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Q: Going Away to College

asked by: lifesanrpg on May 25th, 2006

New User

I recently posted this in the ending a relationship forum, but I think it fits in better here.

O me and this girl we weren't "officially" going out but we spent a lot of time together and people basically said we were together. Anyways, she's leaving for tx on friday and I don't know wat to do. I want to start a relationship but that whole long distance thing seeing as how she'd be in texas and i'd be in florida seems out of the question. I forgot to mention she used to have a long distance relationship and it had a sour end. Now tonight we hung out and I brought up the topic and she repeatedly said "it's not worth it, i'm not worth it" is she just scared/nervous or should I really just give up? She keeps saying "you'll meet other girls in college, I don't want to hold you back"...But the truth is, she is the one I want. I don't want another girl. Idk what to do...Should I give up? And if so how do I get over her?

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Ashleey

replied on July 20th, 2009

New User

I would say just remain friends with her since she does not seem to want this long distance relationship. Maybe she needs some time.....To get over her you have to give other girls a chance. You are starting college and it's likely that you will meet another girl you really like. Just give it a chance. Best of luck.

W0LF

replied on July 20th, 2009

Extremely eHealthy

Four years is a blip in your life. I know feelings are intense now because you're very young. Four years away from one another could give you both some very badly needed perspective. Tell her you love her. Tell her that maintaining a relationship while you're in different states while you're both going through school isn't a good idea. You both need to concentrate on your future. Tell her you won't stop loving her but that you can't be a good boyfriend to her so you need to let her go. Establish together how the friendship will work, if you'll be allowed to visit each other for a while, if you can discuss who you're seeing when you write back and forth. Work on staying friends.

If you were supposed to be together 4 years of college won't stop that. The person I'm dating now is someone I dated in high school. She moved to Texas 20 years ago and we're stronger now that we're adults.

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