I dont regret it I love the baby alot! I just need to get my act together and stop being depressed. Luckily I still have the baby dady with me, he already has a daughter that he had when he was 16 and she will be 2 in october. Once I get another job (i got my stupid ass fired) and he gets a better job and we get the hell out of our houses I think we will be okay... I hope =0). Of course it is diffrent for someone who is 19.. And then 16. Im sure its hard to find a fulltime decent paying job so young.. But you can do anything if you really try.

Ok this is kinda off the point but then kinda not. Has anyone here seen pay it forward....And if not I wish you would. I like the idea of the movie.....Your life might not be what you expect or want.......But there is always a chance to help someone else no matter what is going on in your own life.

I know it seems hard right now...But god has plans for us all...And some have tougher roads to go than others. I wish you the best of luck and hope it does work out for you in the end.

This is an old topic but anyway....I dont regret having my son, or being a teen parent, im enjoying it right now and my son is doing well. The thing I regret, is getting with the guy who got me pregnant. If I could go back, i'd have waited to meet a better guy. I feel sorry for my son that hes never going to know his real father. I didnt give it much thought when I was pregnant, but now when I see kids with their dads, I do feel bad about it. Sometimes I feel like getting in contact with him, but I know he would bring a lot of trouble for us. Its like should i, shouldnt i? Type thing =/

Confused :(

Taking care of your neice &taking care of your own child are two very different things. Honey, you do not need a child right now. You're only 16. You have so much life ahead of you. Finishing high school, riding out the remainder of your teen years.. Prom, movies, friends, sleepovers, just driving around, staying out all night in the summer.. You won't be able to do any of that if you have a baby. If you really want one that bad, wait until you're at least out of high school. &.If you're still with your boyfriend, then... Then you can consider it. But don't have a baby just because you see other girls who have one &you want one, too. I'm guessing you still live with your parents, &.I don't know you, but .I'm also going to guess you don't have a job since you're only 16. What would your parents think of having to support your child? Just think about it. It isn't all fun &games.

Good luck.

Oopps....Lol...I posted here instead of anther post...Lol...Sorry.

I can help but to feel anguish sometimes to girls that think they want a baby? I am not here to judge you hun...You told me you can take care of a baby? Well if you say so then no question with that but here are the other questions? If you had a baby right now, are you sure your bf will get married soon and he won't leave you for the rest of your life? He will probably tell you he's going to stay but you both I believe are still very young to conclude everything that will happen in the future? What if your bf left you? Will you raise a child alone and w/o a father? Second question, do you have work or enough money to raise your child, to buy all his/her needs, to provide everything from diapers and milk until his tuition and allowance when he/she grows up? If you doubt or you say "no" then you are just want of those people who are wasting their lives and wasting the lives of their kids at the same time...Sorry for the word honey...Another question? Are you willing or can you bear making your parents disappointed at you for being pregnant? Is it okay to you not to experience all the fun and good stuffs of being a teen including parties, going to the malls, concerts etc. And you mature enough to raise a kid or a child? Do you think you can provide him/her a good life w/o hassle and will be able to show a good example...Honey a kids life doesn't stop when he/she is a baby...So being able to take care of a baby really doesn't count...The harder stuff will still follow...Are you capable of handling that? If you answer no or you doubt with any of these questions then I beg you ...Please do not consider having a kid anymore...Not just because of your sake...But for the sake of the future kid...

that movie was on tv tonight. I didn't watch it but i've seen it before. It's good.

Yes it is....I always wind up crying all over the place at the end....My husband hates it when I watch that movie.

When all my friends are partying and doing drugs and being irresponsible part of me wishes that I could still be doing those things with them.
So just make sure you are ready to give that stuff up, because I don't feel like I was, but I know when my baby comes it'll all make it all worth it. But why not experience everything you want to first while you have no one to worry about besides yourself. I went to visit my sister at university last march and even though i'll be going to university it won't be the same experience as it is for her. She gets to do the whole party thing and the school and just have fun at the same time. When I get there i'll be doing the work then taking care of a kid. So I will never really experience it the way she is and it looked so great when I was visiting. If anyone is reading this and considering having a baby just appreciate that you get to be young and irresponsible for a couple more years. After that it's the real world, wait to have a baby until then. Until you experience working and paying bills and being on your own. Not just for yourself but because after that you will be better prepared to meet all of the child's needs.

I think that was very well said tanya.....You made very good points and I have to agree with them......But your also young and know some want what they want when they want it and don't care what anyone has to say.

You are 16 years old and still a child yourself.

How do you plan on taking care of a baby and going to school?
Do you and your boyfriend work and are financially stable to support a child?
Are you prepared to give up everything in life such as hanging with your friends and partying?

The thing is your only 16 and have yet to really experiance life because your still a kid and have to live by your parents rules. What happens when you turn 18 and all your friends are going to clubs and out partying and you are finally free to do what you want?

