I honestly did not want children, my pregnancy was an axcident. I was 16 when I met this guy in the air force who seemed like the nicest guy in the world and he claimed he could not have kids and stupidly I beleived him and three months later I was pregnant and he wa sin military prison.

I was so upset because here I was pregnant when I never even wanted children and then here the dad was now in jail and denying my son. The air force told me he was perfectly able to have kids but he still denied he could so I was going to be a single mom to a kid I did not really want.

I thought very deep about adoption but my family made me feel horrible about it, especially my mom, she broke into tears when I mentioned it. I started researching adoption and found that many kids are killed each year by thier adoptive parents which is what made me decide to keep him. I was to afraid he would go to the wrong people and would get hurt.

My pregnancy was an accident, after the contraception we used didn't work... My boyfriend of 4 years wanted me to get an abortion and I refused, so he left me. I considered adoption very seriously, I didn't want my child to have a miserable life, and if I couldn't provide for it then I wanted to give someone else the chance to have a child, and give it the life I couldn't.

But then I went for my scan and I realised it would be too hard for me to give up that little baba growing inside me.. And the father recently came round to the idea of being a daddy... So now i'm excited about the birth and I think we can really make it work, and raise this baby in a stable environment.

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I think its really fuc*ed up how I will open up the classifieds in the newspaper and under help wanted they have looking for foster parents will pay $$$. What kind of people do they think those adds appeal to? And having been in group homes in my life and meeting children that were tossed around from one abbusive foster family to the next really worries me. I have heard good stories about certain kinds of adoption, where you can still be involved in the babies life. You get to pick the family that adopts the baby and meet them and they pay for the birth and when the baby is born you still get to spend time with your child.

I knew I wanted the baby right away, I could never give it up and im not in a position where it is impossible for me to take care of the baby.


Chrissy- why was he in jail? You should do a paternity test just so that problem can be reasured in the future the next time he trys to pull that that he can make babies!

My mom admited to me I was made the same way.. My dad told her he couldnt have kids and within 5 months I was in her belly!

I think open adoption is a good idea if you feel you cant support your baby or cope etc, but you still want to be in his/her life, see them from time to time and make sure they are ok. That way you can make sure they're happy and safe etc with the adoptive parents. And the baby grows up knowing you're his birth mother, its not a big mystery or secret.

My ex boyfriend left me because he didnt want to be a dad yet (even tho he was in his 20s not a teen). Tried to force me to get an abortion, but I dont agree with those. I kept my son, im raising him without his fathers support, its hard work, some days tougher than others, but I love him to bits and hes changing me in so many ways. Hes my angel =) im glad I kept him. Its best to try at least, because it might not be as bad as you thought.

I don't get how anyone can not want to be part of their child's life. Like don't you just think he must lay awake at night wondering about his little boy? I could never imagine doing that, even if I placed a child up for adoption, i'ld be constantly thinking and the baby and worrying about if it was the right choice. Some guys geez.

That is what birth mothers do. They stay up all night and worry if the decision they made was the right one. But I can tell you this, my husband is adopted and he doesn't regret one single solitary day of it. In fact, if he were to ever meet his birth mom (she was 16 when she selflessly gave him away, by the way!), he would tell her she made the best decision for his life she could have ever made!

My mother also gave a child up for adoption. So i've seen this from both ends of the spectrum. And, as an adult, my sister came and found us. She is also happy she was adopted and thanked my mom numerous times for giving her the family she has.