)we were not financially ready
3)we wanted to be older
4)we wanted to be married
5)i wanted an education first
6)it is not in my nature to be a stay at home mum.
7)my pregnancy was a horrible, I was violently sick all the time and nothin could stay past my lips. Including water. Just the smell of food make me yack.
8)both our parents didnt want to be grandparents yet.
There we go.