I have none so many people who wanted kids as teenagers but then once they had one they regretted it. Most but not all teenage mothers end up dropping out of school and some end up on welfare, I am not saying all but some end up like this.

The keyword here is baby which is what you want, have you ever thought this baby is not going to stay a baby for long. They grow up really fast and once that baby is a toddler then what?

Are you prepared to stay of with a screaming baby when it is sick, trust me when they are sick they are a nightmare.

Getting pregnant as a teen is never a good idea and their are hundreds of young moms who commit suicide every year because they thought they could handle it but could not.

To the mod who split this topic up: please select only the replies that have to do with the one you want to split and click "split selected posts" .N.O.T "split from selected posts." this will make sure replies that should stay attached to the original thread do. There are some replies in this topic that should have stayed on the old topic.

well allie,you didn't try to get pregnant on purpose as far as I know.This girl is trying and I think she needs to wait.She probably wont even be with the same guy in a couple of years who knows.And as for you not talking to the father,its probably for the best interest of both you and your son,especially if you think he will only cause trouble.You will find someone one day who your son can call dad : )

lol,well we all know your not stupid so its ok! : )

I agree completely with everyone that is saying not to have a baby. I just turned 17, and I found out 3 month ago that I am pregnant. I have shattered the dreams that I had. My boyfriend of almost 3 years is in a band and that is his dream. I get really jealous because I cant do my dream. Being a teen pregnant I think would be a bad choice for you. You do miss out on alot of things, then you start regretting because you are not able to do the things that your friends are able to do. You get sick during pregnancy so it isnt like you are able to run the town. And you dont want to put the burden on your parents of buying everything. Because that is what happened to me, plus the doc appt. Are not cheap unless you have some medicare or insurance. I am telling you from what I am going through right now, I wouldnt do it. I didnt get pregnant on purpose, and I wish I was more careful. Just think about all the questions people are asking you, they will come into play even before the baby is born. You will worry constantly about if your boyfriend is gonna be there for you. Just live out your life as a teen, maybe you will change your mind.

Good luck.

Hi i'm 20 and had a baby when I was 18 I graduated just about a week after I had my son I fell in love and we decided to try I had a miscarriage with our first pregnancy I don't regret having my son or my daughter who is only 2 1/2 months we're a happy little bunch. The thing I would stress to a teen in the same situation is make sure you can live with the daddy forever things happen and people change taking care of a baby is hard work not to mention expensive the other obvious thing to think about is are you ready to gain weight and not be able to get it off or have a lot of loose skin i'm not saying this happens to everyone but just think about it plus theres other medical issues to think about like :oops: hemorrhoids :evil: sore breasts sleeplessness (even after the baby can sleep all night), and crying for absolutly no good reason and I can't say for sure my pregnancies have anything to do with this but other mothers have said the same that they get sick really easy like our immune systems were weakened a bit

well just remember the diaper changes, every 3 hour feedings, fatigue, tantrums---thats the easy part I would tell you to enjoy your teenage life now!! Go to the parties stay up all night do what teens do now because as soon as you become pregnant all that will change you get tired sick and you will miss the time you had just think about it

Before I begin, this is in no way directed towards anyone who has accidently conceived a child and has decided to keep it. My hat is off to you, ladies. This is directed instead at teenage girls that want to get pregnant on purpose.

I've felt a strong need to have a child since I was 15 years old, so I completely understand the emotion behind it. It's not always "babies are cute, I want one." but please consider a few things. If you do not pay rent, utilities, insurance, and for food, then you're not experienced at how the real world works. And when you're finally in a position to learn what it takes to make it on your own, it won't just be you... It'll be an innocent child who will be directly affected by your decisions, good and bad.

If you live with your parents, and have no immediate plans to move out and support yourself, choosing to become pregnant is selfish. You are subjecting your family to providing not only for you, but for your child as well. Babies are extremely expensive, and it's irresponsible to put that kind of burden on people who have probably put their baby years far behind them.

You should really consider what a pregnancy would mean to everyone involved. You might feel completely ready to handle having a child, but what about the father? Is he ready to be responsible for another human being so early in his life? And if he decides he doesn't want a part of your baby's life, what will you do? There are many single mothers out there who do wonderful jobs, but if you were given a choice, would you honestly choose a father who didn't want your child? Wouldn't you rather have someone that, even if they didn't want you, wanted to be a part of the child's life? Boys mature later than girls, we all know that. As much as he says he loves you, the reality of a pregnancy will probably scare him away.

Your life is going to change so much in the next few years. There is so much more out there than you know. You need to experience life, learn some hard lessons, and meet some great people. You'll be surprised how much you don't know until you look back. Don't let it be with regret. You have plenty of time to have children. The mark of a good mother is putting her child's needs ahead of her own at .A.L.L times... Including before they're even conceived. If you care about them at all, you'll wait until you're better prepared to give them everything they deserve.

yeh mine wasnt a reply to the girl wanting a baby, it was from a way old post she replied to asking if people regrett having their baby at a young age.

Thanx melissa.