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Q: Possibly Pregnant With An Exboyfriend..fun

asked by: Lisebabe23 on May 30th, 2006

New User

So i've gotten myself into a very horrible situation...And i'm going to try and say this as eloquently and as to-the-point as I can make it...So bare with me...

My long-term boyfriend justin and I had been trying to have sex for about 2 weeks at the end of april.
I say 'trying' because I am incredibly pain intolerant, which doesn't help with the whole penis-vagina thing...
So basically, we would always have to stop before he'd cum because i'd be in excruciating pain. I realize there's a slim to none chance of getting pregnant this way, but there was no protection, and I know my body pretty well, so there's got to be a logical explanation for this...

We broke up 2 weeks ago, due to a misunderstanding on his part, but since then, we had still stayed close even though we weren't dating. We got a little closer, in my opinion, and I thought we might even try to work things out, but he said he didn't want to be with anyone just yet.

After a while, he finally told me he felt too hurt from the break-up(because he has emotional/physical abuse issues with his mother, and those memories were somehow brought up by the break up) and he didn't want to be around me anymore.
So he talked to his parents/friends/anyone who would listen about it and now everyone is convinced i'm evil and horrible just because he can't deal with me being around.

So the fun part happened this weekend!

I was randomly joking around with one of my guy friends about me being pregnant, and he sort of laughed it off and said, "well, when was your last period little missy?" and then it hit me. I couldn't even remember when my last period was, which means it was definitely more than a month ago. I told him the last time I remember having one was in mid-april, right before me and justin were having sex...And we both sort of sat there in a wonderful mix of shock and complete disbelief....

So now i'm getting a pregnacy test this weekend, and only a select few of my friends know about any of this...But I have no one to talk to really.

Since I can't have contact with justin, i'm completely torn on what I should do...I mean, i'd want to know if there was a chance my ex girlfriend was pregnant...But I don't want to put more stress on him than he already has...

Can someone please help? I just don't know what I should do or who I should talk to or even if I should be worrying...

So please, if anyone could just talk to me, it'd be wonderful...

<3

Replies(7)

oh_mommy

replied on May 31st, 2006

Supporter

Its perfectly normal to be worried hun.. What I would do in that siduation is take the test and tell him if I was, theres no use in worring him about it to if your not... Are your periods even regular?

kissofangel20

replied on May 31st, 2006

Experienced User

My main concern is why your having pain during sex......That's shouldn't be a painful experiance. Have you had yourself checked cause some std's will cause the pain. You need to go to your Dr...Have the blood test for preg. Done and then have yourself checked to see why sex hurts you. If it is neg. Get on some bc and next time make sure he puts the hood on his soilder. But you need to find out why it is hurting like that...There could be a huge problem.

DylanJacob

replied on May 31st, 2006

Experienced User

Some people do have pain yes, but not as muc as you described, i'd get it checked out hun...

And also - yeah well, just chill and take a test and let us know how it goes. Good luck. =)

linuxChique

replied on May 31st, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

Just test. There is better than a "slim-to-none" chance that sex with no protection and pulling out can lead to pregnancy. We've seen it over and over again. You're right to be worried, but only a test will tell. Let us know when you get the results.

Sunflower_pie81

replied on May 31st, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

I agree with the other posters, there is no reason to stress your ex out anymore than he already is without knowing for sure if your pregnant. Apparently he isn't too stable and you don't want to send him over the edge before you know because if you hit him right now with 'i think I am preggers' he may just crash because of his emotional problems. Just relax til the week end and take the test and if it a -ative test there is no need to bother him.

As far and the pain your having you may need to go see your obgyn because that much pain (as you described) isn't normal. If you don't have an std, then your muscles may be too tight and they may have to give you some excersizes to help loosen this up. But there may be other things that may cause problems that would cause so much pain.

Lisebabe23

replied on June 2nd, 2006

New User

Well, I took a test and it says i'm not pregnant, but my obgyn says it still may be too soon to tell...So even tho the test says it's negative, the answer may still be positive....

Which, I must say, sucks.
Lol
there's no other way to put it.
It just sucks.

so now I have to wait a few weeks to see if I still feel any symptoms...Or if I start my period...So, this week should be much fun...

Thanks for the feedback guys!!
You're great...
^_^

<3

Mabel

replied on June 2nd, 2006

Moderator

lisebabe23 wrote:

well, I took a test and it says i'm not pregnant, but my obgyn says it still may be too soon to tell...So even tho the test says it's negative, the answer may still be positive....

Which, I must say, sucks.
Lol
there's no other way to put it.

It just sucks.

so now I have to wait a few weeks to see if I still feel any symptoms...Or if I start my period...So, this week should be much fun...

Thanks for the feedback guys!!

You're great...

^_^

<3

your gyno didn't do a blood test? Weird. Since that would be a definitive answer right now as to whether or not you are pregnant. And if you had sex the last two weeks of april, then even a urine pregnancy test should have come up positive by now.

I wouldn't wait a few weeks for symptoms, i'd get a blood test!

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